Diaper Swappers

Mia276 · 09-05-2008, 11:25 PM

Hey all - DH and I have been TTC on and off for most of this year, and I am really hoping to sway the odds for a girl since this will most likely be my last baby.

I've done a little research and the Shettles method is what makes the most sense to me; now, if only I could figure out exactly what day I ovulate! I happen to also be *blessed* with an irregular cycle(it ran about 42 days last month(!), usually around 30-32 days) Since I'm not completely sure when I O, would it be safe to assume that if we BD starting the day when my AF ends, and do it every other day until the first day of cervical fluid, that I will have a good chance of having a girl since the CM will keep the sperm alive a little longer? Or should we continue maybe until the first day of EWCM? I'm just now really beginning to pay attention to my CM (pretty interesting stuff, lol), but I'm not sure I've got the hang of telling all the different kinds apart yet.

I really have no interest in charting... I have toyed with the idea, but it is complicated by the fact that my toddler is still nursing a little at night; he is nightweaned but he will wake up as early as 5 to nurse, but sometimes not till 6 or 7...so I don't really have a consistent "wake up" time to adhere to, and also I read in the book Taking Charge of your Fertility that charting to TTC a girl is pretty much pointless.

Why or why can't I just have a predictable cycle? :-/
I've got serious baby on the brain and am starting to go a little batty!

Hope that wasn't too rambly. Any advice or shared experiences are very much appreciated in advance. Thanks. :-)

tinyblackdot · 09-05-2008, 11:36 PM

no experience, just wishing you luck!

TwinKristi · 09-05-2008, 11:56 PM

Oh Lord how I would love to have a girl after my 5 boys!! If we TTC again I'll be trying this method too so I hope it works for you!! That means it just might work for me!! Good luck!!!

Mia276 · 09-06-2008, 12:10 AM

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Originally Posted by TwinKristi

Oh Lord how I would love to have a girl after my 5 boys!! If we TTC again I'll be trying this method too so I hope it works for you!! That means it just might work for me!! Good luck!!!

5 boys?! Goodness, you must be one busy mama! Kudos to you, I can barely keep up with my one boy most days!

ephah · 09-06-2008, 01:17 AM

I have three boys and we tried Shettles with #3, but the cutoff point was 2 1/2 days before O day, and, yup, a boy... my cycle is quite unpredictable too. We're just starting to try again and this month I thought I had got it right, but for some reason I miscalculated O day and we did the deed less than 12 hours after I ovulated because I thought we were in the clear! Ooops!!! I'm waiting to test on Sunday morning... so we shall see. The thing is, nothing is fool proof. Not unless you do a PGD... something I'm not willing to go down. So if the next one is a boy, we're going the adoption route...

mommymilk · 09-06-2008, 04:03 AM

I know they say there is a 'science' behind the whole thing...but I really think you just get what you get!

DH and I DTD once last October (

Poor guy!) and it just so happened to be on my O day...we had a girl. This was after having 2 boys.

Good luck! I know that I would have been a bit upset if my daughter would have been a boy, because I really wanted a girl (we were not expecting to get preggers) because I already had 2 crazy boys, but I knew I had no control of what was concieved.

mbreen616 · 09-06-2008, 07:23 AM

I don't know if I would trust any methods on how to sway the odds because if it doesn't work out I wouldn't want to feel disappointed. I am blessed with one of each and will take what I get hoping it is in the form of a healthy child!

Good Luck getting your girls!!! I do think it is just that though...Luck.

In the wise words of my five year old "You get what you get and don't get upset" Of course that is mainly speaking about the color of a popsicle

StaceyS · 09-06-2008, 07:24 AM

Oh goodness! I am in the exact opposite place. I have 5 daughters all born in a row.

Dh really wants a boy (as do I) as my one and only teenage son is from a previous marriage.

I also think you get what you get. We have tried shettles before but only by timing none of the other stuff. We dtd right dead smack on O day and yep, we got another girl (that we love dearly).

I am just giving it to God and trusting Him to pick what we get. I am happy with whatever He chooses to bless us with, but of course, still really want a boy.

GL to you.

xoxCoralxox · 09-06-2008, 09:40 AM

Hummm im not really sure.... i honestly think jsut do it every other night.
cause I honestly believe that the "males" are the best swimmers - girls are the ones who last longer -

soo its more about planning when you ovulate , and since u have a hard time doing it im not sure.... but if you O. 3 days before you have sex im sure the chance of having a girl are MUCH higher....good luck though... im hoping for another girl.... you could also check out chinese calanders ? lol its worked for a few girls in my mom groups

angel0123 · 09-06-2008, 12:03 PM

If you are really serious about a girl please read his book. You do need to chart and record cm. There is also a way to determine what your cut off date is for irregular cycles. Something like 14 days in from your shortest cycle -3 days but don't quote me on that. I read it last night and forgot.

You really need the book... well worth teh money.

09-05-2008, 11:25 PM	#1
Mia276 Registered Users Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: GA Posts: 531 Ratings: 85 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	TTC a girl question Hey all - DH and I have been TTC on and off for most of this year, and I am really hoping to sway the odds for a girl since this will most likely be my last baby. I've done a little research and the Shettles method is what makes the most sense to me; now, if only I could figure out exactly what day I ovulate! I happen to also be blessed with an irregular cycle(it ran about 42 days last month(!), usually around 30-32 days) Since I'm not completely sure when I O, would it be safe to assume that if we BD starting the day when my AF ends, and do it every other day until the first day of cervical fluid, that I will have a good chance of having a girl since the CM will keep the sperm alive a little longer? Or should we continue maybe until the first day of EWCM? I'm just now really beginning to pay attention to my CM (pretty interesting stuff, lol), but I'm not sure I've got the hang of telling all the different kinds apart yet. I really have no interest in charting... I have toyed with the idea, but it is complicated by the fact that my toddler is still nursing a little at night; he is nightweaned but he will wake up as early as 5 to nurse, but sometimes not till 6 or 7...so I don't really have a consistent "wake up" time to adhere to, and also I read in the book Taking Charge of your Fertility that charting to TTC a girl is pretty much pointless. Why or why can't I just have a predictable cycle? :-/ I've got serious baby on the brain and am starting to go a little batty! Hope that wasn't too rambly. Any advice or shared experiences are very much appreciated in advance. Thanks. :-) __________________ Mia, married to Richard(11/22/06) and mommy to an amazing little guy, Donovan(5/4/06) , and a little on the way, due in August '09. It's a girl!! [/IMG]

09-05-2008, 11:36 PM	#2
tinyblackdot Registered Users Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Texas Posts: 4,979 Ratings: 123 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: TTC a girl question no experience, just wishing you luck! __________________ Melanie-Mommy to my super hero daughter (1/2007)bravely battling brain cancer Fight For Maddie and our Bumble Bean (1/2013)

09-06-2008, 01:17 AM	#5
ephah Registered Users Join Date: Jan 2008 Posts: 351 Ratings: 49 Feedback: 100%	Re: TTC a girl question I have three boys and we tried Shettles with #3, but the cutoff point was 2 1/2 days before O day, and, yup, a boy... my cycle is quite unpredictable too. We're just starting to try again and this month I thought I had got it right, but for some reason I miscalculated O day and we did the deed less than 12 hours after I ovulated because I thought we were in the clear! Ooops!!! I'm waiting to test on Sunday morning... so we shall see. The thing is, nothing is fool proof. Not unless you do a PGD... something I'm not willing to go down. So if the next one is a boy, we're going the adoption route... __________________ [COLOR="RoyalBlue"]Sarah, Wife to Andrew and Mom to FOUR wonderful little boys: Patrick (10/04), Samuel (7/06), Ethan (11/07), Liam (7/09), and Elizabeth (7/11) Former owner of Sarah's Baby Boutique on Hyena Cart

09-06-2008, 04:03 AM	#6
mommymilk Registered Users Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 1,129 Ratings: 36 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: TTC a girl question I know they say there is a 'science' behind the whole thing...but I really think you just get what you get! DH and I DTD once last October ( Poor guy!) and it just so happened to be on my O day...we had a girl. This was after having 2 boys. Good luck! I know that I would have been a bit upset if my daughter would have been a boy, because I really wanted a girl (we were not expecting to get preggers) because I already had 2 crazy boys, but I knew I had no control of what was concieved.

09-06-2008, 07:23 AM	#7
mbreen616 Registered Users Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Massachusetts Posts: 1,497 Ratings: 13 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: TTC a girl question I don't know if I would trust any methods on how to sway the odds because if it doesn't work out I wouldn't want to feel disappointed. I am blessed with one of each and will take what I get hoping it is in the form of a healthy child! Good Luck getting your girls!!! I do think it is just that though...Luck. In the wise words of my five year old "You get what you get and don't get upset" Of course that is mainly speaking about the color of a popsicle __________________ Megan, Mama to My sweet girl Mackenzie, my lovable little man Camden, missing my 8 angels in heaven