suggestions? Little girl afraid of DH

[mom55]

Good luck - I know this is a cliche but time will heal her memories and in time with steady behavior from them, she will begin to build trust!

[tavi]

Originally Posted by Kinrice01 Hi ladies, We just received our first fost-adopt placement. I am trying not to get too overly excited as there is always a good chance she will go home to the birth mom. But, we want to do all we can for her while she is with us. She came to us 3 days ago, almost 3 years old, she is doing fine with me in fact she stays close to me and is like my little shadow. But she is so scared of my husband and my oldest son who is 15. There was no known abuse but I am thinking there must've been some. If DH even looks at her or tries to talk to her she shuts down and won't look at him, covers her eyes, hides in the corner, cries, looks downward or too the side, etc... same thing with my DS. Anyone have any tips on how to break through this without pushing too much? She is so sweet and pretty, I just want my DH to have a chance to bond with her as well. Thanks! Kindra

Kindra,

Let her come to them, have them play games that she will want to play too, they can even try "ignoring" her and let her make the first moves. Mainly be patient and hopefully she will come around to them soon.

I am a foster parent too, it takes time, love and lots of understanding to do this, good luck and God bless your family.

Nanny