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Old 10-23-2008, 08:52 AM   #11
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This is exactly how I handle tempertantrums as well. I think rocking and holding, IMO, just belittles them. If I'm angry about something and instead of listening someone tried to 'calm' me...I'd bite there head off! I think they learn more about self when they calm themselves down and the get rewarded (cuddled) for that, not for the tantrum itself.
How does offering comfort belittle a child? It is very possible to be empathetic and care about how a child feels, leading them to calm down. Just knowing someone cares about your feelings makes a HUGE difference in how we react.

I don't get how that is belittling. It doesn't seem disparaging at all.

And love isn't a reward. Why should it be?

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Old 10-23-2008, 10:12 AM   #12
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Old 10-24-2008, 12:16 PM   #13
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I personally wouldn't put him in his crib - I wouldn't want him to associate bad feeling with his place of rest.

We have a time out rug in our home where DD can pitch her fit, then come talk to me when she's ready. I think kids just need some time to process things, and can't control their emotions yet.
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(((HUGS))) DD is the same way right now. I just keep telling myself it is a phase.

I let her pitch her fit, and just walk away. It isn't fun when no one is watching.
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I'm not an experienced momma to offer advice, but DD (15 months) has terrible tempers too. Sometimes they start when I'm carrying her- she'll arch her back and I about drop her! At times she'll hit me in the face too. DH and I haven't quite decided what direction we're going to take with her discipline-wise, so I usually just let her wind down on her own without making a big fuss. She's never really hurt herself in the process. I'm 7 months preggo and it can be SUCH a strain, so I just leave the room for a minute to calm down when I'm really frazzled. Luckily these only happen when she's very frustrated from being hungry, tired, or needing a change.
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We have massive tantrums here also- from both my 3.5 year old and my 18 month old. I expect my 3.5 year old to use her words rather than hitting and screaming, and we use time-outs (cool-downs) and removal of privilages for her.

For DS it is a totally different story- he doesn't have the words to express himself so we usually let him have his tantrum. I try to give him words. For example I will say "Owen is angry...Owen wants a cookie but Mommy says no". He seems to realize that I understand him and he calms down- sometimes. Otherwise I just ignore it and then comfort him when the storm passes.
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