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Old 01-04-2007, 05:00 PM   #1
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Does Anyone Else Take a Break f/Family?

I swear before I had kids. I only saw both of my parents for holidays or every once in a while. Then we I had my first baby, they practically moved in and took over. Since then, we've established boundaries, but I get tired of seeing them every week. I would like to go back to the way it was before. It's not me and DH they want to see anyway.

Well, we didn't see them last week and it was really nice, peaceful and quiet. So I decided that I would like that again this weekend and told them we had plans. They immediately started pushing back and trying to schedule another day to visit and I told them I would see them next week. Then my mom says, "we haven't seen the boys in 2 weeks." GRRRRR. Fine by me! We don't see my MIL, but every few weeks and she seems fine with that. I just need a break from them periodically. I don't understand why they never seem to need one. Anyway, they annoy the crap outta me. They are really loud and negative and the camera starts flashing. I wish they would go away.

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Old 01-04-2007, 05:15 PM   #2
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mama. Sounds like maybe you need a break. Family vacation, just the DH and kids??? Or leave the darlins with gma and gpa and let 'em get their fill!

Maybe you could start a traditional meal, like after church on Sunday...or after church on the first Sunday of the month if every week is too much. I wish we lived close enough to the gparents to see them more often. But then they complain I don't send pics often enough!
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Old 01-04-2007, 06:12 PM   #3
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How about dropping the boys off once a month while you and your hubby have a couple of hours to yourselves, then one family dinner a month? That way they get to see who's really important () twice a month, but you only have to deal with them once a month?
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I miss my mom, she's 5000 miles away and getting to old to make the trip here (which is cheaper for us to pay for than treking a family of 5 to her)
I talk to her on the phone most weeks, and we email occasionally.
If I lived near her I'd drop the kids off with her for a few hours and go have some adult time with Dh.
I used to live round the corner from her, if my car wasn't in the driveway on her way home, she would go past and pick up ds from daycare for me and I'd come to her house to get him after work and eat dinner
I could do with her near by now, the kids miss her. I love how she spoilt them.
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mama. Sounds like maybe you need a break. Family vacation, just the DH and kids??? Or leave the darlins with gma and gpa and let 'em get their fill!

Maybe you could start a traditional meal, like after church on Sunday...or after church on the first Sunday of the month if every week is too much. I wish we lived close enough to the gparents to see them more often. But then they complain I don't send pics often enough!
We so need a vacation, but I don't see that happening until taxes are done. We do see them every Friday for dinner, but I would like to see less of them...KWIM? I know that sounds awful, but I think quality is better than quantity. And when I see too much of them, the quality starts going downhill.
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How about dropping the boys off once a month while you and your hubby have a couple of hours to yourselves, then one family dinner a month? That way they get to see who's really important () twice a month, but you only have to deal with them once a month?
I don't trust my mom and dad with both boys for very long. I would LOVE to see them only once a month, but I think I would have a BIG battle on my hands if I went that route. They want to be here every single week and I'm not sure how to tell them that without creating major conflict. It almost doesn't seem worth it. However, I would be quite happy with that arrangement.
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I think we all go through periods of time when family can be "too much". Ya know??

Both DH's parents and mine live only about 15 minutes away. There are times when I wish it was a lot farther, but I do recognize that we are lucky to have them so close.

Take breaks every now and then. But, also, remember how lucky you are that they love your children so much---a lot of people don't have that!!
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I miss my mom, she's 5000 miles away and getting to old to make the trip here (which is cheaper for us to pay for than treking a family of 5 to her)
I talk to her on the phone most weeks, and we email occasionally.
If I lived near her I'd drop the kids off with her for a few hours and go have some adult time with Dh.
I used to live round the corner from her, if my car wasn't in the driveway on her way home, she would go past and pick up ds from daycare for me and I'd come to her house to get him after work and eat dinner
I could do with her near by now, the kids miss her. I love how she spoilt them.
It sounds like you have a good relationship with your mom. Mine is strained and always has been. The only reason she is cordial to me now is because she knows she won't see the kids if we fight.
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