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Old 05-27-2006, 06:48 PM   #11
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I have a mother's helper every few weeks. It is so nice! She's 10 yrs old and basically plays with the kids. I usually give her a snack, I change the diapers, and I'm around if things aren't going right. Sometimes the toddler needs to be brought to her because he's hanging on my knee, or the 4 yr old needs to calm down and my helper doesn't know what to do. All in all though it's great! The only trouble is I wish I could take a nap. Oh, well.

I pay $5.00 for around 3 hours. Her mom and I split up the drop off and pick up. It's great experience for her and I'm sure she'll put me down on a resume someday.

I say, GO FOR IT! You might want to watch your expectations for your helper depending upon his/her age.

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Old 05-27-2006, 08:53 PM   #12
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Ok! I've talked to a couple girls in the neighborhood that are around 15 years old. One of them didn't even pay any attention to Clara so she's a *NO*, but the other one seemed really sweet. I think I have to go with someone older because DS is 11 and all the neighborhood girls have a crush on him (help!) so they'd be watching him instead of the baby! lol

There's another girl down the street who everyone has told me is great, but she's deaf and I don't know sign other than milk, more, diaper, and cat right now so I'm not sure how I'd really do that. I'm still gonna go talk to her mom though. I'll update with how it works out
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Old 05-27-2006, 09:35 PM   #13
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Re: Anyone hire a Mother's Helper?

mother's helper...... God I WISH!!!!


and what is this dusting and mopping stuff you speak of?lol
I mop once a month maybe. since you said you dusted every day I went and got a chair to look at the top of my fans. i will not share what I found there.lol I guess have three kids under 4 my standars have changed a lot or I would go insane.
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Old 05-28-2006, 06:23 AM   #14
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My house was not nearly as clean as I've gotten used to before my 9 and 11 year olds were old enough for school. I don't think I'd have gotten much of anything done if I would have had 3 close in age! lol

I think it's totally different when the kids are gone all day and there's not much else to do when you're at home, KWIM? Maybe my expectations ARE too high and DH is right (ouch..it hurts to type that!) lol

Maybe I'll make another post on what everyone considers "dirty" and we'll see..
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Old 05-28-2006, 07:22 AM   #15
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With kids I think that we all have to lower expectations. My house is not very clean and as long as clutter is picked up every now and then, I feel fine. It used to bother me a lot, but now I figure, it is just going to get messy anyway.

I think that you should enlist the help of your older kids. They are totally old enough to be helping out with a ton of stuff. It wouldn't even take them that long to help you. If they are messing up the house, they at least need to be cleaning up after themselves and have regular chores. A family should all be chipping in to help and clean up after themselves.

I think a mother's helper is a great idea. I had my mom and sister help me and my mom still takes my kids once every week and I get a lot of stuff done then. It helps a lot. Maybe you could kind-of trade off with another mother. You could take turns watching each others kids so that the other could clean and get errands done, and then you could switch. You can get a ton done in just 2 or 3 hours!!
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Old 05-29-2006, 07:17 PM   #16
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Yes! I've had 2 bad experiences that didn't last very long but I'm completely "taken" by the mother's helper we have now. My marriage is better for it too! I'm amazed at how much less stress I feel. I'm amazed at how my youngest dd went from a clingy, high needs baby to a flexible one! (I wish she'd sleep at night though ) I feel sane. I feel on top of my life.

It's worth it! SOOOOO WORTH IT, especially with yet another baby joining our family in about 8 weeks!

eta: She takes the kids to the park/pizza when I need space. She helps tidy up the house. She takes them to some activities so my littlest one isn't treking in the car so much. She's cooked dinner for us though it was not in the job description. She does errands and my food shopping!!
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