SAHMs: How much are you repsonsible for??

[NessaL_07]

another mama that does it all at home

[mrspnut82]

Short answer- pass the mowing and trash to dh.

[mommamisti2]

Originally Posted by CountryChicMama Okay, I already feel like some of you mamas are going to blow me out of the water, particularly you WAHMies, but I just am starting feel like I have too much on my plate. Besides the regular house hold duties, cooking, cleaning and taking care of DS I am also responsible for paying all our bills, getting groceries, hauling all our trash and recycling, mowing our 5 acre yard and weedeating, feeding our horses and any other tasks that have to do with our home. I've already told DH that I'm not sure I'm going to be able to mow anymore; bouncing on a mower + 4m pregnant = got to pee every 15 minutes. Plus, it literally takes me two days to complete during DS nap time. I don't know, I'm starting to feel a little begrudgingly towards DH when he gets to come in, eat his dinner and then relax while I'm still trying to clean the kitchen, get DS ready for bed and any other task left unfinished. Yet then I feel guilty, b/c he works 11-12 hours a day, 5-6 days a week; why shouldn't he get to come home and relax? Ugh, so you think I should ask DH to help me out or am I just whining and need to suck it up?

Hugs to you mama! You do have lots on your plate! I hope that you do ask for help.

When i first got married 8 years ago my hubby did the cooking, laundry, garbage and tons of other stuff. Then I started helping. I didn't know how to cook when we got married or do the laundry.....lol My mom loved doing it..but thats another story. Today I help with dinner. I do the laundry...but he will do it if there is lots. He always does the garbage and kitty litter boxes. He mows the lawns and does all the gardening...he loves it! We clean the house together too....although when he is at work I try to get the house in order so there isnt too much for him to do...so its not all the time that he has to pitch in. The kids are in bed by 7:30 and then its our time to relax!

[ourfamilyof5]

My role as a SAHM:

homeschool by preschooler & toddler ( & will eventually homeschool all 3 of our children)
Bathing all 3 kids
Schedule our calendar (I am usually planning 1 month in advance)
Take them to their check ups, dr. appt.'s etc.
laundary (inlcuding both my LO's cloth diapers)
Clean ALL poop in cloth diapers w/ diaper sprayer even when my DH changes them - he leaves them for me (how sweet
cleaning (dusting, vaccuming, etc.)
playdates, homeschool functions
taking out the garbage
dishes (at times my DH will do the dinner dishes)
all cooking (other than any BBQing)
sending out thank you notes, mailing pictures to in-laws & family of our kids
shopping for any & all our kids needs (clothing, school supplies, etc.)
geocery shopping (which includes coupon clipping & research for the best deals on-line prior to my shopping trips)
leader of my preschooler's Little Contender's group (faith based boy's scout's)
pulling weeds in our yard, planting new plants
cleaning my mini van & taking it for the oil changes w/ all THREE kids!

All above + exclusively nurse our 5 month!

[Ami in Deutschland]

Originally Posted by mrsbesky I don't mow, never will. Thats DH's job.

Originally Posted by Chey ...He's not allowed to set foot in Costco alone. If he does he comes home with Dog Food, Corndogs, Chicken wings, Garlic Coil and a brick of cheese. Spends $300 and then wonders why I can't cook supper for the next two weeks.

That sounds familiar too.

I'm certainly not the mama who does it all so brilliantly that DH comes home to a set table and gets handed his slippers (despite the ideal my In-Laws seem to have for a SAHM). Your list sounds over-the-top to me. I was exhausted just reading it. As so many other posters said, if you feel like you're sinking, yell for a life ring.

Men are not clairvoyant. They don't even get subtlety. But I think one thing you might consider is how to approach your husband in a way that will make him likely to respond positively. Do you have enough time together as a couple? I mean, real intimate time? It sounds paradoxical, but I suggest you talk to your husband about making time for each other, each and every day. You'll have to work together to make that time happen. You might be surprised how skilled he can be at household duties.

[yellowitchgrl]

Oh My Gosh I would KILL my husband if he did that!