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Old 04-18-2007, 09:12 PM   #81
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Don't get me wrong, I don't think it is bad to cover up...if YOU want to. I do think it is bad to do it for other people or because they pressured you into it.

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Old 04-18-2007, 09:34 PM   #82
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Don't get me wrong, I don't think it is bad to cover up...if YOU want to. I do think it is bad to do it for other people or because they pressured you into it.
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Old 04-18-2007, 09:37 PM   #83
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Maybe I'm missing here.... but why are some of you taking issue with me and a few other moms wanting to use a cover-up when it's anyone beyond DH, our baby and the mom?! Is there a law somewhere that makes it wrong?!

I swear, every time I mention my cover people get all hyper-spazzy. I mean come on, maybe your kid doesn't like their head covered. Well you know what? My DD couldn't care less, in fact she LIKES the cover. She associates it with eating and she also associates it with getting a break from the crazy world. Hmmm... maybe my child is different than yours. OH WELL!

Bottom line: I am not saying anyone else has to use a cover. I AM saying that it is also anyone's right to use a cover and say they use a cover without hearing all the junk about how it's wrong or whatever the excuse of the day is.

You don't have to like my decision, but I do ask that you respect it, just like I respect yours.
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Old 04-18-2007, 10:01 PM   #84
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Well, to me a true gentleman is someone who gives up his seat on the bus to a pg woman... I'm guessing it means something different to other posters? LOL but in any case I have no objection to other people covering up, not covering up, discreet, blatant, whatever, and the only place I can think of offhand that I'd consider "generally inappropriate to breastfeed in" is the men's room (like, gross!) I think some guys just don't understand what's involved in leaving a place to go nurse in some other place, just like they don't understand that running into the store for a loaf of bread is not as easy with kids along, and little things like that.
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Old 04-19-2007, 06:59 AM   #85
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Maybe I'm missing here.... but why are some of you taking issue with me and a few other moms wanting to use a cover-up when it's anyone beyond DH, our baby and the mom?! Is there a law somewhere that makes it wrong?!

I swear, every time I mention my cover people get all hyper-spazzy. I mean come on, maybe your kid doesn't like their head covered. Well you know what? My DD couldn't care less, in fact she LIKES the cover. She associates it with eating and she also associates it with getting a break from the crazy world. Hmmm... maybe my child is different than yours. OH WELL!

Bottom line: I am not saying anyone else has to use a cover. I AM saying that it is also anyone's right to use a cover and say they use a cover without hearing all the junk about how it's wrong or whatever the excuse of the day is.

You don't have to like my decision, but I do ask that you respect it, just like I respect yours.

Like I said in my last post, I have no issues with a woman covering up if SHE wants to. I do have a problem with men and other people making that woman feel as though she needs to cover up while breastfeeding. To be honest, it was your "true gentleman" comment that got to me. I read it to my DH before I even told him my opinion and he immediately said "a true gentleman would be happy to see a Mother breastfeeding her child".
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Okay, I'm glad we're all on the same page about covers or no covers.

As to the definition of "true gentlemen" I do agree that it means different things to different people, and I'm sorry that you all found my true gentleman plug offensive. You're right, a true gentleman does give his seat up to pregnant ladies on the bus, he is happy to see a woman BF her child, etc., etc.

Maybe we need a s/o thread about gentlemen.
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Old 04-19-2007, 09:05 AM   #87
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I am glad that you see that I am not attacking you. If a woman wants to cover up, fine...I am just happy to see her BFing her child! I just hate to see a woman shamed into covering up, like she is doing something wrong, YKWIM?
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I am glad that you see that I am not attacking you. If a woman wants to cover up, fine...I am just happy to see her BFing her child! I just hate to see a woman shamed into covering up, like she is doing something wrong, YKWIM?
That would be a shame and whoever did that oughta take his/her supper in the bathroom!

I created a s/o topic about true gentlemen here: http://www.diaperswappers.com/forum/...994#post978994

Back to the OP's question about NIP in the bank.... Definitely not a problem! I'll bet the banker would have just been glad the baby was not screaming anymore! And he/she said otherwise, I'd take my business elsewhere!
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I always think it's a little ironic. Chances are your DH called more attention to your nursing than you did.

I'm all for nursing wherever you and your baby are comfortable! I'll nurse where I can, and while I'm not embarrassed in the least to nurse in public, I am fairly self-conscious about my breasts (Stretch marks and such) so I try to be discreet when I can. When they're really young and learning I use a blanket when I'm not at home or have visitors, and once they're older my babies haven't had a problem with my shirt touching the sides of their face. I generally rest my top hand on their head or cheek because I love it, and they've all been great about letting me keep my hand there when they're older to keep tabs on my shirt. It's worked well for us.
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I think it's a shame that your DH was so inappropriate to suggest you go to a van to nurse. Not only was the weather inclement, but you were just fine where you were.

I don't go out of my way to NIP, and I don't go out of my way to nurse either. Nurse where you are, and let them deal with their inappropriate feelings.

Cover up if you want, or pull your shirt over your head. I really don't care, and either should anyone else.
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