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Old 07-10-2008, 01:40 PM   #1
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Angry I hate mommy wars just as much as the next guy...

and this might sound 'judgemental'.. But you know what? I don't care I have got to vent a little!

My lo's and I were at the mall today--I like to let the kids romp around in the play area when it's really hot out. (and I usually end up handing out a couple business cards--woot!)

There was a 16 month old baby there. The mamma kept on 'screaming' at her to 'Get down!!" "You listen to me!!" YOU go down the slide the RIGHT way!!" Among other things. Like the whole time! I hated that my kids had to listen to it, that I had to listen to it, and most of all I wonder what percentage of that little girls day she is yelled at.

Anyway, we leave after a bit, and are walking out to the van, when a cute little family, with a boy I imagine no more than two or three, walks past. The boy stops and stares at my kiddos as we walk by, like children do. I smile at him, and no sooner than that, the dad 'pops' him on the cheek and says 'lets go!' I just felt sick to my stomach.

It just seems like children are such 'burdens' to some people. I hate it. All they want is our love. They are so innocent...and did not choose to be born or 'cramp your style.'

I grew up in a very toxic environment, so maybe this just hit a nerve. Anyway--thanks for reading if you made it this far. I guess I just had to let it out somewhere.
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Old 07-10-2008, 01:43 PM   #2
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That makes me sick to my stomach.

My child is WILD and yes - it's embarrassing often - but I will NEVER lay a hand on her or scream at her. She is a BABY.
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Old 07-10-2008, 01:51 PM   #3
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I try not to go over board, but my kids will tell you as quick as I will they don't listen til I yell. I told my 4 yr old 4-5 times something to do the other day. She finally turned around and said " I'm not going to do it til you yell" So, I do try often but it seemed like a waste of time at my house to be calm while instructing. But that's my house I totally respect and wish that my home could be run the way you stated but all homes cannot be the same way. We all parent differently. That is what gives this world the flavor it has. Good and bad it is flavor.
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That is what gives this world the flavor it has. Good and bad it is flavor.
Yes but at what cost??
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That is very sad. We all have bad days, but for some people that seems to be their norm and that makes me sad for the LOs.
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That is very sad. We all have bad days, but for some people that seems to be their norm and that makes me sad for the LOs.
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I was at the lake the other day and her 2 different moms tell there dd that there were FAT and to suck it in! And one went on and on about how she need to quit eating junk. I cant believe how people talk to thier kids. My ds just looked at them and then me w/ such a sad face. and another thing neither one of the moms were skinny minis either!
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I was at a cook out on the 4th of july. There was a lady there with a little boy just about my baby's ago. They are born days apart. Her son bit her (trying out his new teeth). She spanked him. He's 8 months old.

He started screaming like crazy and she said "oh he's just tired" She popped out her boob right there in front of the entire gathering and breast fed the child to sleep.

I was horrified on MANY levels. #1- spanking a child so young. I'm not necessarily anti-spank but at 8 mos!

#2- that fact that with no blanket, no nothing she whipped out her boob in front of an entire gathering of people.

A while after the baby fell asleep she pulled her shirt back up. Prior to that she sat there rocking him with her breat exposed. Good grief!
The only thing wrong with that I think is that she smacked her 8 mo. old son thats just not right. The boob part was great I mean had she bottle fed would you expect her to cover him up still?? Well that's a whole 'nother thread Sorry just had to put my
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Re: I hate mommy wars just as much as the next guy...

I see the same incidents you described often, unfortunately.

Sometimes I just want to slap the parent and ask them what in the world are they thinking!
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Re: I hate mommy wars just as much as the next guy...

I agree. My sister is kind of hard on my nephew (18 mos) and I have to be very careful not to start a mommy/sister war. I've resolved myself to the fact that I can't change her. I can only set an example. It does break my heart, but I remind myself that she has other good mommy qualities - like she plays with him endlessly, lets him spend lots of time with family even when it is hard for her, etc. But it's still hard to watch.
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