WWYD? Baby gift question

[hac1224]

Okay, our 4th child is expected to arrive in about a month. Although we *think* it's a girl, the U/S was not 100% clear. The final verdict by the tech was, "Well, I don't see anything hanging down." S/he was not cooperative enough to actually let us see anything clearly. DD was born the same time of year, so we really don't need girl clothes if that's what this one really is. If it turns out to be a boy, we will need a little bit clothes-wise because both DS's were Sept babies which means the weather was warmer. Our church always does a bassinet in the vestibule with a "wish list" above it for all except first babies (a full shower for 1st) for everyone to fill with gifts. I can let them know whether I would rather them put the bassinet out right before baby comes or wait until immediately after. There are a few things I would like to have (a baby scale, etc), but nothing that I truly need before baby comes. I have bedding, gear/furniture, clothes, tons of cloth diapers, and a few sposies for outings. Should I have them do the gifts now or wait until right after baby comes?

ETA: I would be fine with no one giving clothes, but tons of people will even if I don't want/need them. With Christmas just a couple of weeks afterwards, I can let people know I need clothes for gifts then if it is a boy. If people give clothes before and it's not neutral (like the adorable pink layette set a neighbor brought over earlier this morning), I'm just leaving tags on and trying to figure out where to return them if needed. Most people at church mainly shop at Walmart, so returns won't be super difficult.

Here is my wish list even though I know a few of the items are probably bigger than what anyone at church will do unless they go in together of something:

Diapers (Pampers or Luvs)
Wipes (Huggies Sensitive or Parent’s Choice Unscented)
Hangers (white)
Bouncy seat
Scale
Pack-n-Play
Burt’s Bees baby bath products
Fold-up bath tub
Baby monitor
Diaper sprayer
Wipe warmer
Waterproof crib pads (quilted or flannel - not fitted)
White socks

I also seriously doubt anyone at church wil have any idea what a diaper sprayer is, but a girl can try, right?

[Sparklebug]

I voted other simply because you could do either, depending on whether you want gender specific gifts or not. If you do, then def. after baby's here otherwise it doesn't really make a difference I would think.

That's a really neat thing that your church does though for new babies! And congrats on your little one

[josycat]

I think it would depend on what you want your wish list to be.
If it is mainly gift cards or stuff to help get you through the first couple of weeks, then go with before the baby comes.
If you would prefer to get clothes, then wait till after the baby comes.

[hac1224]

Originally Posted by Sparklebug That's a really neat thing that your church does though for new babies! And congrats on your little one

Thanks! Yes, it's great because you still get things you want/need without them having to go through the full effort of a shower with food, decorations, etc. Some people don't even wrap the stuff they put in there, but it doesn't really matter either way. They usually leave it out for about 3 weeks so people have plenty of time to pick something up. I think our SS class usually does a mini-shower in our normal class time, too. Maybe a cake and gifts, but they don't really have you open them there. Just a bunch of stuff to have fun opening when you get home. Plus, the church usually brings an oversized meal or two right afterwards to feed and leave plenty of leftovers. I love our church!

[JamieJLD]

I voted after the baby was born because returning gifts is a PITA.

[3lilbubs]

I know it's less fun, but could you ask for GN stuff?

[nicolehmom]

We didn't know the sex of our babies either, and waited until about a month after they were born to have a party. It was more like a welcome/congrats party, but I think it was much more relaxed and a lot less stressful than a traditional baby shower.

[sajodel]

i never wanted to know and waited til after and loved it cause then everyone can get there cuddles in at the same time plus its so fun to have your baby in the photos getting spoiled

[Mama2Bryce]

Originally Posted by JamieJLD I voted after the baby was born because returning gifts is a PITA.

[mlhmrsdds]

Just don't post the baby's gender, say it was unclear, you'll get less clothing in general then.