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Old 04-12-2017, 10:27 AM   #1
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Adoption and bio family involvement

DH have discussed it many times but I'd love to hear what you do and how it works for you! (Our adoption is not final, we are just discussing what would be best in our situation.)

Things I'd love to know if you don't mind sharing--what type of adoption, who (if anyone) you remain in contact with from bio family, what type of contact, and how frequently. Are bio family members respectful of the adoption and your parenting styles/descions?

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Old 04-17-2017, 05:55 AM   #2
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Re: Adoption and bio family involvement

We have adopted and are very close with a bio uncle. We text many times a week. We also have visits with him Everytime he's in town! We will also be involved with a sibling or two. I'm so thankful we have some bio family for her to connect with. We also allow bio mom pictures and a written update twice a year, but choose to have no other contact with her. I know many adopted people and all have had questions about their bio family at some point... So I'm thankful that when she's old enough to understand and want answers I have some things to tell her.
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Ohhh and yes he is 100% respectful of our decisions.
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Re: Adoption and bio family involvement

Yes we have some bio family involvement on one side. They reached out to us and we established a trusting relationship. We share updates, pictures and visit once or twice a year. They are fully respectful of our privacy not to share his changed last name or location with bios. When it came down to it, they just wanted to be uncle, aunt and grandma without any hidden agenda.

We also send bios pictures and general updates a couple times a year via e-mail and mail to state corrections prison without a valid return addy and on a first name basis. They respond by mail to the local DCF agency. They are also thankful and respectful to us...now. This kind of trust didn't happen overnight with the bios. They were of course super upset the first year with their loss. Now that things have calmed down they are civil to us.
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