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Old 02-12-2011, 02:33 PM   #1
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Okay this is definitely NOT my first baby and all of them have been vaginal and the last 3 have been all natural (I did the epidural and such with my first 2 but decided I wanted to do it on my own after that).

Now the problem, my mom has been my birth coach for all of my kids. My DH is scared of needles and blood and while he is there the whole time he gets nervous and doesn't know what to do. He stands quietly in a corner (This is NOT a quiet man. LOL) Anyway while there is a very real possiblity that this baby will come early due to issues I have had this pregnancy and previous pregnancies I am not due until July 31. My mom is leaving for England July 9-26th all of my aunts and uncles are going also (it was my grandpas Christmas gift to them) anyway I won't have a birth partner per say. And I am scared. I'm not sure I can do this on my own. I know one of my really good friends/cousin would be there for me but I am not sure I feel comfortable with her in the room (I kind of turn into a witch during labor). What if I can't do this on my own? I thought of looking into like a hypnobabies program or something but I don't know anything about it. What would you do? If the baby comes as early as the doctor and specialists are saying (he is going to start checking me at 32 wks and because of previous issues as soon as he feels the baby is ready he will induce. My induced labors have been horrible) then my mom will be home but honestly I would rather wait until the baby is ready rather than to early. I have had 2 preemies in the past and both have had issues with nursing and ended up hospitalized.


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Old 02-12-2011, 03:31 PM   #2
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Maybe hire a doula? Or find a student doula (as you have a few births under your belt) who will do it for free/cheap.

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Old 02-12-2011, 05:43 PM   #3
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I agree - YOU CAN DO THIS, but having a doula might help make it a more comforting experience.
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Old 02-12-2011, 06:58 PM   #4
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I would hire a doula.
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Old 02-14-2011, 03:49 PM   #5
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I think you may be surprised by your DH's reaction if that happens. My DH hates needles and blood and all of that mess, but when it came time to labor, even though he had a raging hangover, he just kind of slid into supportive mode because I was totally losing it. Later he described it as an out of body it just happened because it needed to happen. I don't know your DH, but if he's seen all this before, then he knows, somewhere in his brain, how you are and what needs to happen. I think he might actually be okay... just my hopeful opinion
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Old 02-15-2011, 08:39 AM   #6
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Hire a doula. Best decision I EVER made.
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Old 02-15-2011, 11:50 AM   #7
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Educate your DH. My DH was the BEST coach ever b/c he felt as confident about what we were doing as I did (well, as much as the dad can). Help him learn ways to help you.

If that won't work, DOULA!!! Many doulas just getting started can offer you great rates!
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