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Old 01-10-2007, 05:12 PM   #1
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Do you allow your kids to question you?

My sister and I were having a discussion last night and she was upset because our older sister's child questioned her dh about something (I can't remember what it was) and she said that children should be taught that they don't question adults they just listen to what they say. I was kind of like because what if that adult told them to do something that was inappropriate (not that my bil would but just a general thing) and they just went along with it. We allow our children to question us - not about discipline but in general. Like I told my oldest ds something was broke and he looked at it and looked at it and was like "are you sure its broke?" He says "are you sure...." all the time. What do you think? Do you allow your children to question you or other adults?
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Old 01-10-2007, 05:16 PM   #2
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i think your right, and my son is like yours, no problem with asking, and itDisagree about her thinking kids need to just do as their told, your right what if an adult tries somethign bad, the child will do it thinking they HAVE to do as any adult asks
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I think children should be taught that it is *always okay* to question an adult. I don't want my kids to think they ever have to do something just because an adult told them to....there just are enough creepy adults out there that I want them to have the confidence to question and say no if needed.

I think it is about respect, though. I also try to teach my kids that they should always talk respectfully to others whether it is another kid or an adult.
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Respectfully question, sure! How else will they learn? I think it helps teach them to think for themselves.

Rudely, sarcastically question- no. That is disrespectful.
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Old 01-10-2007, 05:22 PM   #5
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Respectfully question, sure! How else will they learn? I think it helps teach them to think for themselves.

Rudely, sarcastically question- no. That is disrespectful.
Ditto!
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Respectfully question, sure! How else will they learn? I think it helps teach them to think for themselves.

Rudely, sarcastically question- no. That is disrespectful.
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Old 01-10-2007, 05:27 PM   #7
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Respectfully question, sure! How else will they learn? I think it helps teach them to think for themselves.

Rudely, sarcastically question- no. That is disrespectful.
Ummm, yeah that!! How can they learn with questioning!!
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Old 01-10-2007, 05:30 PM   #8
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Respectfully question, sure! How else will they learn? I think it helps teach them to think for themselves.

Rudely, sarcastically question- no. That is disrespectful.
LOL I agree too. I was thinking reading op how else are they supposed to learn if they just always do everything as told without knowing why or how?
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Respect is the key here. I agree with Tiffer23.
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Old 01-10-2007, 06:42 PM   #10
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Re: Do you allow your kids to question you?

I guess I feel differently about this. I think my dc should obey me withOUT questioning me. However, after they have listened to me and done what I have asked, I would def be okay and would even like them coming and asking me why. Here is my reasoning for this thought. Children cannot grasp the concept of cause and effect for quite some time. If we were walking somewhere and my dc ran into the road, I should be able to say "XXX get out of the road..." and they should respond immediately. If they were young enough they would have no idea that a car could hit them and kill them, and even if I told them before they may not grasp it. If they were always allowed to ask "why" first, then they would still be in the road saying "Why mommy?" and then who knows what could happen. So I am trying to prepare my child to always obey first and ask questions later. Hope that made some sense.
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