Reply Hey Mom! Learn more about the Gerber Life Insurance Grow-Up Plan!
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
Old 08-12-2006, 02:22 PM   #1
Lisa-Rachelle's Avatar
Lisa-Rachelle
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: May 2006
Location: west Tennessee
Posts: 8,214
My Mood:
Nursing to pacify?

I finally figured out this week that my daughter (3 weeks old) has been nursing to pacify herself to sleep or when she is upset. Initially I didn't think anything was wrong with it, but my mother keeps telling me that if I allow her to do so; she will make it a habit and will need to keep pacifying herself in this way even through her early childhood years. She tells me "let her find her thumb", but she is still so small and uncoordinated I feel like its cruel to watch her squirm and cry trying to find her hand.

This is my first baby, and my first experience with nursing. I have read so many books and heard so many opinions, but I feel more confused now than I did initially.

Is it ok that my daughter wants to pacify herself with the breast? Usually she will latch on, suck for a minute and then fall fast asleep. Whereas when she actually nurses she actively feeds for about 20 minutes.

Any opinions would be great!
__________________
Lisa
Mom to G, E and S
Lisa-Rachelle is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-12-2006, 02:47 PM   #2
flobee76's Avatar
flobee76
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: Apr 2006
Location: Northern CA
Posts: 3,453
My Mood:
Re: Nursing to pacify?

Well, since you are asking for opinions...

I see absolutely NOTHING wrong with your DD nursing to pacify. That's what you really are there for. DD needs you to comfort her. If she finds her thumb or other fingers at another point in time, that's fine. But for now? She's only 3 weeks old!! You know, it took my DD almost 3 weeks to finally latch on correctly! lol

DD nursed to sleep for a long time. When I felt that the time was right, I weaned her off of it. It was a smooth transition. If you get tired of doing that, there are ways to wean your little one off of it. But you know, they are only little for such a short time... I bawled for 2 weeks after DD weaned completely (at only 18 mos.). I long for the nursing days.

YOU ARE THE MAMA!!! YOU DO WHAT YOU FEEL IS RIGHT FOR YOUR BABY!!!!!! You'll know what to do.
__________________
-Flo
wife to Tim (10/23/99)
Mom to DD (5/04), DS (8/07), DD (2/09)DD (5/13), Blessing #4 in the arms of Jesus 11/2011

Jesus-follower, Traditional Foodie, Homeschooler, frugal-er
flobee76 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-12-2006, 02:56 PM   #3
ecoria's Avatar
ecoria
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: May 2006
Location: Richmond, VA
Posts: 864
My Mood:
Re: Nursing to pacify?

i agree, let her nurse. It makes me feel good to know that i am the only one that can comfort ds (4m) in that way. I literally just nursed him down for a nap and he is still sleeping in my lap. I cherish every moment of nursing him when he's this little. He's found his thumb, but still wants his nummies to go to sleep.

Another option you have is a pacifier, we introduced one as soon as he found his thumb (i sucked mine till i was 13 and dont want to have to deal with that) and occasionally he will take a paci to nap if i cant give him his nummies (in the car or something). Good luck mama!
__________________
Lisa - 's wife and Super-Crunchy, WAHMommy to Jeremy - 4/13/06 - and Johnathan Joseph, aka "J.J." - 4/1/08 - 6 weeks early! ISO medium MONSTER dipes or 2T monkey ANYTHING or Mr. Magoo stuff! TRY ME!
http://www.BBCreations.biz - Accepting PP and RME!
ecoria is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-12-2006, 03:06 PM   #4
togg_mama
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: Jul 2006
Posts: 5,821
My Mood:
Re: Nursing to pacify?

at this age, I would hardly worry about it as long as you are sure she is getting enough hind milk. three weeks old is waay too young to worry about them getting spoiled on it. now if you had said 9 mo to a year that would be different, but at this point, don't worry about it.
togg_mama is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-12-2006, 03:07 PM   #5
rebeccah5's Avatar
rebeccah5
Behold: The Official Thread-Killer
seller
 
Join Date: May 2006
Location: In the final trimester of home construction
Posts: 4,768
My Mood:
Re: Nursing to pacify?

I say, whether or not you should let DD "comfort nurse" is totally up to you. On the plus side, all the extra suckling at the breast will help keep AF away, along with your fertility, all the while she is getting comfort from you, the original pacifier! With my DD, she never took a pacifier, but she didn't really want a lot of suckling either and was content without it. With DS, he wants to nurse/suck all the time, so I chose to use a pacifier to give me a break every once in a while. Plus, sometimes when he was really fussy at night and I constantly nursed him, he would nurse so much that he would start spitting up a lot (more than normal, IMO) and I felt that he was getting too much milk which was actually making him fussier. Either way, you have to do what's best for you and your child and forget about what everybody else says.
__________________
~~Rebecca~~
wife to my hunk
SAHM to Little Man and My Princess
Check out my knitting projects here and my stash here
rebeccah5 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-12-2006, 03:37 PM   #6
pfratz's Avatar
pfratz
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: May 2006
Location: Alaska
Posts: 941
My Mood:
Re: Nursing to pacify?

I agree, let her nurse
__________________
Miranda ~mama to
Ricky, Kevin, Simon, & Charlie
pfratz is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-12-2006, 03:48 PM   #7
KnottyLDSMama's Avatar
KnottyLDSMama
Peachy with a side of keen, that would be me
Formerly: Moonprysm
seller
seller
 
Join Date: May 2006
Posts: 5,975
My Mood:
Re: Nursing to pacify?

Definitely let her nurse. My DS is 4mo and refuses to take a pacifier (although sometimes I wish he would). He nurses to sleep most of the time, and nurses when he's upset, and there's nothing wrong with that! Let your child find comfort where they can. I can't imagine letting a 3 week old cry because she can't find her thumb...my ds can barely find his!
__________________
Tiffani wife of Wes 11/16/02, Partner of Jamie and David
SAHM to Xander 4/5/06, Jaime 1/20/09,
and Malcolm 11/15/10
KnottyLDSMama is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-13-2006, 10:27 AM   #8
8blessings's Avatar
8blessings
Registered Users
 
Join Date: Jul 2006
Location: Oklahoma
Posts: 264
My Mood:
Re: Nursing to pacify?

I have nursed all 8 of my babies until self weaning, and everyone of them nursed to pacify as well. They hated the binky/ pacifier, and only one of them was a thumb sucker (still is,lol), and I comforted them to sleep via nursing, holding, rocking to sleep, and I tell you everyone of them is healthy, happy, well-adjusted, and weaned when they were ready.YOU are the mama, and YOU know best as long as you listen to your heart- put baby first- and ignore everyone else. trust me, you will get lots of un-solicited advice and MOST of it is un-useful, and un-supported my the medical community. Mama, let your baby nurse all she wants to, for however long she wants to, and for whatever reason she wants- whether to satisfy or for hunger or to feel pacified/satisfied/loved & secure in her mama's arms. You are her ~nurturer & comforter~ - not just her source of food.
__________________
~Andrea~
happy (and busy!) mama to 9! and proud Grammy to my 1st grandbaby!
8blessings is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-13-2006, 02:55 PM   #9
*Chris~tian Mom
Registered Users
 
Join Date: Jun 2006
Location: USA!
Posts: 119
Re: Nursing to pacify?

Quote:
Originally Posted by tennesseemom
I finally figured out this week that my daughter (3 weeks old) has been nursing to pacify herself to sleep or when she is upset. Initially I didn't think anything was wrong with it, but my mother keeps telling me that if I allow her to do so; she will make it a habit and will need to keep pacifying herself in this way even through her early childhood years. She tells me "let her find her thumb", but she is still so small and uncoordinated I feel like its cruel to watch her squirm and cry trying to find her hand.

This is my first baby, and my first experience with nursing. I have read so many books and heard so many opinions, but I feel more confused now than I did initially.

Is it ok that my daughter wants to pacify herself with the breast? Usually she will latch on, suck for a minute and then fall fast asleep. Whereas when she actually nurses she actively feeds for about 20 minutes.

Any opinions would be great!
First, I want to agree with everything everyone else wrote...Go with your instincts!
Secondly, at the age of 3 weeks, and even beyond really, comfort nursing should not even be considered "comfort nursing". At that age, the frequency of nursing (even if she is doing it before she goes to sleep), INCREASES your milk supply. By going against your own instincts and listening to others, in this case, you would actually be damaging your nursing relationship/supply becuase you would be interfering with your milk production. Did it occur to them that perhaps she is hungry and when her tummy is full she is able to slip peacefully to sleep??? Always keep in mind that nursing works by supply and demand. The more demand your baby makes, if you fulfil her needs, the more supply your body will make. ALso, expect that there will be times when she seems to nurse ALL DAY, for a few days in a row. It is the same principle at work~she will be trying to increase your supply to meet her growing needs.
Finally, again I read ahead so this pertains to your last posting, my youngest child (who is still nrursing, BTW) was considered high needs. He was also super sensitive to what I ate and reacted to MANY things I ate! (Milk and dairy products, garlic, coffee, chocolate, eggs, tomato products are some culprits that come immediately to mind) We had a crying period EVERY NIGHT from 7 to 11 pm. That lasted until he was well past 6 months. : ( I was also told to try gripe water but I was unable to find it at that time. (I have since seen it on the shelf of my local HFS.) Instead, my ped gave us some homeopathic remedies which helped tremendeously! You could also try crushing up some fennel seeds (6 or so), pour some boiling water over them and let it steep (covered) for 5 minutes then strain. Let it cool in the fridge until it is a lukewarm temp (so it doesn't burn her!) and give 1 or 1 1/2 tsps before she gets too worked up. It will work much like the gripe water.
Oh, and if you eliminate things from your diet, I was told that it would take a full three days to see accurate results. And the reverse is also true~what you eat can affect your babe for up to 3 days.
Feel free to email as I am still new to DS and may not find your posts again! lol (hugs) Your doing great Mama! Hang in there! (hugs!)
__________________
Blessings & JOY!
*Chris~Christian hsing mom to 5: Newest Blessing~homebirth waterbaby~3-17-05
www.SweetBottomCreek.com Bubble Butt STOPS here! Fitteds, All in Ones, Wool care and MORE!
*Chris~tian Mom is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-13-2006, 03:27 PM   #10
Lisa-Rachelle's Avatar
Lisa-Rachelle
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: May 2006
Location: west Tennessee
Posts: 8,214
My Mood:
Re: Nursing to pacify?

Thanks Chris!

You know, I myself have a mild dairy allergy (I take Lactaid to manage it) and I wonder now if perhaps Emma might be sensitive to it as well? I bought Silk soy milk this afternoon and will steer clear of regular dairy items the rest of the week and see if it makes a difference.
The gripe water works wonders, but it's so hard to give her when she is crying because she just spits it all out in her tantrum. I have some of those regular gas drops that they sell over the counter, but I'm wondering what's in them (I hate to put anything artificial into my baby).

I guess I will just have to experiement with my nutritional items and take note of if Emma's restlessness and crying spells change or dissapear. It didn't even occur to me that what I eat might effect her. So many things to think about!
__________________
Lisa
Mom to G, E and S
Lisa-Rachelle is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off

Forum Jump

Copyright 2005 - 2014 Escalate Media. All Rights Reserved.