Where am I going wrong

[TaraB]

my recommendation is either wait a little or maybe do a 3 day potty adventure......no undies play near a potty at all times load with fluids and above all else stay calm dont create a battle. My DS did very well with this. I learned not to force him to sit or to force staying on. The more I pushed the more he asked for a diaper. When I created a calm environment with opportunity and support much better success. DS really disliked peeing on the floor. It really bothered him more than it did me. If he started to pee I would just direct him to the potty and calmly say pee goes in the potty...side note I didnt start until 34 months because at 25 months we had a new baby.

we had toys near the potty and a stack of books.....I packed up the diapers and have never used them again on him...we use cloth trainers for nap and bed...I had a few potty gifts at the end of the first 3 days for saying bye to diapers and hello potty.

[Nerissa]

My take is she isn't ready and to leave it for a bit.

I also firmly believe in waiting till they are ready and if it doesnt' work after a few days, back to diapers and try again later.

We started with DS1 when right before he turned 2, cause I listened to toher mom's advise and everyone said "he is 2 he needs to Pt" After a year of battles, wetting, accidnetns, him not caring, fits ect. I said never again. It was way to stressfull

this time around we waited and DS2 potty trained in a couple days with no accidents, barely any bribes, ther were no tears, no frustraition on anyone's part.

[coquelicot]

If you really think she's ready (and there's no law saying that you have to start right after they turn 2--I waited a few months until I knew DD was ready), then I would say wait on the M&M until after she actually puts something in the potty. The reward for sitting down can be books, coloring, etc.

[EmilytheStrange]

sounds unready to me.

I tried to PT DD when she wasn't ready and she totally understood 'poop in the potty' and did that within the first 20minutes. Then, she peed on the floor 12 times in 2 hours. I'd put her on the potty every time and she just didn't get it.

It's almost time to try again and I'm getting scared :P

[hibiscus869]

Originally Posted by AniMommy My DD turned 2 a few weeks ago. Since she's been about 18 mo we've been encouraging interest in potty training. She wears training pants at home, can hold pee for a LONG time and will tell me she has to pee. I excitedly put her on the potty chair, give her an m&m for sitting on the chair and then....nothing. She'll sit there happily for 5 min, not pee and ask for a diaper to pee in. Then she'll get up. She will keep asking for a dipe or pee on the floor if I don't give her one. It's like she doesn't get that the potty is for peeing in. I got a potty seat for the toilet but had no better luck. I really think she is aware of need to pee but doesn't make the connection to the potty. Any suggestions?

If she can hold it, she can train. If she can ask for a diaper to go in, she can train.

I'd ditch the trainers, do some semi-naked days (dresses are easy) and lots of liquids. When she starts to go, whisk that potty underneath. Carry it with you everywhere, follow her like white on rice. Look at it as bonding time If she starts to see/feel herself going (no trainers, no diapers) and then getting to the potty she'll start to make the connection. With BM's if she poops on the floor get it into the potty and then flush it. Always make a point about how poop and pee go in the potty.

You can do treats if you want, but the problem with treats, IMO, is then you run into the problem of them wanting a treat for sitting, but not producing. It gets muddy. I find cheering and praising work a lot better. When we would have times of sitting without producing I would say, "No potty? Well that was good practice!" So pretty soon my LO would say, "Just practicing," if she sat but didn't go. If she did go she'd stand up, look into the potty, and cheer (this was at 22 months). We'd call dad at work, grandparents, anybody who was ready to cheer with us. We didn't have to use any treats. I don't think treats are bad, it just gets to be a lot of sugar.

If you are ready and committed, she can do it. Really! Good luck

[krispy79]

If she can hold it, shes what people who write potty training books call physically ready. If she can ask for a diaper then she is mentally ready. Not only does she have the ability to control the sphincter muscle, but she is aware she is doing it.
I say pump her with liquids, get the potty chair(s), some towels, and wipes and get it done bare bottom sytle in a few days. The first day can be a trying day but on day 2 you'll sigh relief and be amazed.

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