Diaper Swappers

812ajack · 05-26-2012, 02:48 PM

So my 4 almost 5 yr old DD cut my 2 yr old and 10 mth old DDs hair (yes both!)

It wasn't like I had left some huge pair of scissors out it was actually safety scissors my 6 yr old DD had from school and had just brought home so they were both coloring and cutting paper and I thought nothing of it until..... I fould clumps of hair on my floor and it was dark colored so I knew it had to have been my 6 yr old (it wasn't hers) or my 2 yr old DD (and it was !) I had just gotten to the point where it was about down to her shoulders and all one length so was easy to put up and now its like a mullet on top and EXTREMELY uneven. Then if that wasn't bad enough when I went to give my 10 mth old DD a bath that same a.m. I looked at her head ( she didn't have that much to begin with and its REALLY light colored so was hard to tell) and it looked different so I felt it and it feels like someone buzzed her hair with an electric razor but obviously it was once again my 4 yr old DD. Now I know some of you are going to think I have to take some responseability in this but I can't be hovering all the time. We have 3 floors in my house and I have laundry and cleaning and other things I have to do. So while I take a little I am gonna put most on her cause she KNEW it was wrong, then lied to my face and said she didn't do it til she realized there was no way she was getting out of it so finally fessed up.

I'm not as mad about the 10mth od hair as much as I was her safety. I'm really just worried about her getting hurt in the future if DD does not learn her lesson this time around. I was REALLY mad about my 2 yr olds hair cause I had to get it all cut to make it look even to about 2 inches long and even with it cut its still a little uneven looking because i didn't want to go shorter ( even though it is in some places). I know the babies don't care but I do.

My DH went round about a punishment for her and was just curious what you would do? My DH is being very casual but its because (I know parents aren't supposed to) but he favors my 4 yr old DD and thats exactly why I told him she acts out cause she thinks he'll do nothing and obviously its becoming a MAJOR problem! If one of the other kids would have cut her hair I know he woud have been livid and its hard telling what he would have done (not abusive but certainly would have been up for a strict punishment) So that's why I told him he had to think of what he would have done to one of the other kids if they would have done it. ANd this time whatever punishment we do, he's doing it so she knows its not just me.

Anyways sorry so long but what would you do?

Kätzchen · 05-26-2012, 03:26 PM

Whoa. I have an almost 6yr old and a ten month old, I can't even imagine. I never ever, ever leave my baby unattended with my "acts mature for her age" five year old, because of things like this. I know it's too late to go back now, so I wont get into the dangers and what-if scenarios. I would explain to my older daughter why it is dangerous to use scissors around a baby, and not be overly harsh; but I would also as an adult always monitor any use of scissors. Take it as a lesson learned! As for the hair...I'd have to see it to gauge what I'd do

I always thought my oldest would have given herself a haircut at some point, so far so good.

Hitchkids · 05-26-2012, 03:55 PM

These things happen. Anyone who hasn't had a kid cut someone's hair at some point is totally lucky. We haven't really punished too heavily for this offense. The last time it was our 3-year-old who did the cutting. I would keep the scissors out of reach and not allow the 4-year-old to use them at all for a set amount of time but unless she is caught cutting something else she shouldn't, I wouldn't punish too strictly. Maybe make her do a few chores to earn the money to get the 2-year-old's hair fixed. When our 3-year-old cut hair last time, he cut the 5-year-old's hair so I was more upset at the older child for sitting there and letting it happen. And her hair looked so bad I had to take her in to get it fixed. I was kind of upset because her hair had just grown out fairly long as well and she ended up with an almost pixie type cut. But live and learn. It's just hair and it will grow back. Be thankful it wasn't something that could not be fixed.

812ajack · 05-26-2012, 05:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Kätzchen

Whoa. I have an almost 6yr old and a ten month old, I can't even imagine. I never ever, ever leave my baby unattended with my "acts mature for her age" five year old, because of things like this. I know it's too late to go back now, so I wont get into the dangers and what-if scenarios. I would explain to my older daughter why it is dangerous to use scissors around a baby, and not be overly harsh; but I would also as an adult always monitor any use of scissors. Take it as a lesson learned! As for the hair...I'd have to see it to gauge what I'd do

I always thought my oldest would have given herself a haircut at some point, so far so good.

I know what you're saying but they were the dull tipped saftey scissors and she will be using them at school next year as well so my thought was she has used them before and never had a problem. Like I said I do take some responsablility for it but am not the parent who lets my child think what she did was ok cause I wasn't hovering over her 24/7. Whether it be scissors or toys or anything else kids can find a way to hurt each other. I wish they didn't but they do and all I do is try and minimalize the damage. They were upstairs cutting paper and I had to go downstairs to do laundry. Obviously now that I know she is capable of this even the safety scissors are permanantly gone.

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Originally Posted by Hitchkids

These things happen. Anyone who hasn't had a kid cut someone's hair at some point is totally lucky. We haven't really punished too heavily for this offense. The last time it was our 3-year-old who did the cutting. I would keep the scissors out of reach and not allow the 4-year-old to use them at all for a set amount of time but unless she is caught cutting something else she shouldn't, I wouldn't punish too strictly. Maybe make her do a few chores to earn the money to get the 2-year-old's hair fixed. When our 3-year-old cut hair last time, he cut the 5-year-old's hair so I was more upset at the older child for sitting there and letting it happen. And her hair looked so bad I had to take her in to get it fixed. I was kind of upset because her hair had just grown out fairly long as well and she ended up with an almost pixie type cut. But live and learn. It's just hair and it will grow back. Be thankful it wasn't something that could not be fixed.

I had my 6 yr old cut a little bit of her own hair off last year (in school) so I know it can happen but to me she did that to herself so her punsihment was that I had to get it cut to even it out which was a huge deal for her. That was my point about the punishmen of some sorts cause I don't want anything escalating to where she does injure someone in some way and knows that doing things to other people is not ok.

Anna0623 · 05-26-2012, 08:43 PM

My dd did the same thing last week to my 2 1/2 years old DS, dd is 4. Her punishment was she had to tell him she was sorry and then clean his entire room herself. She was not happy as they had just finished throwing all of the toys on the floor. Dd is not allowed in the office/ sewing room for that reason and DS will do what ever she wants just so she will play with him. She only cut off a little of his hair but I made sure the punishment wa the thing she disliked the strongest so she wouldn't be tempted to do it again.

jessieof5 · 05-27-2012, 09:43 PM

dont be too hard on yourself mama. you cant be everywhere at every minute. hair grows back, although it may take awhile. my dd was 3 when she cut her bangs ( well, made bangs) with regular scissors. I talked to her about why only aunt alyssa ( my sis in law who is a hairdresser) is allowed to cut our hair, and how its dangerous for her to do it. she is 4 1/2 and hasnt ever tried it again so far.
she probably just was trying to act big, you know?
you cant stand behind them all the time.

nannabean · 05-28-2012, 09:52 AM

I wouldn't punish. I would talk to her. She's five and curious. Cutting someone's hair is really irresistible when you have scissors. She just didn't understand the results. You sound like your children are intelligent and that she isn't just a mischievous child. Explain why she shouldn't cut hair and it probably won't happen again.

TwinMommaplus2 · 05-28-2012, 10:21 AM

Take a picture... and then cry

lilac0226 · 05-28-2012, 03:22 PM

Maybe I'm a mean mom, and I'll be honest, I have 4 boys and a baby girl. I think my husband and I agree on this but I would probably require my 5 year old to get a hair cut to match their little sisters. Hair will grow back and this made me think of one of my children that sort of lacks empathy and how I could totally see him doing something similar. Depending on the child, as in the case of my 4 year old son I know to learn anything he would have to experience it himself. If faced with this situation it would not be a traumatic sort of experience, but a guided, your sister has really short hair because you cut it. how would you feel if she cut your hair? Mommy and daddy think it would be fair for you both to have short hair because we want you to know how you made your sister feel. Then you can both have matching haircuts and have your hair grow back together.

812ajack · 05-29-2012, 07:38 AM

We ended up taking away her privileges (like swimming and playing outside for 4 days (just cause we tend to do the number of days by their age) and are amking her clean the living room for 4 days. I felt like she needed more then just being talked to cause she will be in school with access to scissors all day and I didn't want her doing it to someone else's child (cause in this day and age they'd prob sue me for damages)

I understand what you are saying lilac0226 but since the babies aren't in school (and don't really care about how their hair looks) and she will be this coming year I didn't want to cut her hair( if she would have cut my 5 yr olds I prob would have though), especially that short since hers is almost down to her rear already. Although that was my initial angry thought (and my DH saw that and told me to walk away and think for a minute first) I tend to take a while before I punish my kids cause I need a few minutes to calm down and think rationally so I don't do anything angry that I may regret later.

All I can do is hope she learned not to do it again. I think she did. I've calmed down about it a bit. If this is the worst thing she ever does then I'll live with it. lol

05-26-2012, 02:48 PM	#1
812ajack Registered Users Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Indiana Posts: 1,213 Ratings: 64 Feedback: 100%	Daughter cut the babies hair! What would you do? So my 4 almost 5 yr old DD cut my 2 yr old and 10 mth old DDs hair (yes both!) It wasn't like I had left some huge pair of scissors out it was actually safety scissors my 6 yr old DD had from school and had just brought home so they were both coloring and cutting paper and I thought nothing of it until..... I fould clumps of hair on my floor and it was dark colored so I knew it had to have been my 6 yr old (it wasn't hers) or my 2 yr old DD (and it was !) I had just gotten to the point where it was about down to her shoulders and all one length so was easy to put up and now its like a mullet on top and EXTREMELY uneven. Then if that wasn't bad enough when I went to give my 10 mth old DD a bath that same a.m. I looked at her head ( she didn't have that much to begin with and its REALLY light colored so was hard to tell) and it looked different so I felt it and it feels like someone buzzed her hair with an electric razor but obviously it was once again my 4 yr old DD. Now I know some of you are going to think I have to take some responseability in this but I can't be hovering all the time. We have 3 floors in my house and I have laundry and cleaning and other things I have to do. So while I take a little I am gonna put most on her cause she KNEW it was wrong, then lied to my face and said she didn't do it til she realized there was no way she was getting out of it so finally fessed up. I'm not as mad about the 10mth od hair as much as I was her safety. I'm really just worried about her getting hurt in the future if DD does not learn her lesson this time around. I was REALLY mad about my 2 yr olds hair cause I had to get it all cut to make it look even to about 2 inches long and even with it cut its still a little uneven looking because i didn't want to go shorter ( even though it is in some places). I know the babies don't care but I do. My DH went round about a punishment for her and was just curious what you would do? My DH is being very casual but its because (I know parents aren't supposed to) but he favors my 4 yr old DD and thats exactly why I told him she acts out cause she thinks he'll do nothing and obviously its becoming a MAJOR problem! If one of the other kids would have cut her hair I know he woud have been livid and its hard telling what he would have done (not abusive but certainly would have been up for a strict punishment) So that's why I told him he had to think of what he would have done to one of the other kids if they would have done it. ANd this time whatever punishment we do, he's doing it so she knows its not just me. Anyways sorry so long but what would you do? __________________ Happily Married 1- DS age 9 DD's ages 6 and 7 a 3 yr old DD and my newby DD born 8-6-2011 and expecting #6 on 6-12-13!!

05-26-2012, 03:26 PM	#2
Kätzchen Registered Users Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 1,488 Ratings: 8 Feedback: 100%	Whoa. I have an almost 6yr old and a ten month old, I can't even imagine. I never ever, ever leave my baby unattended with my "acts mature for her age" five year old, because of things like this. I know it's too late to go back now, so I wont get into the dangers and what-if scenarios. I would explain to my older daughter why it is dangerous to use scissors around a baby, and not be overly harsh; but I would also as an adult always monitor any use of scissors. Take it as a lesson learned! As for the hair...I'd have to see it to gauge what I'd do I always thought my oldest would have given herself a haircut at some point, so far so good. __________________ Last edited by Kätzchen; 05-26-2012 at 03:30 PM.

05-26-2012, 03:55 PM	#3
Hitchkids Registered Users Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 1,158 Ratings: 16 Feedback: 100%	Re: Daughter cut the babies hair! What would you do? These things happen. Anyone who hasn't had a kid cut someone's hair at some point is totally lucky. We haven't really punished too heavily for this offense. The last time it was our 3-year-old who did the cutting. I would keep the scissors out of reach and not allow the 4-year-old to use them at all for a set amount of time but unless she is caught cutting something else she shouldn't, I wouldn't punish too strictly. Maybe make her do a few chores to earn the money to get the 2-year-old's hair fixed. When our 3-year-old cut hair last time, he cut the 5-year-old's hair so I was more upset at the older child for sitting there and letting it happen. And her hair looked so bad I had to take her in to get it fixed. I was kind of upset because her hair had just grown out fairly long as well and she ended up with an almost pixie type cut. But live and learn. It's just hair and it will grow back. Be thankful it wasn't something that could not be fixed.

05-26-2012, 08:43 PM	#5
Anna0623 Registered Users Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Virginia Posts: 1,563 Ratings: 113 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Daughter cut the babies hair! What would you do? My dd did the same thing last week to my 2 1/2 years old DS, dd is 4. Her punishment was she had to tell him she was sorry and then clean his entire room herself. She was not happy as they had just finished throwing all of the toys on the floor. Dd is not allowed in the office/ sewing room for that reason and DS will do what ever she wants just so she will play with him. She only cut off a little of his hair but I made sure the punishment wa the thing she disliked the strongest so she wouldn't be tempted to do it again.

05-27-2012, 09:43 PM	#6
jessieof5 Registered Users Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 32	Re: Daughter cut the babies hair! What would you do? dont be too hard on yourself mama. you cant be everywhere at every minute. hair grows back, although it may take awhile. my dd was 3 when she cut her bangs ( well, made bangs) with regular scissors. I talked to her about why only aunt alyssa ( my sis in law who is a hairdresser) is allowed to cut our hair, and how its dangerous for her to do it. she is 4 1/2 and hasnt ever tried it again so far. she probably just was trying to act big, you know? you cant stand behind them all the time.