Reply Hey Mom! Learn more about the Gerber Life Insurance Grow-Up Plan!
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
Old 01-15-2012, 08:37 PM   #1
shouldbedoinglaundry's Avatar
shouldbedoinglaundry
Registered Users
seller
seller
 
Join Date: Jul 2010
Posts: 1,141
A nightmare of a visit to a friends' house with my boys

Sometimes I really think boys are harder to manage than girls as small children. Tonight we were at a friends' house for dinner. They have a baby and a two-year-old. My husband and I brought over our 2 and 3 year old boys. The hosts were totally sweet, made dinner for us and were wonderful hosts. My three-year-old was an absolute monster; talking back, throwing toys around the house, snatching toys from the two-year-old and even slamming his fingers in a door. It was just a nightmare...Will we ever be able to take him anywhere? Will we ever be able to go to someone's house without things getting out of hand or feeling like we have to apologize every five minutes? Does anyone else, a parent of boys or girls, ever have this happen?

Advertisement

__________________
ex-pat mama raising four boys bilingually in Germany.

My ISO/IHA
http://www.diaperswappers.com/forum/...3#post15551593
shouldbedoinglaundry is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 01-15-2012, 08:47 PM   #2
omahonycm's Avatar
omahonycm
Registered Users
seller
seller
 
Join Date: Feb 2011
Location: Ireland
Posts: 2,326
Re: A nightmare of a visit to a friends' house with my boys

My DD is only 19mo, but I can tell you're just feeling awful. I know we all have those rough nights. And I'm anticipating many in the future. Wish I could help, but just wanted to drop in with a
__________________
Marie - Living my dreams! Mama to a bright and busy big girl, a sweet little toddler girl and expecting a surprise in November! If I'm not with my daughters, then I'm or doing or spending time with the husband or... what else? here on DS!
omahonycm is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 01-15-2012, 08:52 PM   #3
mcpforever's Avatar
mcpforever
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: Bama
Posts: 11,740
My Mood:
Re: A nightmare of a visit to a friends' house with my boys

It gets better. My 9yo DS1 is awesome. He's kind, sweet, and can even make dinner conversation and knows how to complement the cook. He sighs and is patient with his younger brother, who is 3.5 and a BEAR at dinner time. If he gets overly hungry NOTHING makes him happy and we have to really just put our foot down and make him eat so that he can tolerate himself. You can tell when his blood sugar starts to rise a bit because he goes from demanding little prince to sharing and smiling and just being stinkin cute.

And he likes to throw things. My eldest son and my daughter not so much, but DS2 is DRIVEN to throw things. I don't know if it's the arm motion, the visual of seeing an object in motion, or the CRASH that does it for him, but I do have to stay on him about it. We got him a little indoor exercise trampoline for Christmas and it is the.best.thing. He can bounce his little heart out and not get in trouble. I think an inflatable punching bag is on my list for his birthday.
__________________
Melissa-Wife, mother to DS 4/02 and DD 4/07, DS 7/08 DD 7/13
ISO: my lost shaker of salt
mcpforever is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 01-15-2012, 08:53 PM   #4
mrs_blazen's Avatar
mrs_blazen
Registered Users
seller
seller
 
Join Date: Jun 2010
Location: Las Vegas
Posts: 721
Re: A nightmare of a visit to a friends' house with my boys

I know it's hard! My 23mo boy can really be a handful sometimes! Sorry I have no words of wisdom because I'm right along there with you. Here's to hoping it does get better!
mrs_blazen is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 01-15-2012, 08:57 PM   #5
ktmelody
No Longer Here
 
Join Date: Jan 2007
Posts: 20,289
My Mood:
It gets better. But as a mom of 6 girls and 1 boy, I personally think its a personality thing than a gender thing. I have had three girls that were terrors until they were 4. 3 girls were as sweet as pie and my son played with trains for the first three years of his life and we barely heard a peep from him.

All I can say is that it gets better. Always has for me at least!
ktmelody is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 01-15-2012, 09:02 PM   #6
Emmie000's Avatar
Emmie000
Registered Users
 
Join Date: Jun 2011
Posts: 23
3 year old are tough. My sweet boy turned into a screaming back talking monster the day of his third birthday. I like to say three is two with vocabulary lol. I hope it gets better but I'm in the throws of it now
Emmie000 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 01-15-2012, 09:03 PM   #7
reneaumommy
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: Jul 2008
Location: IL
Posts: 833
Re: A nightmare of a visit to a friends' house with my boys

I'd like to raise my hand! I have 2 boys ages 2.5 and 4. I truly don't know how I survive sometimes.

Last summer my MIL and I took the boys to Pizza Hut for lunch. This crazy couple came in and sat at the table beside us. The boys were being pretty good and the guy next to us looked at me and said "You need to take those kids back to your trailer." The boys were laughing and apparently he wanted to eat in peace (so why did he sit next to us when there were lots of other tables, even another room!). As a side note my boys are always well dressed and clean (and I have nothing against those who do live in trailers).

The very next week DH and I took them to eat and they were wound up because we had been at the dealership all afternoon buying a car. The couple at the table next to us started to say something and I held my breathe out of fear since the week before it had not been so nice. The were commenting on how well behaved our boys were. No sooner than it came out of there mouth my 3 year old jumped up ran over AND PULLED THE FIRE ALARM. It was horrible. The restaurant owners were very understanding and just kept saying oh he's just a little boy. We waited until the Fire department got there and my son did not speak the rest of the day (Not one word) I think he was in shock.

On another lovely family outing we were at seaworld with my inlaws. I left the 3 year old with my FIL and I went to get our lunch. I came back to find my son had taken off his tennis shoe and threw it in the lake!

Do I need to go on or are you feeling a little better.....?
reneaumommy is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 01-15-2012, 09:22 PM   #8
Almacham's Avatar
Almacham
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: May 2010
Location: Slytherin House
Posts: 15,947
My Mood:
Re: A nightmare of a visit to a friends' house with my boys

OP, it does get better! My son is 5 years old and he used to be so, so, so energetic. His dad would come back from the store and say, "He ran all over the place - I couldn't contain him!" He used to throw things and jump around like a monkey. He's matured a lot just in the past 6 months, and is acting more like "a little man", kwim? They do calm down eventually.

3 year olds are still just babies, really. You can discipline them and teach them the concept of being well behaved and polite, as you should, but they still don't really "get it" yet. It will click if you are persistent but patient.


Quote:
Originally Posted by reneaumommy View Post
I'd like to raise my hand! I have 2 boys ages 2.5 and 4. I truly don't know how I survive sometimes.

Last summer my MIL and I took the boys to Pizza Hut for lunch. This crazy couple came in and sat at the table beside us. The boys were being pretty good and the guy next to us looked at me and said "You need to take those kids back to your trailer." The boys were laughing and apparently he wanted to eat in peace (so why did he sit next to us when there were lots of other tables, even another room!). As a side note my boys are always well dressed and clean (and I have nothing against those who do live in trailers).

The very next week DH and I took them to eat and they were wound up because we had been at the dealership all afternoon buying a car. The couple at the table next to us started to say something and I held my breathe out of fear since the week before it had not been so nice. The were commenting on how well behaved our boys were. No sooner than it came out of there mouth my 3 year old jumped up ran over AND PULLED THE FIRE ALARM. It was horrible. The restaurant owners were very understanding and just kept saying oh he's just a little boy. We waited until the Fire department got there and my son did not speak the rest of the day (Not one word) I think he was in shock.

On another lovely family outing we were at seaworld with my inlaws. I left the 3 year old with my FIL and I went to get our lunch. I came back to find my son had taken off his tennis shoe and threw it in the lake!

Do I need to go on or are you feeling a little better.....?
Are you serious?!?!
Almacham is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 01-15-2012, 10:38 PM   #9
mibarra
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: Aug 2011
Posts: 9,012
Poor mama. Other parents understand! I have two girls, so it's not the same, but the almost 3 year old is a pretty rough and tumble girl. I actually like it when we go play with 'those crazy boys' cuz they are much less sensitive when my little wild woman does things like go down the slide and kick them in the back or take their firetruck and smack them in the face with it.

To the poster who was at a resturaunt when the man said you should take your kids back to your trailer, what an utter jerk that guy was. My response would have been, "Oh, is that where you learned YOUR manners?"
mibarra is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 01-16-2012, 08:35 AM   #10
kateroc's Avatar
kateroc
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: May 2009
Posts: 835
Re: A nightmare of a visit to a friends' house with my boys

I often wonder when we'll be able to leave the house without apologizing every few minutes, and our second boy is still just a baby! oh... how I'm dreading the day when he starts walking/talking/terrorizing We went out to dinner last night (something we DON'T usually do -- just not worth the stress) for my niece's birthday. Two of the highlights were DS1 breaking free of DH's clutches and running around the restaurant, "Daddy, I go fast!!!" and him throwing a (stuffed) toy that hit another diner in the back. Thank goodness all the guy had to say was, "nice arm!" It could have been much worse. Sigh...
__________________
Kate, mama to three crazy boys! Owen (3/30/09) , Rory (8/18/11) and Brennan (8/3/14)
kateroc is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off

Forum Jump

Copyright 2005 - 2018 VIX-WomensForum LLC. All Rights Reserved.