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Old 12-12-2017, 11:13 AM   #1
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I feel so bad but I let her cry to sleep

Last night I finally had it with one of my twins and her sleeping problems. I feel so bad but I let her cry herself to sleep last night at 11pm after trying for hours and truthfully weeks of trying to get her to sleep. She constantly wakes up screaming and nothing works to calm her down. I have literally tried everything, read books, researched online what to do and nothing has worked. It is getting to the point not only is she waking her sister but now the whole house multiple times a night. I still feel bad about letting her cry by herself but I was just so frustrated at that point. I am just praying tonight goes better.


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Old 12-12-2017, 11:25 AM   #2
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You will be ok and so will she.

I have let various ones of my children cry at different times for different reasons. Usually the first 1-2 nights are really rough but after that you are golden.
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Old 12-12-2017, 11:30 AM   #3
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I have no advice. I don't think I was the best at managing the kid's sleep. I just got lucky that most of them slept well.

It sounds like you really have to try this way for your own sanity.
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So sorry, mama. That's no fun. We did it with DS twice and I felt terrible both times and hoped he wouldn't remember in the morning. He never seemed to. My mom told me (and she's no expert, but she wasn't a bad mom) that you have to do what you need to do to keep your own sanity. She was safe in her bed and now you can be a better mama when you get more rest. You know, some babies get abused when their parents get frustrated. Crying safely in your crib isn't so bad.
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Thank you all. I just had hearing my babies cry.


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Last night was worst than the night before. I have got to figure something out before I go insane.


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Yuck we also spent a month or two laying on the floor in his room. He didn't cry then, and sometimes if I tell him to lay down he would. When that started working, we gradually moved farther and farther from his bed until we were laying in the hall and then eventually we were able to just walk away.
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Also, and I know you have kids and know this, but at first I worried about building bad habits with him - like if he becomes dependent on one of us laying in his floor or rocking him or laying down in our bed with him, etc, but then I realized that at this point I don't actually care about building bad habits. At some point the house just needs to be able to rest, and even if you build bad habits, she's just a babe - there's plenty of time for her to get over them, and she'll probably change on her own in a few months anyway. So just do whatever you can get to work. Even if it's laying down in your bed with her and then transferring her once she's asleep. Even if it's warm milk and bread pacifier and 3 cookies before bed. Even if it's letting her cry. If that works, go with it and this too shall pass
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That is why I am losing my mind, nothing works. When she wakes at night she just sits and cries no matter what I do. If something worked then I would be ok but nothing has worked. It is like she cannot her herself to sleep but for the first six months she was the best sleeper even sleeping through some nights.


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