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Old 01-03-2008, 11:57 AM   #1
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Question What do you "expect" from a 15 month old?

Let me preface this question by saying my husband and I are both only children and therefore have no nieces or nephews and didn't grow up with younger siblings. So, babies and toddlers are kind of foriegn to us.

Anyways, we have an about-to-be 15 month old son. He is VERY head strong. He lets us know what he wants, generally by pointing or just screaming his head off. A mini-tantrum, already? Yikes. Especially if it involves food. The kid is a food-hound.

He likes to be defiant and is obsessed with trying to get over the baby gates, playing with electrical cords, knocking over the dog's water bowl, etc.

At what point is gentle discipline appropriate? How do we even do that?
Is it even worth it at this age? Also, his new thing is hitting people in face. If he gets into something I've left out, that is my fault. But hitting to us isn't really acceptable. We try to say "No, Hugs instead" but he REALLY like smacking people in the face. It's kind of horrifying. Is this normal?

I really have no idea what a 15 month old acts like.
Any input? Advice? Resources?
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Old 01-03-2008, 12:38 PM   #2
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It all sounds normal for an active 15 month old to me, but certain relatives think my kids are brats so who knows. Just keep redirecting and distracting him. Definitely let him know it's not okay to hit. I used to say "No hitting" and sit my kids down on the floor, turn around and ignore them for about 30 seconds. They don't like to be ignored. Yes, they do have tantrums at that age. They can't tell you what they want, so they scream. If he does point at things, you can say what they are to help him learn. You could try baby signing too. There are books that explain it and show you the common signs. Also look for child development books. They will tell you what is common at each age. There may be websites for this stuff too, but I haven't checked, since it's been so long since I've been a first time parent. No internet back then. Boy I feel old!!
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Lots of redirection still at that age....But everything he is doing is completely normal.
I will be at that stage soon with my youngest, right now I'm dealing with the horrific threes...Now thats a stage I really dont like...LOL
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Lots of redirection still at that age....But everything he is doing is completely normal.
I will be at that stage soon with my youngest, right now I'm dealing with the horrific threes...Now thats a stage I really dont like...LOL


Because anyone dealing with the 3's just needs some, lol.
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Because anyone dealing with the 3's just needs some, lol.
Thanks so much Gosh its awful...

Getting whacked and bitten a few times by my 1 year old is a walk in the park from a three year old...

But when you do only have one child going through each stage is a challenge when you've never done it before...

OP you will find what works through each stage as your LO experiences the world around him...

Just breathe....LOL I know sometimes what it can be like when your at the end of your rope...
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Lots of redirection still at that age....But everything he is doing is completely normal.
I will be at that stage soon with my youngest, right now I'm dealing with the horrific threes...Now thats a stage I really dont like...LOL
I have heard a LOT of people talk about how horrible the 3's are. My son has been an angel (comparatively speaking) since the day he turned 3! For us, it was pure misery from 18 months until his 3rd brithday.
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I have heard a LOT of people talk about how horrible the 3's are. My son has been an angel (comparatively speaking) since the day he turned 3! For us, it was pure misery from 18 months until his 3rd brithday.
Oh you're lucky.... I have never been so glad to say goodbye to a phase in my life. My son was the meanest little 3 year old I have ever came across and I swear with his 4th birthday, he shed his evil skin and became my little angel again. I'm pretty sure demons took over his body from his 3rd b-day to his 4th.
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Oh you're lucky.... I have never been so glad to say goodbye to a phase in my life. My son was the meanest little 3 year old I have ever came across and I swear with his 4th birthday, he shed his evil skin and became my little angel again. I'm pretty sure demons took over his body from his 3rd b-day to his 4th.
So theres hope....
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It's funny because my son was the stubborn one but he was more INTO things then my 15 month old DD... She is more of a hitter/biter/scratcher/pincher... and I can say with absolute certainty, it's normal. We give 2 chances... one is a warning, 2 is putting her down, walking away and ignoring her while she throws her fit. At this point, they don't really grasp the consequence for their behaviour so all you can hope for is that they realize that that you don't like what they are doing. It takes some time for them to really learn that hitting/biting/etc is bad. A great book is "Unconditional Parenting" by Alfie Kohn, it's my kid-bible I also agree with PP, baby signing helps because they have so many thoughts and emotions they don't really know how to express in words, but with signs, they can. (No, it doesn't take it ALL away but helps)

15 month olds are just learning how to push boundaries and exploring that things they do get a reaction from you, whether it be laughing, yelling, etc... so if you just don't GIVE them that reaction, they are liable to quit what they are doing and go on to find something that will.
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