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Old 10-02-2016, 12:44 PM   #1
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Adoption and name changes

If you have adopted a little one (not adopted at birth), did you change their name(s)? Why or why not? This is something DH and I are discussing currently and I would love to hear what others have done.

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Old 10-02-2016, 12:56 PM   #2
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I have never adopted, but I did legally change my son's first name when he was about 15 months old. It took a good six months to really think of him by his new name. We paid our older kids a penny each time they called him by his new name, for the first two weeks, and it didn't take them long to always refer to him the right name. I'm glad we didn't wait any longer, because by 18 months he was responding to his name. It would have been a lot harder on him if had been even a few months older.
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I'm adopting and planning on changing her name but then putting her given name as her middle name so she keeps it still. I will be adopting a child until 3, internationally. My thinking is that people learn to respond to different names all the time. There are nicknames that I gained as an adult that I have no issue responding to now. Children gain nicknames and learn to respond to it.
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We knew a foster family that did change their names. The bio situation they were in was very bad and there was lots of trauma and bad memories. They gave every child who came into their care a nick name (something like sunshine or buddy,ect) ,they would call them by their name also but most kids really loved having a nickname. When they adopted a sibling set they changed their names but kept calling them by their nicknames most of the time anyways. They let the kids help choose their new names and they were thrilled with it. The kids were 7,6,4and 2 at the time of the name change.
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Are you calling them by their bio name now?

My sister foster adopted. She kept their first and middle name but gave them a second middle name that had a tie to their bio family and then her last name

But she didn't have a bad experience with the bios
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We knew a foster family that did change their names. The bio situation they were in was very bad and there was lots of trauma and bad memories. They gave every child who came into their care a nick name (something like sunshine or buddy,ect) ,they would call them by their name also but most kids really loved having a nickname. When they adopted a sibling set they changed their names but kept calling them by their nicknames most of the time anyways. They let the kids help choose their new names and they were thrilled with it. The kids were 7,6,4and 2 at the time of the name change.
My sister had a student in her class that was adopted late in life. she was able to help choose her new name
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Old 10-02-2016, 02:04 PM   #7
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There is this women I follow on YouTube. They adopted a 3 sibling set. They did change their names. They wanted new names for their new life. A sort of rebirth.

The kids ranged from preteen to young child.
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My husband and I did a stepparent adoption with my oldest son. We let him decide what to do with his name. We told him he had the option of not changing his name at all, Christopher *bio last name* *adoptive last name* or changing his middle name completely and adding his adoptive last name. He chose the second option.
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My sister had a student in her class that was adopted late in life. she was able to help choose her new name
They were really excited to help pick their names. The two and four year olds had some very interesting suggestions like butter and McDonalds! They were a neat family and it seemed like the transition went smoothly after the adoption.
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We changed our daughters name. When we 1st brought her home from the hospital we called her a nickname ( shortened version of her bio name...as we didn't like her bio name). And it stuck and 2 years later we legally changed it to the nickname plus new middle name and our last name.
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