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Old 07-20-2018, 07:40 PM   #11
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ETA: Don't let him turn it into a mom's house vs dad's house you're awful for not having "good" food. It does sound like a LOT of really big chanegs in a short time and at a sensitive age...if he starts going to school now (access to food) plus spending some time with dad/grandma, I can't see how locking food up (or any other thing you do at home) will help him at all, but it can at least keep him from taking all of what is meant to last for the family. I would give unlimited access to vegetables and water only, serve healthy balanced meals with aage appropriate serving sizes (no snacks) at set times, and lock or keep out of the house everything else. But I can't see making a change like that when your baby is coming now and he's starting school. Has his doctor ruled out medical reasons?
His Dr has only tried talking to him about it, since he doesn't really have any other health issues. She had been really on my case about his weight for over a year, until he finally confessed to her that all he drinks when he's gone (I know, don't turn it into a dad vs us thing) is coke and he gets all junk food. The Dr did ask to see him on a Friday before he went for visitation and the following Monday when he came back, and he was 4lbs heavier. She sent a note and email to his dad about it.

I've just taken to not buying the things I know he overeats the most. Any kind of flavored crackers (which I was buying just for him and dh, since my fetus 'beetus won't allow for carbs), grapes, anything premade, instant oatmeal, etc.

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Old 07-20-2018, 07:43 PM   #12
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Today was the best we've had in several weeks. I did have to keep him out of the house for that to happen though, which is hard when you're 20 minutes from any towns. We went into town, ran some errands, then came home and I gave him the choice of working in the garden or his supplemental schoolwork, and he chose the garden. He worked quite a bit out there, came in for dinner (1 burger from our cow and zucchini fries) and then read the rest of the evening.
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So happy to hear that!
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Op it is going to be necessary to override the two parent requirement for counseling. You will have to go back to court and present the facts to the judge. Your son is on a path that leads people to weighting 600 pounds. It will be a difficult road to turn this around but your son has no ability to control/fix this.
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Sorry so late, but a few quick thoughts. I don't know where in Indiana you are, but rather than talk to the pediatrician for advice, I'd be seeking out help from your county Mental Health Association. They provide referrals and family support. Talk to the director of the child/family division and see if she has a counselor who can support your family.

Lock up the food. It doesn't mean you aren't feeding him. This is a health and safety issue, with no doubt in my mind. It sounds like an emergency. It's time to stop being strictly a mom and to start being an advocate for your troubled son. You can do it. It looks like Indiana doesn't necessarily have a robust safety net for troubled children, but I found some links. Even in a more socialist state like mine, New York, the resources are thin. But these are some things to chase down, and I have a phone number for you too. It really is time to bring whatever resources you can muster to bear on this issue for your son's sake. Best of luck mama.

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