View Poll Results: Should we get our son a cell phone? (DH wanted me to do a poll!)
YES! He should have it available when he goes to biodad's and available in his backpack at school. 11 10.19%
YES! He should have it available when he goes to biodad's, but not in his backpack during school. 32 29.63%
NO! He should not have a cell phone. Period. 60 55.56%
Mandatory Other - Explain! 7 6.48%
Multiple Choice Poll. Voters: 108. You may not vote on this poll

Reply Hey Mom! Learn more about the Gerber Life Insurance Grow-Up Plan!
Thread Tools Display Modes
Old 08-19-2013, 11:04 AM   #51
Registered Users
Formerly: FaeryGnomeHome
Join Date: Jul 2006
Posts: 16,561
Re: Hear me out - what age to give a child a cell phone?

Originally Posted by Belle View Post
I voted no.

If biodad is not communicating out of spite, or because he's trying to hide something from you then giving your son a cell phone won't help. Biodad can just take it away from him. That's something that needs to be handled through the courts, and the responsibility of the phone or calling shouldn't be put on the 5yo

If biodad isn't communicating because he's flaky, but otherwise things are okay when your son visits, then there's really no reason he would need a cell phone.

At school, on the bus, 5 is way too young. I guess I think 5 is too young in general to handle a cell phone wisely on his own.
This. And while my 5 1/2 year old loves to play on my phone, there's no way I'd give her one to take care of on her own. She would lose it the first day. And to be honest, there's no reason to worry that she's not safe while she's at her dad's house despite lack of communication. I don't call to check on her because she's where she should be and she's not left to her own devices to get herself from Point A to Point B. That's just too much responsibility to place on her to ask that she call me while she's with daddy. I might ask my 13 year old or MAYBE my 8 year old but even then.....probably not.


Last edited by 3rockstars; 08-19-2013 at 11:06 AM.
3rockstars is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-19-2013, 02:49 PM   #52
Junipervt's Avatar
Registered Users
Join Date: Jul 2008
Location: VT
Posts: 6,824
My Mood:
Re: Hear me out - what age to give a child a cell phone?

I voted yes to take to biodad's house (would let biodad know he has it), but would get something easy to use like this
Kathlin wife to Errol mama to my big girl Kezia (4/08) , my ft woolie wearing little guy Cowan (11/10) , & rainbow babe Agnes (10/13) we're a co-op dwelling family I blog [/URL]
Junipervt is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-19-2013, 03:23 PM   #53
mommy2kaitlyn's Avatar
Registered Users
Join Date: Oct 2006
Location: Western South Dakota
Posts: 16,125
My Mood:
My answer is No. I don't think that age is responsible enough. I won't even let my 10 year old have one and I can come up with a pretty good list for pluses to it.

Currently using my "Smart" phone.
Proud Single Mommy of: 1 & 9 angels in heaven. Swags
I will not change my belief's, actions, parenting style, etc just because it offends you! I won't be offended by your belief's, actions, parenting style, etc either. ISO Goodnites Coupons
mommy2kaitlyn is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-19-2013, 06:21 PM   #54
joyful mother
Registered Users
Join Date: Jan 2007
Location: Pacific Northwest
Posts: 4,354
Re: Hear me out - what age to give a child a cell phone?

What does your husband say? He might have a better feel than any of us for if it is really necessary.

I personally do not call my kiddos when they are spending time with someone else but they can always call me. Are you fine with dad calling him and talking with him at your house? Are you fine with dad checking in on him throughout the week? Cause it really has to go both ways.

Another thought, would his dad like to be able to contact him when he is at your house without going thru you? If so he could have one for when he is at either house. Maybe dad would even split the bill.

Would dad be fine with putting in a landline so ds could call you if he wanted while he was there? Or maybe dad would be willing to let him use his phone and could tell him so.

And I would make sure my kiddos didn't feel like they have to call me for any reason.

My oldest kiddos are almost 15 and 13 and they just take our cheapo phone with them when they go somewhere, I don't see the need for them having their own.

Edited to add:
I agree with the person that said you don't want to make your son feel their is reason to be scared of being at dad's. You need to help him feel safe. Very good point! I know my kiddos definitely can tell how I feel about things and respond accordingly.
Crissi wife to my very best friend for 20 yrs. Momma to 3 boys and 3 girls, 7-almost 18 yrs old!

Last edited by joyful mother; 08-19-2013 at 06:31 PM.
joyful mother is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-20-2013, 09:31 AM   #55
Self Ban
Join Date: Aug 2009
Posts: 4,600
My Mood:
Re: Hear me out - what age to give a child a cell phone?

5 is WAY too young. He may also not be allowed to even have it in his backpack at school so I would check on that.

IMO kids need cell phones once they start going out ALONE without a parent OR someone you know being in charge. For example my boys are 9 and 10 (almost 10 and 11) and we've dropped them off at track a couple times and done running around until they are done. Next spring if I find I am leaving them at the track club on their own more often I will be getting them a phone. They've also been to the park once alone for a little while (it isn't near our house otherwise I would let them go more often at their ages) they could have used a phone (they were only "alone" for about 20 minutes) if we start letting them go there alone more often they will need a phone.

Last edited by mg5g; 08-20-2013 at 09:33 AM.
mg5g is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11-15-2017, 07:04 AM   #56
DanielaLee's Avatar
Registered Users
Join Date: Apr 2015
Location: Los Angeles
Posts: 84
Re: Hear me out - what age to give a child a cell phone?

I gave my son his first cell phone when he started to attend school. He knows he can use it only for calls and message sending, I also told him I spy on him via parental control lol ( this one ). I suppose it's just another safety measure, why not.
DanielaLee is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 02-27-2018, 09:01 AM   #57
Registered Users
Join Date: Jul 2013
Location: Michigan
Posts: 11
My Mood:
Re: Hear me out - what age to give a child a cell phone?

I would just get him a phone that does calling & texting only - no data, no apps, no games
KittyRen is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 02-27-2018, 09:49 AM   #58
Pixi6s's Avatar
Registered Users
Join Date: Apr 2009
Location: NH
Posts: 9,766
My Mood:
Re: Hear me out - what age to give a child a cell phone?

I have no experience with your situation, nor do my kids have a cell phone (4 & 8 - though I have been asked).

I voted yes for just bioDads. Not a smartphone and a plan with limited allowed numbers to call. But I would be ready for it to be lost/broken/left at bioDads. Keeping it charged also an issue but if just using for a weekend away, you charging it once would probably work. I wouldn't expect him always to answer either - and that doesn't mean he is not okay.

I think a better solution would be to try to setup a practice that he calls you to say goodnight / good morning from his cell phone or bioDads phone.
Mom to LO#1 born 1/7/2010 (Cloth diapered since day 1; Part-time EC since 9 months; Daytime PL since 29 months; Nightime PL at 5.5 years) & LO#2 born 12/1/2013 (First diaper was cloth! Part-time EC since 12 months & Daytime PL at 26 months) Checkout my absorbency tests. Thoughts on how long a cloth diaper REALLY lasts. Thoughts on Yeast , here, here, here & here. How to Wash Wool & Sanitize Wool. Everything must go! 2T Nght Fitted Trainer, Baby Wearing
Pixi6s is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 02-27-2018, 10:42 AM   #59
jen_batten's Avatar
Registered Users
Join Date: Oct 2008
Posts: 11,171
Re: Hear me out - what age to give a child a cell phone?

This is from 2013, so this kid is now ten.

Personally I would have said no cell phone, and work on communication with bio dad. You may not be together but you will be co parenting for many years. It would be best to model a functional relationship for DS, and it would have obvious gains for the bio mom and bio dad as well.

Also, I get being concerned about your child when they aren't around, but unless bio dad has a history of putting DS in harm's way, the lack of trust/desire to control the other parents time is unfair. I am guessing the bio mom would not be happy if bio dad did not trust her to parent and keep the child safe, and he called frequently to see where the child was and make sure he is ok.
jen_batten is offline   Reply With Quote

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off

Forum Jump

Copyright 2005 - 2018 VIX-WomensForum LLC. All Rights Reserved.