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Old 10-24-2012, 09:19 AM   #31
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Re: Picky Eater- am I being too hard on her?

I think this is very child specific and would be cautious about the 'go to bed without supper' philosophy as a blanket for all kids. My DD is very picky, but she has gotten much better as she has gotten older. When she was 2 or 3 there were few foods she consistently ate, and it was very challenging. Now the other challenge is that she is very tiny, off the growth chart tiny and every calorie is important to her. She NEEDS to eat. Had we taken the go to bed hungry stance, we could have been in big trouble with her weight, because she would have chosen to go to bed hungry every single time. As an adult, I can't imagine someone telling me I had to eat what was on my plate or go to bed hungry-imagine being in a foreign country and not knowing or understanding what was on your plate. Would you choke it down?

We do our best to always serve something that the kids will like, and some new stuff (kind of like the food chaining idea) and ask that they try each thing, but I don't force the issue if they don't care for it (no one says they hate or don't like something in our house, I prefer they say they don't care for it). We make a huge deal when we discover a new food item that they like and try to be really positive about those wins, rather than focusing on the things that were misses. When they try something and didn't care for it, we say, well at least you tried it.

I think it is important to offer variety, encourage new things and celebrate the successes, but for some kids, food is just tough. I don't want meal time to be dreaded in our house. There are totally times when I lose my mind after cooking an awesome dinner and think it will be a winner and it totally isn't, but then there are also times when they totally surprise me and love something (potatoes au gratin for instance-so much sauce, so much mixing, but she loved it).
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