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[tesslouise]

DD#1 turned 3 today. We've been talking all summer about no more milkies when she turns 3. I nursed her before bed last night and again, we talked about saying goodbye to the boobies. She did ask to nurse at 3 a.m. (she's been in her own crib/bed since 17 mos. and night-weaned since 23 mos., BUT she's been sneaking into our bed at night for a couple weeks, just recently), but we got through the morning fine and she fell asleep in the car at naptime and transferred to her bed.

Then she woke up from her nap and was absolutely hysterical. I have NEVER seen a tantrum this bad. Her eyes were still red at bedtime! And I wound up nursing her because I just couldn't bear it. And we got through the rest of the day and even bedtime without milkies.

But here's the thing. I'm 35 weeks pregnant. I do NOT want to nurse two kids. So please reassure me that weaning is an okay thing for me to be firm about right now. That DD#1 will, despite the drama, actually survive this transition. Because I am tired and not very rational, and hubby works in another state Monday a.m. to Friday evening, so this is all on me.

[hpfgirl]

Way to go for making it this long. She will certainly survive without the milk, but she will still need plenty of mommy time.

[SenoraE]

It may be easier than you think, and it may not. It will be hard to tell until she sees her younger sibling nursing. I think a critical step will be developing some special mommy time like the PP said. Hopefully it will be a smooth transition for you all. Thinking of you!!! You're doing what is best for you and the whole family - don't be hard on yourself!

[tesslouise]

Well, she's been weaned since Monday officially, but she's nursed at least once every day--ranging from me giving in because she was hysterical (Monday) to me waking up to find her latched on (Thursday). There's a lot of begging. "But Mommy, I'm still two. Just one song on each side? PWEASE?! If you don't nurse me, I will put you in the washing machine! Oh no! I will NEVER have milkies EVER AGAIN!" And so on.