Reply Hey Mom! Learn more about the Gerber Life Insurance Grow-Up Plan!
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
Old 08-06-2010, 06:19 PM   #11
MamaNae's Avatar
MamaNae
Registered Users
seller
seller
 
Join Date: Jun 2007
Location: Iowa
Posts: 6,365
My Mood:
Re: she told me to just RELAX and let him have Pampers.

1) Defriend this chick. Life is too short to have needless drama on Facebook of all places.

2) Before you defriend her tell her to mind her own business and worry more about HER child and less about yours.

3) Is there anyone that can be sure to pick DS up before Crazy Lady gets there? Can you arrange for Grandma to have him in another room with a monitor in a swing or something (provided he's not upset/crying or something) while Crazy Lady is picking up her DD if you're late?

Good luck!

Advertisement

__________________
Renae. Helpmeet to my hottie hubby, Josh. Devoted Mama to my Wolf scout-bookworm-sports-a-holic James (7), my Daisy Scout Princess Aldria (5) and my 2 year old Tornado Emmett and [COLOR="Magenta"] and my tiny squish Cora Paige! (May 2013)
MamaNae is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-06-2010, 07:48 PM   #12
briannah
Registered Users
 
Join Date: May 2009
Posts: 136
Re: she told me to just RELAX and let him have Pampers.

No better advice than what was already posted... just wanted to offer support! I hope things get better for you, it's so hard feeling pressure from family when you're a first time mom. I've just decided that people are crazy and you (and maybe his dad), as the mama, are the only one that truly has your child's best interest at heart!

Good luck to you!
briannah is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-06-2010, 08:15 PM   #13
Bethany89's Avatar
Bethany89
Registered Users
seller
seller
 
Join Date: Apr 2010
Location: Ohio
Posts: 5,760
My Mood:
Re: she told me to just RELAX and let him have Pampers.

It kind of sounded like you were leaning to just stop working and being with your LO. If so, do it momma! If your mommysenses are telling you not to send your LO there, TRUST THEM! I really believe that moms have senses like that and we need to trust them. Do whatever makes you feel comfortable. If you are going to be at work, stressing over it.. Its not worth it.
Good luck
And as for that lady.. Man I have trouble keeping my mouth shut, so she would have got an earfull!
__________________
Bethany - Wife to Andrew, Momma to C (01/2010) & B (07/2012)
Bethany89 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-06-2010, 08:16 PM   #14
Bethan_77's Avatar
Bethan_77
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: American Midwest
Posts: 2,733
My Mood:
Re: she told me to just RELAX and let him have Pampers.

Check your local LLL for ladies who provide childcare in an ap environment. My LLL was full of them, me included.

Also, with an income of 15K is it in your famiy's best financial interest for you to return to work? Crown financial has some calculators for figuring that out. I left my job my first year and did on call work for my hospital, but after all the hassle and unhappy time for dh and dd, and paying for special tax forms via hr block, we figured out it totally was not worth the time spent or money earned. Crazy.
__________________
SAHM to my July 2007 DD and Sept 2010 DS, SAHWife to my DH. ISO: BG organic cotton aio, Sposoeasy L, Simplex L, all boysih/GN. Girls Stride Rite 13 or larger, Boys 6 or larger.
Bethan_77 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-06-2010, 08:19 PM   #15
doodah's Avatar
doodah
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: Nov 2008
Location: USA
Posts: 9,958
Re: she told me to just RELAX and let him have Pampers.

sounds like a nightmare but you are right, there are a lot of mamas on here that have troubles with relatives. anyway, hope you are able to find what you are looking for with daycare but I know that is going to be tough. Just from the nature of AP (being physically attached to a young child) greatly limits you. I don't think any center would work for you because even if there is a super low ratio (3 or 4 infants to one adult) means that your child will only have 25% of attention from that one adult. It will be challenging to find someone who is willing to do babywearing or "in arms" if that is what you are looking for. If you aren't sure about going back to work anyway and don't have to, I would stay home for at least one more year. It will just be hard to find someone to provide that one on one attention when you are on a tight budget but like other PPs said, its not impossible. Why not put out a few feelers and see what comes up?
doodah is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-07-2010, 02:07 AM   #16
Arabesque's Avatar
Arabesque
Registered Users
 
Join Date: Jul 2010
Posts: 3,171
My Mood:
Re: she told me to just RELAX and let him have Pampers.

Trust your mommy instincts - you have them for a reason.
Arabesque is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-07-2010, 10:29 AM   #17
stinkelein
Registered Users
 
Join Date: May 2009
Posts: 663
My Mood:
Re: she told me to just RELAX and let him have Pampers.

My response in these types of situations is to let the other mother know that we all make different decisions and unless said decision is a burden to her (which diapers you use is none her beeswax) she has no say. We all choose what works best for us and our values.
__________________
Barbara mom to GRC 8/24/05 and JPFC 12/08/07 and MCC 7/18/10 married Chris 2/14/05 I fell off my parenting high horse years ago and plan on staying there.
stinkelein is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-07-2010, 03:17 PM   #18
hilaryisinked's Avatar
hilaryisinked
Registered Users
seller
seller
 
Join Date: Jan 2010
Location: Mobile, AL
Posts: 26,236
Re: she told me to just RELAX and let him have Pampers.

mama
__________________
Hilary, head over heels wifey of a Coastie
Mama of Aubrey & Delaney
.
hilaryisinked is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-07-2010, 03:39 PM   #19
logansmomma07's Avatar
logansmomma07
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: Jul 2007
Location: TX
Posts: 1,285
My Mood:
Re: she told me to just RELAX and let him have Pampers.

Ugh, definitely delete her I deleted ALL of my IL's except my FIL. I no longer speak to them because I was sick of their comments and drama. My life is so much more peaceful...
__________________
Proud AF wife, birth & postpartum doula, happy to be a SAHM to my 2 sweet boys, L (3yo) and D (2yo), and surprise! due March 2011!
logansmomma07 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 08-07-2010, 03:53 PM   #20
luvsviola's Avatar
luvsviola
Registered Users
seller
seller
 
Join Date: Dec 2006
Location: Central Indiana
Posts: 17,103
My Mood:
Re: she told me to just RELAX and let him have Pampers.

I would just consider her crazy and ignore her/unfriend her, honestly.

SIL is like that. It just isn't worth getting upset about because it won't change anything except give her more fuel to be hateful.
__________________
Kristen
Middle school teacher by day, super mom by night
Mommy to The Boss~2007, The Energizer Bunny~2009, and The Princess~2011
My kids are no longer in diapers, but somehow, my computer keeps finding its way back here...

Last edited by luvsviola; 08-07-2010 at 03:54 PM.
luvsviola is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off

Forum Jump

Copyright 2005 - 2014 Escalate Media. All Rights Reserved.