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Old 09-08-2010, 03:22 PM   #211
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I guess you could say my Dh and I are church leaders. We are involved with many things at the church and Dh is a trustee.

I don't see how this Mama going to a different room to nurse is helping to keep this man from stumbling. It does nothing to help him with his problems. It's ENABLING him and his problems.
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Old 09-08-2010, 03:23 PM   #212
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The problem here is not hers or his. It's OURS as a society. WE as a society have drawn a line between what is considered improper and proper. Then we expect people to pick sides, with the health of our children at stake.

So maybe he has some issues with breast and over sexualizing them. Maybe he never saw them used for nursing. Maybe his mom never BF'd him or his siblings. Maybe she was taught that it was wrong. Is that his fault? Is that the OP's fault?

How can our boys look at breasts that are flaunted everywhere and understand their roles if they are never taught what that role is?

I personally never BF'd in public, because I am a shy and private person. That is my personal choice. I chose to do so not for other people's comfort but for my own.

My breasts are both sexual and practical.
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Old 09-08-2010, 03:25 PM   #213
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I'd inform the pastor that that is the male's problem not yours. Maybe he should seek some counseling.
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interesting that he is using your BF support group as a marketing tool but asked you not to publicly nurse....
Kind of low if u ask me!
And this.

I would suggest counseling as well since he seems to have crossed wires on the function of the breast [at the moment of feeding]. Equating breastfeeding with a sexualization/sexuality indicates a deeper issue.
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I stand by my statement, if you can't use a cover go to a private room.
No thanks. But I do have a blanket anyone is free to throw over their own head if a nursing mama bothers them that much.
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Re: Asked not to nurse my son at church b/c...

I didn't read all 6 pages . But I wanted to add my two cents:

I am extremely non-confrontational. If somebody at my church every said anything negative about me breastfeeding my son in church, I would leave and never, ever return.

I am very sorry for your experience, and wish you the best. And I would most definitely NOT invite your breastfeeding friends to the church, since they would obviously not be welcome and because you apparently have a pervert that likes to ogle. Ogling is a form of sexual harassment. It kind of makes me sick to know that a pastor would ask a parishioner to leave so they aren't sexually harassed, rather than addressing the actual problem.
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No thanks. But I do have a blanket anyone is free to throw over their own head if a nursing mama bothers them that much.
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Then she could go to a private room, church is not the place to be bare breast, nursing or not.
You obviously have not read the OP. She does not bare any breast.

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I stand by my statement, if you can't use a cover go to a private room.
I hope this applies to yourself, too. If you cannot use a cover when eating, feel free to excuse yourself and use a private room.

Comments like yours are why nursing is still so taboo in our society.
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