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Old 02-11-2011, 06:34 PM   #1
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I really really really need to vent.

So I hope this is an appropriate place to do that.

I am so tired of feeling attacked every time I mention something about or relating to benefits of breastfeeding. My intention and tone is never holier than thou, and I never have said or implied that I am better than anyone because I breastfeed.

I was involved in a discussion about co-sleeping safety today, and a few formula feeding mothers were incredibly offended by the mention of a study that showed that the common link to co-sleeping tragedies was formula feeding. I was not even the one who brought up the article.

This is not the first, and I am sure not the last, but what about the comments I get from people that I should breast feed at home or in the bathroom or cover up. Or what about the people who let me know how gross it is to nurse a toddler? Because I breastfeed, I automatically think I am better than everyone and don't have feelings?

Thank you if you got this far. I actually feel much better just getting that out.

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Old 02-11-2011, 06:48 PM   #2
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Sorry mama! It is frustrating :/ I *try* and just let it go. Sometimes I think that formula feeding moms are upset they were unable to continue BFing(I know my cousin regreted it after she stopped) and became almost hostil towards me until I found out it was because she wishes she still was.

Also once we were out to dinner and a lady asked if I could feed my DD in the bathroom. I just ignored her but a few minutes later her meal came and DH asked if she could go eat her dinner in the bathroom so we wouldn't have to watch her eat...:P
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Old 02-11-2011, 06:51 PM   #3
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Re: I really really really need to vent.

I think that those who formula feed get defensive pretty quick. In some ways I don't blame them because there are those out there who come on pretty strong about breastfeeding and I know this because I am one of them. We are so emphatic about how great it is, how it's best for baby, the bond that you get, etc etc that we can come across pretty strong. Maybe the ff moms felt that the person who brought up the article was saying that formula feeding caused the deaths. If I were one of those mamas I may have gotten offended too. That would be like if someone who ff said, "I found this article that said that all of the deaths from _________involved breastfeeding." Can you imagine how that might make you feel? For sure it's annoying sometimes. I ignore the looks and I am nursing a toddler, mind you a pretty big one so she looks even older! My sister teases me all the time about still nursing and most people look shocked that I am still nursing. But, I figure if I do it in public enough, maybe I can change one person's outlook, kwim? I totally understand the vent, just try to imagine where they might have been coming from. I know a lot of ff mamas tried pretty hard to breastfeed and they need our support too!
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Sorry mama! It is frustrating :/ I *try* and just let it go. Sometimes I think that formula feeding moms are upset they were unable to continue BFing(I know my cousin regreted it after she stopped) and became almost hostil towards me until I found out it was because she wishes she still was.

Also once we were out to dinner and a lady asked if I could feed my DD in the bathroom. I just ignored her but a few minutes later her meal came and DH asked if she could go eat her dinner in the bathroom so we wouldn't have to watch her eat...:P
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Old 02-11-2011, 11:18 PM   #5
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Re: I really really really need to vent.

I know. I agree. I think that some of the hostility that comes from FF moms are from either

A.) They regret that they couldn't or didn't BF
B.) Have been "attacked" by BFers so much that they automatically go on the defensive when BFing is brought up.

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