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Old 03-19-2007, 03:24 PM   #1
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How long after M/C?

So, we are back to the drawing board, so to speak, to concieve #2. I had a miscarriage at 10 weeks on the 6th. Now I'm wondering how long to wait before trying to concieve again. The Dr. and midwife say I'm good to go; just wondering what other's experieces have been after a miscarriage. I think I'll wait a couple months, is this long enough? Will the grieving hit me again after I concieve? If some would be willing to share their experience, I'd be so very greatful. TIA!



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Old 03-19-2007, 03:43 PM   #2
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I had a m/c on Dec. 10th. I conceived on the third cycle after that. I just wanted to get back to trying, which helped me through the grieving.
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Old 03-19-2007, 03:43 PM   #3
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Hey, mama - I had a miscarriage before I conceived DD....... I got pregnant in January and had a mc early Feb....... then waited to TTC one cycle (which took FOREVER because I had retained tissue and my mc lasted almost 2 months ugh!). I got pg again 6 months after the mc started.

I'm going to be honest, pregnancy was TERRIFYING! On one hand, I was so glad that I had a healthy, wonderfully growing baby in my belly when my due date from the mc baby came and went......... BUT the first... I'd say 20 weeks were REALLY hard - I was just so scared something would happen!

ALSO - When I got pg for the 3rd time with DS, I was also completely and utterly terrified. For some reason, with his pregnancy I had more complex feelings of being distant from bonding with him until about 26 or so weeks... It was very odd. I just didn't feel "safe" until he could safely be born I guess?

It is so hard to tell how a miscarriage will affect one person from the next and one pregnancy to the next!

Good luck, mama. I'm so sorry for your loss and with you lots of good sticky baby dust
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Old 03-19-2007, 03:50 PM   #4
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I had a m/c at 11 weeks, my doc gave us the go ahead to try right away but he told us not to have our hopes too high as the chances of getting pregnant were pretty low. He said the chances would increase as time went on, with things getting back to "normal" around 3-6 months. It ended up taking 10 months to conceive again and that was the only time we ever had trouble.
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Old 03-19-2007, 03:53 PM   #5
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Re: How long after M/C?

It is hard to say how you will be when you get pregnant again

I will also be honest with you on my experience, I am and was a total wreck, it is getting much better though. I had 2 MC before this one now and this pregnancy I was just always nervous, worried, and couldn't really be happy. I finally made it to 11 weeks and I feel pretty good, I still have a panic attack every once in a while but it has calmed down. The doctor did a weekly US for me as I could not take meds for the panic attacks and it helped me stay calm most of the week. If you get this way just find a very supportive and concerned OB that will work with you.

As for other woman, some cope well, I have a friend who was upset for about 2 days and wanted to be left alone and now she is ready to try again. She gets a little upset but hardly at all. I think it all about your own personality. Just lean on people for support and you will make it through the tough first part of pregnancy. Time might even go faster, you never know!
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Old 03-19-2007, 03:59 PM   #6
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I had my first m/c in June 2000, we conceived Julia (dd #2) in August 2000 & since the first pg & mc were totally unknown/unplanned (my OB told me at my "pre-ttc" appt that I was m/cing) I never really went through grief, etc & had an uneventful/unstressed pg (i figured it was a fluke). While ttc #3 we had 3 back to back m/cs, the first was at 11wks & I wanted to start ttc again right away (needed a D&C), I got pg again about 6wks later but m/c'd again a few days after my BFP, then got pg again 6wks later & m/c'd that pg at 10wks (another D&C). After the 3rd in a row I figured something was wrong & I needed to see a specialist & wait at least 3mos before ttc again. It meant I had to pass that first babys due date (april 8th, I'll never forget) which was really hard but I was also focused on figured out how to stay pg at the time so that was the top of my priorities, not mourning. I did get pg that cycle & had Sofia, but I was scared to death the entire time until I held her. I was pregnant when I passed the 1st anniversary of the 3 m/cs & was too worried about Sofias pg to think about it so the 2nd anniversary was ALOT harder to go through.
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