Reply Hey Mom! Learn more about the Gerber Life Insurance Grow-Up Plan!
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
Old 04-13-2011, 02:57 PM   #21
mommabritt's Avatar
mommabritt
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: Jul 2008
Location: Currently MO; but wherever the Marines send us. SoCal at heart.
Posts: 9,876
My Mood:
Re: How to tell my parents who wont be happy?

Quote:
Originally Posted by Kriket View Post
You got better advice from the other mamas, I would have been angry last time when they made comments, and probably wouldn't tell them this time. Let them hear it through the grape vine, or figure it out, then when they ask "why didn't you tell me?" give them the truth, that I didn't want the same negativity I got last time.
OP, Im sorry your feeling this way. I have been in your position and still four years later can remember words that were said.

I have to agree with this PP though. I would be likely to let them hear about it rather than be vulnerable to their hurtful words. Regardless of the opinion about a new child, NO ONE has a right to say hurtful things. It is a child for crying out loud.

Advertisement

__________________
Hi, I'm Brittney
Wife to one amazing man.
Mom to FOUR amazing blessings.

***IDSO Salt Water Sandals- White, Toddler 7***
mommabritt is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-13-2011, 03:16 PM   #22
starsrmndmeofyou's Avatar
starsrmndmeofyou
Registered Users
seller
seller
 
Join Date: Mar 2008
Posts: 2,261
My Mood:
Re: How to tell my parents who wont be happy?

mama- i have no advice - but i know where you are coming from- With my second pregnancy my grandmother told me i should go get an abortion - and then with my 3rd I sent her a card telling her not to contact us until she could be happy- which was after he was born - ugh!
__________________
Stephanie - wife to J and mother to EA (6) ,DT(5) DA(4) and EG (2). .
starsrmndmeofyou is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-13-2011, 03:37 PM   #23
Geron Girls
Registered Users
 
Join Date: Jul 2008
Posts: 67
Re: How to tell my parents who wont be happy?

You've gotten some great advice. We didn't tell people until we were at least 16 weeks the last three times. And then we told them with a HUGE smile on our faces and "We are so excited to tell you about our latest blessing." And we told my inlaws first and let them spread the word through the rest of the family so by the time we saw them everyone had time to school their reactions.

We are very different from everyone on both sides of the family. People have gotten used to it - mostly.

We'd love to have another.

Congrats on your newest wee one! May you only encounter people who are excited for you and love on you!
Geron Girls is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-13-2011, 08:56 PM   #24
luvsviola's Avatar
luvsviola
Registered Users
seller
seller
 
Join Date: Dec 2006
Location: Central Indiana
Posts: 17,103
My Mood:
Re: How to tell my parents who wont be happy?

I'd make I'm Preggo announcements and mail it to them!
__________________
Kristen
Middle school teacher by day, super mom by night
Mommy to The Boss~2007, The Energizer Bunny~2009, and The Princess~2011
My kids are no longer in diapers, but somehow, my computer keeps finding its way back here...
luvsviola is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-15-2011, 11:19 AM   #25
cowangel's Avatar
cowangel
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: Feb 2008
Posts: 2,190
My Mood:
Re: How to tell my parents who wont be happy?

Send a text message with the first U/S picture?
cowangel is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-16-2011, 09:23 AM   #26
NewCDMomTiff's Avatar
NewCDMomTiff
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: Feb 2011
Location: Missouri
Posts: 46
My Mood:
Re: How to tell my parents who wont be happy?

Quote:
Originally Posted by angel0123 View Post
Really like this. Made me cry. I am such a bag of hormones.

Most likely will use it.
Welcome to pregnancy. LOL! I cry at everything too.
NewCDMomTiff is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-16-2011, 10:41 AM   #27
Taylor
Registered
 
Join Date: May 2006
Location: Northern Illinois
Posts: 604
Re: How to tell my parents who wont be happy?

Quote:
Originally Posted by nannabean View Post
What about prefacing the announcement with a bit of warning. "I know last time were weren't thrilled, but I wanted you to know first". That way they can maybe see that their reaction stuck with you and think before they speak this time.
This is how I would do it, just because I'd want them to know that their reaction previously bothered me. Goodluck. I was in the same position when announcing this pregnancy. Try your best not to let the downers lessen your excitement about the pregnancy. I know it's hard.
__________________
Taylor; Lovin' my soldier & enjoying him home! Mama to Gabriel (5) & Xavier (4), Mason (18mos.) & IT'S A GIRL! Evelyn Grace is due 10/11.
Taylor is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-16-2011, 10:55 AM   #28
momof4kidz's Avatar
momof4kidz
Registered Users
seller
seller
 
Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: Ohio
Posts: 1,738
My Mood:
Re: How to tell my parents who wont be happy?

Just don't do the Facebbok thing. It blew up in my face. Mom was upset that I didn't have the guts to tell her in person and my sister has unfriended me and refuses to talk to me or even be in the same room.

I like what nannabean suggested and if they start being negative after that just leave. Tell them to contact you when they are ready to be happy for you.
__________________
Cloth diapering cosleeping Catholic mom of 5 (3 successful VBACS) Number 6 is on the way!
momof4kidz is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-16-2011, 10:58 AM   #29
bootiecutie
Registered Users
 
Join Date: Sep 2010
Location: Hawaii
Posts: 421
Re: How to tell my parents who wont be happy?

I said
"hi dad! Just wanted to let you know, I'm pregnant, I'm happy, and I don't want to hear about it. ok?"
__________________
S, hippy-elitist-turned-semi-redneck mama to DD, 3, expecting #2 10/14/11
bootiecutie is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-16-2011, 12:48 PM   #30
angel0123's Avatar
angel0123
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: Jun 2006
Location: Canada
Posts: 10,799
My Mood:
I plan on using that letter via email. I just can't bring myself to tell them in person. I will tell my kids , parents and fil. I think it will all come out 3-4 wks from now when I almost 12 wks.

I wish it was fall and I could hide it all winter. Hard to hide under form fitting t's.
__________________
Laura the mama behind More Than Cloth Diapers, FREE Cloth Diaper Directory
angel0123 is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off

Forum Jump

Copyright 2005 - 2014 Escalate Media. All Rights Reserved.