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Old 04-15-2011, 03:14 PM   #21
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I posted on here a couple of years ago about what was going on but I can't find the posts so I'll share a little here and try to make the long journey short as possible...

I had 2 miscarriages prior to our first son. Had a few minor difficulties during his pregnancy. Didn't know I was pregnant with DS2 took a HPT and found out I was, a few days later I had thought I peed myself only to find out I was bleeding and passing clots. I thought I lost the baby. Went to the ER they told me I miscarried. Had a sono done and DS2 was in there. I was originally carrying twins and lost one of the babys.

I was put on bed rest and had clots in DS2 sac that were a huge concern to the doctors as well as the tear in my placenta (loss of our little angel) that wouldn't provide him enough nutrition to continue to grow. At 4mths they adviced me to end the pregnancy because I had a 60% chance of bleeding to death internally and that he wasn't going to make it. I refused and prayed for my son and I to make it, prayed alot. The more I improved the worse his chances were becoming. It was very difficult for us.

Then at about 7mths I had placental abrubtion. After that everything was looking better and better each day for both of us, made no sense to any of us.

When he was born he had pneumothorax (sp) and his kidneys were not developed. He was not breathing on his own and again they didn't think he would make it. He did! He underwent surgery to remove oxygen (that they provided him with) from his chest cavity hours after he was born. His hemangioma on his temple on his face was not a tumor and faded away by the time he was 3mths old. Miracle after miracle. The doctor said that with any further pregnancies I will be risking my life.

I did get pregnant again in 2009 and miscarried early on

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Old 04-15-2011, 03:52 PM   #22
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That is such a powerful story. I'm so sorry you had to go through that. You have been through so much and your family is blessed to have such an amazing mama. The story I just read is one of true love of a mom for her babies.

Sounds like you are a praying mama and I will lift you up in prayer right now.

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That is such a powerful story. I'm so sorry you had to go through that. You have been through so much and your family is blessed to have such an amazing mama. The story I just read is one of true love of a mom for her babies.

Sounds like you are a praying mama and I will lift you up in prayer right now.

Thank you. I am a praying mama. Without god in my life I do not think I could have ever made it through. I just prayed and prayed and put my trust in him. I was so worried my DS1 would be left with no mother
and daddy left to raise him and possibly DS2 on his own. Something told me that everything will be fine to just hang in there so I did.
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Holy doodle. No wonder you're terrified of becoming pregnant again. Was the doctor able to tell you what happened and why s/he thought that it would repeat itself if you became pregnant again?
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Old 04-16-2011, 07:35 AM   #25
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Holy doodle. No wonder you're terrified of becoming pregnant again. Was the doctor able to tell you what happened and why s/he thought that it would repeat itself if you became pregnant again?
Not with a medical term just that I have had bleeding in all of my pregnancies which has caused the losses mentioned. With DS1 there were clots in there with him as well just not an amount that would harm him or I.
He did say that there was substantial damage to my uterus that would prevent me from carrying full term, in time it may heal itself but no guarantee. He even went as far as discussing a hysterectomy with me but I declined, I was only 29. They took my placenta to examine it and see if they could come up with anything that would explain things but came up with nothing.
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Ugh- evidently I get clots as well and had 3 mc and 1 molar (unrelated, I know) before I had a doctor who would actually investigate the issue. I did have clots with DD#2 that were kept in check with baby aspirin and prometrium but I did have some bleeding as well. Can you see a specialist to see if there has been any long term damage to your uterus?
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No insurance at the moment. We were/are planning to adopt in about 5yrs and before we make that decision I will go and see if there is some kind of exam they can do to find out for certain if I can carry without extreme risks (even though there really is no 100% guarantee). He did have images and photos that were taken during my ceserean and a sonogram afterwards that showed my uterus when we discussed the hysterectomy, honestly I didn't understand any of it or know what it was supposed to look like. He was hopeful about it healing but felt he needed to let me know all of my options. I have never had an OB before that truley cared for my well being and my family before him. He took alot of time to discuss options and hopefulls with Chris and I. He was there everyday to visit me and my son who was in NICU, he is a very kind and caring man and I am so thankful for having an OB that was actually there for us through EVERYTHING.
I'm sorry you have been through mc and molar :-(
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Oh yeah, I tend to forget about the insurance thing- sorry. It is so hard to find good doctors these days, eh. They are so often detached that they border on cold. Take care of you
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It looks like you are in Canada, you don't have to have insurance there do you? Are costs cheaper for care there?
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If he is so sure he is DONE, then why hasn't he gotten a vasectomy?
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