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Old 05-13-2011, 06:11 PM   #1
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Question adopting "waiting children"?

What is the best way to adopt 5 yr or younger, or babies of mixed race /african american babies?
what is the cheapest way to adopt outside of the foster system?

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Old 05-14-2011, 07:19 AM   #2
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Through the foster care system is really your bestvway for cheap. I've never seen any waiting children those ages that didn't have special medical needs or at least one in a sibling set. That's here though. May be different where you are.
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Cheapest will be adopting through foster care, next would probably be a completely private word of mouth adoption or a sliding scale or faith based agency. But I'm just guessing there.

In our county 30% of the kids available to be adopted through foster care were AA in 2008. That's the last year data is available for. I think another 10-15% were mixed race. So I think if you prefer to adopt those races foster care could be a good fit. A lot of information is available online including statistics about age, disability and race.
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Re: adopting "waiting children"?

Yeah i agree that foster care is probably your best bet. Why are you trying to avoid foster care? There are a lot of benefits to adopting through foster care, and a lot of myths about the process and the kids available.
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Old 05-14-2011, 07:05 PM   #5
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I emotionally, physically, and spiritually cannot handle fostering at this time. dh and I have not come to that decision lightly. Our very close cousin and a friend are both foster parents, and it is a WONDERFUL thing! I have a very hard time with letting kids go. Down the road, I hope to be more open to that. I am working on it. dh and I are not looking ot adopt now, but rather, later down the road. (several years) my BIL is looking to adopt now though. Race is just not an issue at all for us. We were told (and this could be incorrect) that there are black babies who sit because someone doesn't want that race. that is not us, and we are just looking to be able to help a child. Looking more into it, dh and I are looking more into a special needs child. The information we were finding is that we need to start saving RIGHT NOW to afford an adoption ni the next 7 years, so we were looking for cheaper ways. Are there special foster parents for special needs children? it breaks my heart to know that they are not in a stable home, when they perhaps need it more than anyone. thanks, Ladies!
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There are special needs children that are legally free for adoption through foster care. Most states have a place you can view these waiting children and then you can request more info. If they are already legally free for adoption, then you wouldn't have to be a foster parent to the child prior to adopting, just have to go through a home study and such.

As far as AA children not having homes, that can be true to some extent, but not as much as you think. There are often agencies that do not have a home for an AA baby right away, but are able to find a home for that baby relatively quick. A lot of agencies have a lower fee for adopting children that are AA or mixed AA because of this, but it's still not that much lower than other races. American Adoptions has a program like that. You can be on the program that is only for AA or mixed AA children.
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Tami, can you send some sort of link? We live in IN if it makes a difference. THANK YOU!
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There are of ways that you could adopt a kid from foster care without the chance of that kid getting taken away from you. For instand there was just a sibling set of toddler girls available whos parental rights were being terminated as soon as they found an adoptive placement. You can choose to take only a placement like that, where tpr is inevitable. In some places this almost never happens but in other places it may be more common. I would think that this would be especially true for special needs kids and sibling groups, that the would already have tpr and just waiting for forever homes.

I dont even know if domestic agencies have older special needs kids available that often, and i would think you would still be talking around 10,000 even with the reduced fee for aa adoptions.
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thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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There are of ways that you could adopt a kid from foster care without the chance of that kid getting taken away from you. For instand there was just a sibling set of toddler girls available whos parental rights were being terminated as soon as they found an adoptive placement. You can choose to take only a placement like that, where tpr is inevitable. In some places this almost never happens but in other places it may be more common. I would think that this would be especially true for special needs kids and sibling groups, that the would already have tpr and just waiting for forever homes.

I dont even know if domestic agencies have older special needs kids available that often, and i would think you would still be talking around 10,000 even with the reduced fee for aa adoptions.
Understand that this is still a legal risk placement - until the rights have been terminated by the court and the appeal date has past or the appeals have been done there is no guarantee that a TPR will be granted. Most are, but not all and I've seen some denied and some overturned on appeal. Its rare, but it happens. (not to discourage anyone but just so people understand what they are up against). Workers/agency can make promises, hope for xxx but if the judge doesn't agree...forget it and workers make recommendations to the court, the judge decides. They don't TPR first as they don't want to orphan a child as a "bad" family is still better than no family.

All adoptions come with legal risks. Its hard and nothing is guaranteed.
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