View Poll Results: When is a child/was your child old enough to use public restrooms by themselves?
4 or younger 6 11.76%
5 12 23.53%
6 5 9.80%
7 3 5.88%
8 or older 25 49.02%
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Old 05-18-2011, 09:58 AM   #11
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Re: Age and accompanying kids to restrooms

I think it depends on the style of restroom and if your child is old/tall enough to get on and off the seat themselves. I worked at Girl Scout camps for 5 years and I have seen 10 year olds that still feel like they "need" someone to stand right outside the door. But I have also seen independent 4 year olds who need no help at all. It differs from child to child.
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Old 05-18-2011, 09:59 AM   #12
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I voted and then realized I may have misread your poll. I read it as "old enough to go to the restoom unattended" and not into the stall unattended. None of my children ages 3, 5, and 8 go to the restroom unattended in a public place. If Daddy isnt with us, they all go with me into the womens. If the large stall is open, we all go in there together and take turns...mostly to keep from blocking up four stalls and so that they arent hovering in the waiting area for me and YDS. I do not go into the stall with any of them though if I dont have to go. They are all potty independant, including my 3yo. Now if it is a single bathroom with a lock on the door, I will wait outside and send them in together. Our McDonalds play area has one of these as does our Ped's office lobby. I can see the only entrance/exit and I am comfortable with that.
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Old 05-18-2011, 10:04 AM   #13
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DS (4) goes into the stall without me to pee...if he has to sit down we will try to find a handicap stall or family restroom that all three of us (me, ds, and dd) can fit into.

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Old 05-18-2011, 10:14 AM   #14
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I usually will check the seat before I let my 5 year old sit, then I go in the stall next to her with my 3 year old who still needs assistance. There is usually never a time when we don't all have to go - so we just go together.
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Old 05-18-2011, 10:17 AM   #15
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Re: Age and accompanying kids to restrooms

My 4 and almost 6 year olds go in the stall alone. I wait in front of the door. My 4 year old son goes in the ladies room with us and will for many years to come. I'm not sure when I'll let them go completely by themselves, I don't think it will be soon.
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Old 05-18-2011, 12:43 PM   #16
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Re: Age and accompanying kids to restrooms

I go with my almost 5 year old still. I wipe the toilet down (it's always wet with either pee or water from the toilet) and hand her TP to wipe with when she is done so she doesn't have to stand up and drip on her undies or the floor. I guess I'm a bathroom helicopter parent! LOL
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Old 05-18-2011, 12:54 PM   #17
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Re: Age and accompanying kids to restrooms

I think it depends on the age of the child AND the location of the bathroom/number of stalls/cleanliness etc.

For example, my DD is 3 (almost 4). I will let her use the bathroom independently at Burger King (while I supervise my other DD in the playarea) if I first check the bathroom and determine that no one else is in it. I do the same at the public restroom in our local park. I would let her use the single stall bathroom at the mall alone, or the one at the library. I would NOT let her use a public toilet at an arena or concert venue with lots of stalls/other people in it.

I am not concerned about germs on toilet seats TBH. As long as the seat looks clean, we sit and pee. So, I don't need to supervise toilet paper distribution. I am confident that DD can wipe, and wash her hands independently. My only real concern about her using a public restroom alone is the concern related to other people in the restroom.....which I know is highly unlikely to be an issue.....but unfortunately its fresh in my mind as there was a 4 year old not far from here who was molested in an arena bathroom last summer. Child went in, mom was right behind her, but the guy pushed the door closed and locked it....then left with the child through an alternate exit. She was found in the wooded area behind the building (alive) shortly thereafter.
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Old 05-18-2011, 01:23 PM   #18
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My 4 year old goes in the stall by herself but not the bathroom. I don't lay down toilet paper or paper seat covers and see no need to.
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Re: Age and accompanying kids to restrooms

I voted according to going into the stall because that's how I read the OP. So I voted 4 or younger. To go into the stall alone, that would be as soon as the child is actually capable of taking care of business alone. That means getting the pants down and up, wiping, etc.

Now, for actually going into the restroom alone, that would depend on the situation. If it's just a one toilet restroom, no stalls, probably around the same age. Similar if there's only like 2 stalls and just one way in and out. One of those giant like 30 stall places with doorways at both ends, like they have at amusement parks or sports stadiums, probably not until like 8 to 10.
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Old 05-18-2011, 01:58 PM   #20
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Re: Age and accompanying kids to restrooms

My boys won't go in with me anymore, so I just have to trust that they are okay in a bathroom alone. They are 7 and 9 (and I trust them, it's the strange men in the men's room I don't trust). My daughter is 5, and she has the choice of her own stall or in with me (most of the time). She's old enough to do everything on her own. I wouldn't send her into a bathroom by herself, though if she's with DH... not much longer before I think I'd prefer the woman's room alone to the men's room with Dad.
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