Spinoff... gentle discipline & so on...

[MamaMel]

I don't spank my DS I redirect him to something else. If he's really acting out or "throwing a fit" I give him a hug. I don't do time outs either I just remove him from the situation. Right now though, we are dealing with him hitting and trying to find the appropriate way to discipline that. Got some good advice from mamas on here. But he is finally learning that things hurt (from him getting "boo boos) so when I tell him that it hurts he kind of gets it.

[mother4JC]

Originally Posted by Fiveblessings We don't spank regularly, or for minor offenses. But we do believe it is an appropriate method of discipline sometimes. We also don't think it is inherently wrong because the Bible advocates spanking, so it fits in with our beliefs.

[Shannon]

We use spanking in our house...along with other forms of disipline and positive reinforcement. I know I'm in a minority here but the term "gentle parenting/disapline" really bothers me(offends) because the opposite of gentle is rough and I don't like that if you aren't labeled "gentle" you automatically fall into the "disrespectful..mean" lable. I find it highly unfair to assume that because we choose to spank as one form of disipline.

JMO.

[ChurchPunkMom]

No spanking here!
I am kind of curious as to why you say the Bible advocates spanking..

[Shannon]

Originally Posted by ChurchPunkMom No spanking here! I am kind of curious as to why you say the Bible advocates spanking..

"Spare the rod, spoil the child"

amongst others

[ChurchPunkMom]

The rod (or shebet) was used to gently guide the sheep - not for beating them into submission.
http://gentlechristianmothers.com/articles/rodstudy.php

[Carrie]

I don't really consider myself an AP mama. We encouraged weaning (after 1 year), encouraged independent sleeping at 6 months, didn't babywear much until recently, etc. I'm very attached to my children, I just don't practice "attachment parenting" as I usually see it defined. We don't spank. Dh was spanked by a stepfather (fortunately a very short term one) and he doesn't believe in spanking. I don't want to be the meanie parent who spanks, and I wouldn't feel comfortable spanking in front of Dh, so I don't. I also feel like it could be a slippery slope for me and I might end up spanking more than appropriate, so I just don't go there.

[Lucky Child]

Originally Posted by ChurchPunkMom The rod (or shebet) was used to gently guide the sheep - not for beating them into submission.

OK everyone, I'm going to put on my mod hat for a sec and give a friendly reminder before this gets out of hand...
Discipline discussions tend to get heated, which is fine, we are all adults, but just remember to choose your words wisely. This quote "beating them into submission" could be highly offensive in that is seems you may be implying that those who use "the rod" then "beat their kids into submission".
I do understand your point here, I just want to offer a word of caution to everyone to think before typing!

[Shannon]

Originally Posted by ChurchPunkMom The rod (or shebet) was used to gently guide the sheep - not for beating them into submission. http://gentlechristianmothers.com/articles/rodstudy.php

Did I say beat into submission? I don't think anyone said that Also, look at the title of the link you are providing...GENTLE...hmmmBiased? Probebly. Put it doesn't matter anyway, you're not going to change my mind, I'm not going to change yours. Lets just remeber(everyone) that just because you don't agree with something doesn' make it wrong.

[lilmama2dsndd]

Originally Posted by Shannon We use spanking in our house...along with other forms of disipline and positive reinforcement. I know I'm in a minority here but the term "gentle parenting/disapline" really bothers me(offends) because the opposite of gentle is rough and I don't like that if you aren't labeled "gentle" you automatically fall into the "disrespectful..mean" lable. I find it highly unfair to assume that because we choose to spank as one form of disipline. JMO.

JMO but what would think of someone who hit you? That they were mean right? And that it was disrespectful? I know that if I started a new job that I didn't know anything about I would want someone to show me the correct way to do it instead of hitting me when I did it wrong. After all, our children learning to live life is like us starting a new job, neither has any clue as to what is what until we are shown.