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Old 06-27-2011, 11:24 AM   #11
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I would love to participate as well! As sad as it is, it really is nice to be able to relate to other parents who understand it is NOT a parenting issue...

That is the hardest for me as well, people saying that I just don't discipline him. We deal with ADHD, SPD, and ODD as well. My marriage is also a mess since we are both constantly on edge.
I had someone tell me that because he was so smart he should just be able to get it. Um, his smarts have NOTHING to do with his ADHD. Just because he's smart doesn't mean he can sit still and concentrate. Just because he's smart doesn't mean he's suddenly going to "get" all that social stuff that seems to be beyond him. The funny thing is the conversation was with the mother of a little boy who has similar issues to my son. Apparently, though, because alex is smart, he shouldn't have any issues. Oh, and yeah, spanking him is only going to change things for then worse. People don't seem to get that, either. He's got sensory issues, and can be sensitive to touch at times.

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I had someone tell me that because he was so smart he should just be able to get it. Um, his smarts have NOTHING to do with his ADHD. Just because he's smart doesn't mean he can sit still and concentrate. Just because he's smart doesn't mean he's suddenly going to "get" all that social stuff that seems to be beyond him. The funny thing is the conversation was with the mother of a little boy who has similar issues to my son. Apparently, though, because alex is smart, he shouldn't have any issues. Oh, and yeah, spanking him is only going to change things for then worse. People don't seem to get that, either. He's got sensory issues, and can be sensitive to touch at times.
I think it is the hardest thing for people to understand. Thankfully, DS's therapist does and she has concentrated a bit on helping DS separate his intelligence from his ability to focus and follow through. DS has the "gifted" label as well, which is its own set of challenges. I hardly ever mention it because, well, most parents think "oh, gifted. Like THAT'S a problem." Well, yes, and while it helps DS compensate for some of his ADHD problems, it compounds others.
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I would love a support thread.

6.5 year old DS1 has ADHD and ODD. I'm off work for the summer (I'm a high school teacher), and being home with my boys has been hell. It's like warfare around here all.day.long.
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While people think Ritalin gets overprescribed, not many people know how helpful behavior-based therapy is for kids with ADHD. Studies have found that the combination of the two is even more effective. What might be most important is getting one's child on an Individualized Education Plan (IEP) or a 504 plan in their school. This will provide supports for the child and help them in school. Often times, kids with ADHD have problems in school, which aren't really their fault, but the result is that they get down on themselves and develop a negative attitude about school. This should not be the case. If it is, talking with the school asap is essential.
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While people think Ritalin gets overprescribed, not many people know how helpful behavior-based therapy is for kids with ADHD. Studies have found that the combination of the two is even more effective. What might be most important is getting one's child on an Individualized Education Plan (IEP) or a 504 plan in their school. This will provide supports for the child and help them in school. Often times, kids with ADHD have problems in school, which aren't really their fault, but the result is that they get down on themselves and develop a negative attitude about school. This should not be the case. If it is, talking with the school asap is essential.
That's if you can get an IEP or a 504 for your ADHD child. I've really struggled with the school. My son is extremely bright, but still struggles quite a bit, especially socially, and when things in his schedule change (he does not transition well at all). The school (because his grades are still good - because he is well above grade level across the board) isn't always so accommodating. I am EXTREMELY lucky in the teachers I've had, and this year's teacher really went to bat for my son and got him the 504 he really needed. The school itself did not want to give him that 504. They also have gotten rid of the behavior specialist who was providing him with the social thinking he needs. He'll be seeing a guidance counselor next year, who isn't really qualified in what he needs.
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I would love a support thread.

6.5 year old DS1 has ADHD and ODD. I'm off work for the summer (I'm a high school teacher), and being home with my boys has been hell. It's like warfare around here all.day.long.

I feel the same way mama! DD is 7, she has ADHD-PI and ODD. I am a full time midwifery student, DD is off for the summer and DD2 is 20 months.


I'd love a thread too!
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I'd love a support thread as well! My DS is 4.5. It's funny reading the posts and feeling the same way. I can sense when DS is having a rough day and things just aren't going to go well, but then we have great days! It'd be great to have the support from others dealing with the same day to day issues.
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I would love a support thread too. My 7 year old has adhd and that's one of the reasons we homeschool. I did not want her in a special class, because most of the kids have disabilities that cause cognitive delays. My daughter is sooo smart. She reads books much higher than her age group, like the Chronicles of Narnia and Harry Potter. She is also very good at math. But without her meds she can't focus, she's super hyper and she can't write legibly to save her life. She is a true case. She also has SPD and tics.

As far as over prescribing, I have to agree. A lot of parents out there are looking for a "quick fix" when in reality, it is the parenting skills that need to be tweeked. I know a family who says their two year old is showing signs. Um, that child is the quietest kid I've ever met. But her brother has it, so the mom thinks that she does too. It's crazy. My sister went and got my nephew put on meds. Nothing worked. It isn't adhd, it's her lack of structure and lazy parenting. So yes, unfortunately there are those people who ruin it for the rest of us who have legitimate cases. What makes me even more irritated are the ones who give their kids a pill, and don't work with them. It's always, "oh, well you have to excuse my bratty, rude, overly obnoxious child who has adhd." Well, a pill won't fix it all. You have to WORK with your child. And yes, my dd is so well behaved and people don't believe me when I say she has adhd. Argh, I could go on and on.

But yes, please, someone talk to a mod and get us our own thread!
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The worst part for me is the second guessing. The "Okay, what part of this is just her growing up and expressing her individuality and what part is her starting to lose control?" parts of it. And I never know until she DOES lose it and have a complete breakdown. Her adhd is compounded by bipolar disorder (yes, she's VERY young to have the actual diagnosis but the psychiatrist felt quite comfortable given family history and the detailed behavior logs I keep) and her anxiety. She's brilliant, in the gifted program, writes her own "book reports" on the shows we watch on History Channel. She's so dang SMART. It's frustrating, dh and I fight about it, I cry at least once a week after the kids go to bed, even now that she's pretty balanced. Our families are pretty supportive, thankfully. But the whole thing is overwhelming.
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Oye, issues.

DD1 spent a week at her grandparents, needless to say we have weeks worth of *undoing* of bad habbits, not listening and temper tantrums ahead of us. She came back last friday and it's been a daily uphill battle since. Over anything, and everything, every little thing. Today it was over going to get her hat, and having to go by the side of the house instead of the carport because my dad was cleaning out the shed and the door was blocked. It quickly escalated into a full blow tantrum of screaming, hitting when being put in time out and of course spiteful yelling (which we typically ignore).

I am very much run down here.
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