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Old 07-31-2011, 07:29 AM   #11
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Lower your expectations. Is everyone fed, happy, and relatively clean? Count the day as a success.

Don't psych yourself out. My two are 16 months apart, I was SO worried and paranoid about how I was going to cope, mainly with the lack of sleep. Some don't believe me, but it was a breeze and I loved it! The hardest part is actually now at nearly 6 and 4.5. They are both into the same things, both want to be first all the time, around each other all the time, etc so it leads to a lot of sibling annoyance and bickering.

Ignore everyone who warns you of jealousy in the older one - another thing I was worried about, mainly because how do you prepare a < 1 year old for something like this when they can't comprehend it? And how do you rationalize with a young toddler? Again, it was a non-issue. Dd1 liked her sister, but she wasn't crazy in love, nor did she get jealous. Sure, there were times she would have a meltdown because I was doing something with dd2 and couldn't tend to her right away, but she did that regardless of if I was using the restroom or cooking dinner, or tending to her sister.

Get your older one independent as possible - and don't feel bad about it. Little ones at that age LOVE to feel independent. They LOVE to do what they can for themselves. So help them and encourage them to get there by arranging their environment as best you can. I found I was actually more patient with things like this because I was busy with dd2. Just after dd2 was born, dd1 went through a tremendous dressing phase. She absolutely loved dressing herself and took immense pride in that. So I let her. Was she able to do it? Eh, not really without a lot of help in the beginning, but who cares. It kept her busy, taught her independence, and gave her self confidence a boost. Who cares if her shirt was on backwards or her shoes on the wrong feet. She was so proud of herself and she obviously didn't mind, if she even noticed. Along similar lines, have snacks and sippy cups ready to go and in a place they can reach so your older one can help themselves. If they snack all day, who cares as long as it's healthy. It just means your less likely to deal with a meltdown 10 minutes before dinner is ready.

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Old 07-31-2011, 12:21 PM   #12
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Lower your expectations. Is everyone fed, happy, and relatively clean? Count the day as a success.

Don't psych yourself out. My two are 16 months apart, I was SO worried and paranoid about how I was going to cope, mainly with the lack of sleep. Some don't believe me, but it was a breeze and I loved it! The hardest part is actually now at nearly 6 and 4.5. They are both into the same things, both want to be first all the time, around each other all the time, etc so it leads to a lot of sibling annoyance and bickering.

Ignore everyone who warns you of jealousy in the older one - another thing I was worried about, mainly because how do you prepare a < 1 year old for something like this when they can't comprehend it? And how do you rationalize with a young toddler? Again, it was a non-issue. Dd1 liked her sister, but she wasn't crazy in love, nor did she get jealous. Sure, there were times she would have a meltdown because I was doing something with dd2 and couldn't tend to her right away, but she did that regardless of if I was using the restroom or cooking dinner, or tending to her sister.

Get your older one independent as possible - and don't feel bad about it. Little ones at that age LOVE to feel independent. They LOVE to do what they can for themselves. So help them and encourage them to get there by arranging their environment as best you can. I found I was actually more patient with things like this because I was busy with dd2. Just after dd2 was born, dd1 went through a tremendous dressing phase. She absolutely loved dressing herself and took immense pride in that. So I let her. Was she able to do it? Eh, not really without a lot of help in the beginning, but who cares. It kept her busy, taught her independence, and gave her self confidence a boost. Who cares if her shirt was on backwards or her shoes on the wrong feet. She was so proud of herself and she obviously didn't mind, if she even noticed. Along similar lines, have snacks and sippy cups ready to go and in a place they can reach so your older one can help themselves. If they snack all day, who cares as long as it's healthy. It just means your less likely to deal with a meltdown 10 minutes before dinner is ready.
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Old 08-01-2011, 12:39 PM   #13
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I have a 3yo and 1 year old twins. from 3-10 months I couldn't live without my Bumbo seats. And once they figured they could get out of those, I now can't live with out my hexagon gate: http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/B00020L78M/ref=nosim/chrisficti-20

I also love the space saver high chairs. Their tray is not nearly as big, and is easier to clean. Plus it converts to a booster.
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Old 08-01-2011, 07:05 PM   #14
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Mine aren't quite that close together (the first 2 are 26 months, and the last 2 are 21 months), but I've figured out that getting as much done after they go to bed to be ready for the next day helps a ton. So, pick out clothes - theirs & yours, make cups of juice or whatever, even get breakfast ready as much as possible. Even if you just think of what they will eat the next day, it saves time. Fill up water bottles for yourself to drink throughout the next day so you are getting enough to drink.

Another thing we did for the older siblings was buy a small gift or book for them "from the baby". It was kind of nice to have them start off on the right foot with the new baby, and I think it helped them adjust. Plus it gave them a new toy to sit down & play with when I needed to feed the baby. There is a book called "I'm a Big Sister Now" (and also a brother one) that I thought was really good in preparing our girls as each baby came along. Target has it, and so does Motherhood Maternity. I'm sure Amazon does as well.

If you have 2 floors in your house, invest in more than one boppy. I hated being upstairs in the middle of the night, only to realize that my boppy was downstairs. But, if you co sleep & nurse laying down, I guess you won't need that.

Good luck! You'll make it!
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