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Old 06-07-2006, 04:06 PM   #1
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Help, my 20 month old is still nursing frequently

my dd has always nursed frequently during the day and at night and I love nursing her. Now she nurses a few times an hour during the day even if we are out and about ...the park, story time, play dates, etc. I have no problem nursing in public and I love to offer her this comfort but I'm just worried that she won't learn any other ways of coping with the world. I also find myself getting frustrated at her frequent requests to nurse thinking that there must be something wrong with her or my parenting and because I watch other kiddos that also need my attention. Sometime it exhausts me too. I have many friends who bf but none have had this experience.

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My ds is 20 months now and is sounds just the same as yours! I can't even count how many times a day I nurse him. And solid food is more like a toy to play with than actual food. My friends with older kids said that it's all normal and that they will wean themselves when ready around 2 1/2 or 3 when they want to be a big kid and not a baby anymore. I hope they're right because right now weaning seems impossible! You're not the only one, mama! Good luck with whatever feels right for you and your little one!
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Old 06-07-2006, 04:27 PM   #3
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Hey, what's your dd's birthday? My ds's is October 8.
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she is just 2 days older
October 6

I will be sad when she weans but hopefully before then we can find a happy medium
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Maybe find her another form of comfort? A blanky or stuffed toy?
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Maybe find her another form of comfort? A blanky or stuffed toy?

I tried that
she was attached to a soft doll and puppy for a couple of months but wanted both of them and to nurse
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Re: Help, my 20 month old is still nursing frequently

lol, my dd is 20 months also, and i find that she wants to nurse more when *I* am with her....its like hqaving a nice yummy piece of cake right next toi you all day long!!
LOL

But, she will go 4-5 hours for dh no problem on the days i am at work!

I think, possibly, it is an attention thing..especially if you have other kids...she knows it is a surefure way to get your attention.
Perhaps trying to UP the amount of attention(other than nursing) you give her? Yaya, i know, easier said that done with multiple kids, lol!

Also, this is gonna sound obvious, but i give her more food!
LOL
I have a water sippy available always, and have also (i am so ashamed, lol) been pushing a cowmilk/yogurt/juice sippy on her when i REALY don't want to nurse.....Also i offer food....i am ashamed that sometimes i even offer not-so-great food, to tempt her.
I just bought her a new sippy (like she needs another, lol!), it is Spongebob and she loves it, so she is *asking* to drink out of it!!!

At 20 months, you can say *NO*

I often make her wait several minutes to nurse...and sometimes she gets distracted and moves on to something els,e and if she doesn't, it's usually cuz she really IS hungry.....

We are weaning by 2 years(I can NOT believe I'm saying that! I thought i would BF much longer....)because I hope to be preggo by her birthday (SEPT 15!) and with my fertiliy issues and serious low-supply issues, my milk is like, 99% sure going to go away right when i TTC.....at least, thats the best info i can get..the hormones i have to take as part of my fertiltiy treatments will dry it up apparently. But, at this point, we have decided that another child is the best decision for our family, and 22-23 months of nursing is an amount we feel **ok** with, if not thrilled by......
Also, there are temporary things to consider...is she teething, is she in a growth spurt, has something changed in the home? With all my trials and tribulations of nursing, I usually find that right about the time i am annoyed enough to vent about a problem...it sort of gets better or goes away.....
Perhaps in a couple weeks, it will just have passed?

Best of luck
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Re: Help, my 20 month old is still nursing frequently

my partner/dd's other parent left us over a month ago
dd seemed to be coping well enough but maybe nursing is her way of staying attached to me (literally) to make sure that I don't leave her as well



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my partner/dd's other parent left us over a month ago
dd seemed to be coping well enough but maybe nursing is her way of staying attached to me (literally) to make sure that I don't leave her as well



thanks for your insight

That really seems to be what the prob would be I think. Maybe give her a little time yet and things will slow down when she realizes that you aren't going anywhere.
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