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Old 09-22-2011, 12:13 PM   #11
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I am curious how you get into a magnet school....There might be one in our area but I'm not sure. NVM, I looked. There are no magnet Elementary schools, and only one middle school; I think our state Teacher's Association is against them....At the High School level, there is a school of fine arts (with a science track; requires auditions/portfolio of academic work) and an international baccalaureate school.

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Old 09-22-2011, 12:35 PM   #12
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In my opinion, the only way you can truly cater her education to her level, needs and ability is to homeschool her. Otherwise, you have to pick and choose between the other inferior choices and compromise your wants for your daughter.
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Old 09-22-2011, 12:41 PM   #13
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Ah. There are lots of other options than public school. I would just start investigating individual schools til you find one you like. Even within Montessori there is a difference from school to school based on staff and student differences.

As for getting along with students anywhere but homeschooling, in my experience, since private schools are not required under IDEA to provide Free and Appropriate Public Education to everyone, they tend to kick out kids many children with behavior or academic issues, also because they don't have the special education services to deal with them. And it's only going to be the people who can pay, or the small number who qualify for scholarships. The demographics tend to be a little different, is all I was saying on that.

Good luck finding a school!
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Old 09-22-2011, 12:42 PM   #14
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First of all I would make a complaint to the school officials. I do not believe that anywhere in the Montessori curriculum does it say anything about teaching religion! If it is a licensed Montessori school then they are supposed to follow specific teaching instructions and there is a head chapter over them I believe. Otherwise, they are legally not allowed to call themselves montessori, they can just say they use a montessori curriculum. If you are truly considering public school, make an appointment to meet with the principal and special education director and talk about your concerns and what you would like to see happen and see if they have a solution.
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Old 09-22-2011, 02:00 PM   #15
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Fortunately, she will qualify for an IEP based on having ADHD, but then they are only required to meet her needs in THAT area, not WRT her academic advancement, right?
I really don't have much advice on anything else, but I wanted to let you know that ADHD will NOT qualify her for an IEP. She would be eligible for a 504 plan, but without deficits or a diagnosed learning disability, ADHD alone will not get an IEP. If you do decide to go the public school route, I highly suggest getting a 504 for the ADHD and the academic advancement.

She might be able to be tested for the gifted program now (without being enrolled in the public school). If she is, I'd get her tested now instead of waiting for when you enroll her.
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I want to reiterate what the PP said. ADHD alone does not qualify you for an IEP, and you will have quite the battle getting one for a child testing 3 grades ahead. I know, I've been down that road. We squeaked in with a 594, but only because my sons teacher and the behavior specialist sat down and had a game plan to get one in place. It can be really difficult having exceptional kids in public schools. You need to be quite the advocate for your child.
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Old 09-22-2011, 03:24 PM   #17
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@UnschoolingFamily - Hehehe I guess there's no mystery where you stand

I would like to hear more, I used to think HS would never be for me but I think my heart is being transformed. I honestly want what is best for her and that's one reason I wanted to hear other opinions about public school - perhaps I am putting too much stock in meeting her academic needs at the expense of other needs? I don't think so (because it is so much more complex than that, including the risks of having a bright and somewhat overactive and inattentive child being chronically bored...), but I am willing to consider it and I endeavor to be a truth seeker which requires considering others' positions.

But since this is a PS thread, will you please PM me with some more of your thoughts on why you feel the other alternatives are inferior to HS. I would also love to know if you considered other private school options and why you were not satisfied with them either....
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Well, I wasn't replying based on my choices for my family, but that I was a gifted child when I was in public school. My mother refused to put me in the gifted school in town (canada) or let them push me up a grade or two, and as an adult, I feel she made the wrong decision. For a couple of years, we had a gifted class where for a few hours a week, I would leave the class and go to another class, but though it was fun, it was also quite pointless. If your DD was one grade ahead, I wouldn't feel it was quite so hopeless, but with her being so hugely far ahead, I would worry about her love for learning being squashed.

There are some private schools that cater to homeschoolers that teach in the classical manner that might be able to put her in grades more suited to her level and customize it according to subject, that you might consider.

Alas, unless she is hugely athletic and you aren't able to afford to keep her in sports any other way, I don't see the benefits of public school for your child (according to what you have written here. Everything changes if you must work and cannot afford to pay for private school or to homeschool, naturally.
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If it's not broke why fix it? I would talk to whoever is in charge about your concerns. If she's doing so well I just can't even imagine moving her... Honestly public school for such a child would probably fail, but that is based on my own experience with public schools. Really the only other options would be home school or private school of some sort that will work with you.
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Since you are a Christian the first thing I would say to do is pray about it!! Also involved your dh in the discussion, he may see things that you aren't aware of.

Thirdly try homeschooling. Like while she is in school, start doing some schoolish thing with her, see how it goes for the both of you and for your family life. I came from a family of 5 children and was the only one that wasn't homeschooled (long story) I was so sure I was NOT going to do it. As we were deciding what to do for my odd, I tried some science with her and my middle daughter. They had fun and I enjoyed learning all over again!
So like you I had a change of heart...

My middle dd is "advanced" I am really not sure how much. I haven't had her tested. I have been doing school with her for 2 years. She is 5 now. I never would have put her in school, she wasn't ready emotionally or socially. I like that I can take things at her pace and slow or speed up as necessary.

One other person talked about the social aspects of school she feels her gifted dd is benefiting from. Not to debate, but I feel all of those can happen in a homeschool setting. My dd's get out more than I think I did while in school. They learn about other cultures and religions. They have to take turns, etc.. Just my two cents.

Anyhow OP, the choice is up to you! I don't want to pressure you one way or another!!!
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