Reply Hey Mom! Learn more about the Gerber Life Insurance Grow-Up Plan!
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
Old 09-30-2011, 06:50 AM   #1
BottomOfMyHearts's Avatar
BottomOfMyHearts
Registered Users
Formerly: NewFoundFaith
seller
 
Join Date: Aug 2010
Posts: 3,927
My Mood:
Is it normal for BF babies to be "extra" clingy?

It seems that my 1 month DD is extra special clingy! You cannot set her down for more than 5-10 mins in a stretch and she will start wailing until you pick her up and hold her. This makes dinner time really fun... lol

At night she cannot sleep alone, I use a Snuggle Nest co-sleeping "box" next to me in bed and Is till have to have my arm inside it to comfort her.

She pretty much hates her pacifier too, although I'm doing my best to get her to develop a taste for it. lol

I DO have some baby wearing stuff, a couple of ring slings (thanks friends!) and a Baby Hawk but those sorta things I've only ever used in "motion." Sitting down and resting while wearing isn't really ideal and she hates it anyways. I have to be moving if I'm wearing her. (Plus I'm still working on that learning curve that the ring slings have! LOL)

So I'm at a loss, while I DO believe in FIO/CIO in much much older infants (9m-12m range) I certainly do not believe in it for such a tiny baby. So I can't let her cry at all right now which leaves me either constantly holding her, feeding her, or trying to sooth her.


This is nothing at all like my DD1 who was a BF/Supplement baby who could be set down and loved her lamb swing etc.

Help! LOL Is this a phase or do I have a cuddle bug?

Advertisement

__________________
Mommy to two little girls. I'm ALWAYS doing laundry!
Please visit my etsy store! <--Click

New Contest coming Soon!Please visit my Facebook store! <--Click
BottomOfMyHearts is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 09-30-2011, 06:58 AM   #2
cedricsmom
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: Jul 2008
Location: Virginia
Posts: 5,562
My Mood:
Re: Is it normal for BF babies to be "extra" clingy?

Sounds pretty normal to me for that age, cannot comment if it only applies to bf children since I bf both of mine. But my son was the same and he is pretty independant at 3.5 years old (bf for 30month). And my 12 week old is like your baby, it is getting better though as she is growing Enjoy, it will not be like this forever!
__________________
A, married to P and SAHM to ds 12/ 2007 and brand new dd 06/ 2011
cedricsmom is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 09-30-2011, 07:23 AM   #3
lecialefty's Avatar
lecialefty
Registered Users
seller
seller
 
Join Date: Apr 2010
Posts: 5,293
My Mood:
Re: Is it normal for BF babies to be "extra" clingy?

Sounds normal to me. Do you have a swing you could put her in for a little bit? I couldn't have lived without my swing. Well, I could have but it sure made it a lot easier. My dd got less clingy the more she could do for herself. So sitting up, then rolling, then crawling and finally walking, different things to look forward too.
__________________
Alicia + A = E + M and C
I shop at Mom's Milk Boutique
Using Swagbucks to earn paypal and amazon gift cards!.
lecialefty is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 09-30-2011, 07:26 AM   #4
BottomOfMyHearts's Avatar
BottomOfMyHearts
Registered Users
Formerly: NewFoundFaith
seller
 
Join Date: Aug 2010
Posts: 3,927
My Mood:
Re: Is it normal for BF babies to be "extra" clingy?

She hates it. LOL

This is her looking incredulous inside it...

__________________
Mommy to two little girls. I'm ALWAYS doing laundry!
Please visit my etsy store! <--Click

New Contest coming Soon!Please visit my Facebook store! <--Click
BottomOfMyHearts is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 09-30-2011, 07:27 AM   #5
mandasmom's Avatar
mandasmom
Registered Users
seller
seller
 
Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: Northwest Florida
Posts: 898
Re: Is it normal for BF babies to be "extra" clingy?

I had one daughter who was like that, and was for a looooong time, and one daughter who, at that age, didn't need much attention at all! (She still got it, though. ) It's probably just your baby's personality.

I did breastfeed both of them. (Still bf the younger one.)
__________________
Sarah+Adam since 2005.
Catholic mama to baby J in heaven (6/06), A(6/07), and A(5/10), baby B in heaven (9/12), and due with another A in 9/13
Swagbucks! YYMN tester slots
mandasmom is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 09-30-2011, 07:29 AM   #6
jamilynn84's Avatar
jamilynn84
Registered Users
seller
seller
 
Join Date: Apr 2010
Location: Chicago Suburbs
Posts: 3,288
My Mood:
Re: Is it normal for BF babies to be "extra" clingy?

Both of my kids are what dr. sears refers to as high needs babies, so this sounds entirely normal to me. They were breastfed. I found that if I wore them until they fell asleep, then put them in a super cozy bouncy seat, that it helped alot for getting time to myself. Just be sure your SO is helping, even if it seams that they can't calm them down... you need your time too mama.
__________________
I'm Jami...mama to DS (Jude 8/14/08) and DDs Lyla (9/21/10) and violet (5/8/12).;and wife to Adam, high school sweetheart & soul mate.
jamilynn84 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 09-30-2011, 07:33 AM   #7
FindingMercy's Avatar
FindingMercy
Registered Users
Formerly: Evie'sMama
seller
 
Join Date: May 2009
Location: Kansas City, MO
Posts: 2,479
My Mood:
My first was like that. 5-10 minutes would have been glorious on a good day. Once she could sit independently her whole world changed and she became super independent.

My second is completely different. She preferred snuggle, but could easily be sat down to entertain herself.
__________________
Married to Scott and Mama to Evelyn (5) Annabelle (3) and Abraham (1)

I blog about our family, trans-racial adoption, gluten-free cooking, and crafting

FindingMercy is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 09-30-2011, 07:38 AM   #8
mrspnut82's Avatar
mrspnut82
Registered Users
seller
seller
 
Join Date: Oct 2008
Location: Rhode Island
Posts: 7,572
Re: Is it normal for BF babies to be "extra" clingy?

All mine were bf but ds was like that. I had to hold him to sleep, if I put him down he would wake up and bug out. With two other kids to take care of it was torture. It's probably just her personality. I pray this next baby is not like that, I might have to hire a live in nanny/housekeeper lol.
__________________
Wife and Mama to Julia 4/06 Ariana 7/07
"Handsome" Isaiah 2/09 Caleb 1/12
I've gotten ton$ of FREE Amazon.com Gift Card$! $wag with me. Zulily MrRebates
mrspnut82 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 09-30-2011, 08:53 AM   #9
MCR's Avatar
MCR
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: Jul 2006
Location: Northern California
Posts: 10,642
My Mood:
Re: Is it normal for BF babies to be "extra" clingy?

One of mine was like that, I soon discovered the more I tried to fight it and put him down, the worse it got. So I surrendered to motherhood, I held him and wore him and nursed him and he and I both relaxed and I was able to put him down for longer and longer.
The other son would let me put him down so long as he was well fed, but if he was awake he wanted up close and snuggly. I just went with the flow and it made for a much more relaxed and easy life.
__________________
Mum to and and Wife to SHOP MR REBATES
MCR is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 09-30-2011, 09:02 AM   #10
sarchamar
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: Dec 2010
Posts: 344
Re: Is it normal for BF babies to be "extra" clingy?

All three of mine were exclusively BF, and I had one clingy baby (my middle child) and two who really weren't clingy at all. My clingy baby was like that from birth. It's also quite obvious now, at 5 years old, that she would have been clingy no matter how she was fed. People still tried to blame it on BF'ing even though I had done nothing different with my first one, though. Then my third came along and was super-independent from Day One, even though I nursed him the longest.

Your baby is still really young, so there's a chance as she gains skills she'll gain more independence. Hang in there!
__________________
E, full-time WAHM & married to J since 2000, with
Ladybug, 10 Koala Girl, 7 and the C Monster, 4
sarchamar is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off

Forum Jump

Copyright 2005 - 2014 Escalate Media. All Rights Reserved.