Diaper Swappers

solarbabies · 11-15-2011, 12:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Kriket

ITA. I think when people first find out they are intactivists they are extra gung-ho. And it can be overwhelming. It is a very serious issue to many, but you are totally right, a little compassion and caring can go a long way

I find myself rolling my eyes at the car seat activist crowd for the same reasons It's not that they are wrong, they are just intense!

Because like OP, it is something they (we) are very passionate about. Carseat safety was not the least of my concern before I got prego, then I started researching a little and now it is my passion and hobby.

We are having our first (and likely only) son. We both talked about it and agreed that there was no reason for us to make that choice for him, so we are going to leave him whole. He can choose differently later if he wants, and we will support him 100%. His body, his choice. And he will be different from dad, but that's ok, they will be different in many ways anyway.

hibiscus869 · 11-15-2011, 12:53 PM

You're very brave to share this. My DH grew up in a culture that does not circumcise unless it's for religious reasons and he was the one that insisted our son be left intact. It's a very personal decision, but I'm embarrassed to say I was clueless about it. My dh changed my view on that.

Fashionably Green Baby · 11-15-2011, 12:57 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Kriket

ITA. I think when people first find out they are intactivists they are extra gung-ho. And it can be overwhelming. It is a very serious issue to many, but you are totally right, a little compassion and caring can go a long way

I find myself rolling my eyes at the car seat activist crowd for the same reasons

It's not that they are wrong, they are just intense!

I am very passionate about carseats as well but I am too much of an introvert to approach strangers. I do however school my family and friends

My sister is getting ready to have her first and I have given her the appropriate car seat usage spcheel (is that how you spell it???) I don't know if she will want to extended reaf face or not but I do want to make sure she knows how to properly install the car seat and buckle the baby in safely, the rest is up to her to decide. I also briefly discussed my experience with circumcision with her in case she found out baby was a boy (but it's a girl!) and just told her why I felt the way I did and that it was something she should definitely do some research on. I was pleased to find out she had already done some research!!!

nada87 · 11-15-2011, 12:57 PM

Op your post is the reason I couldn't circumsize (sp?) DS. DH was for it (even though he is intact) but I couldn't stand the thought of him being in pain. Hugs for having gone through that!

I'm on my phone and the touchscreen hates me so my posts are short, to the point and probably misspelled.

AleahDeann · 11-15-2011, 12:59 PM

Great story, so glad you shared. I think more mamas from both sides should share like this. I fully respect everyone's decisions, for us our DS's are both circ'd and so is DH. None have had or did have any issues. I applaud you mama for being so strong and sticking to your gut even when your DH did not agree. Way to go!

FindingMercy · 11-15-2011, 01:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Kriket

I find myself rolling my eyes at the car seat activist crowd for the same reasons

It's not that they are wrong, they are just intense!

When I first read that quickly I thought you ended with insane... HA!

Intense is a much more fitting word though.

bigmamakelsey · 11-15-2011, 01:18 PM

mama, thanks for posting.

elkay724 · 11-15-2011, 01:23 PM

Nice to meet you! So glad you shared your story!

RaZZberry · 11-15-2011, 01:52 PM

Thanks, ladies!

l_Kimmie_l · 11-15-2011, 02:07 PM

I had my oldest circ'ed against my better judgement. His bio dad and the Dr were against me 14 years ago. It was awful. He had so many issues, including pain when healing, UTIs and YIs while in diapers than none of my intact boys had/have. It is an emotional subject to me as well.

I can say that my oldest says he "likes" his penis better than his brothers' (he asked at 11 yrs old when I had his first brother what was wrong with his penis) penises. I told him that it was no longer recommended to cut a male, as the penis is fine the way it is. My DH is also happy he is circ'd while I am not. I have 2 intact sons and a 3rd intact son on the way. I told my DH that circing our sons was not going to happen EVER and if he did not like that, not to have children with me.

11-15-2011, 12:53 PM	#12
hibiscus869 Registered Users Join Date: Sep 2011 Posts: 2,200	You're very brave to share this. My DH grew up in a culture that does not circumcise unless it's for religious reasons and he was the one that insisted our son be left intact. It's a very personal decision, but I'm embarrassed to say I was clueless about it. My dh changed my view on that. Last edited by hibiscus869; 11-15-2011 at 02:57 PM.

11-15-2011, 12:57 PM	#14
nada87 Registered Users Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: chicago il Posts: 1,716 Ratings: 8 Feedback: 100%	Op your post is the reason I couldn't circumsize (sp?) DS. DH was for it (even though he is intact) but I couldn't stand the thought of him being in pain. Hugs for having gone through that! I'm on my phone and the touchscreen hates me so my posts are short, to the point and probably misspelled. __________________ My urchins are K (10/06)A (09/08)M (07/10) Married to my HS Sweetheart since 09/05 I FINALLY GRADUATED!! NOW I'M OFF TO CHASE MY RAINBOW!!

11-15-2011, 12:59 PM	#15
AleahDeann Registered Users Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Vancouver, WA Posts: 1,751 Ratings: 43 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Circumcision has profoundly affected every member of my family... Great story, so glad you shared. I think more mamas from both sides should share like this. I fully respect everyone's decisions, for us our DS's are both circ'd and so is DH. None have had or did have any issues. I applaud you mama for being so strong and sticking to your gut even when your DH did not agree. Way to go! __________________ Aleah Happily married to Paul my NAVY corpseman! SAHM to Zander (9/16/09) ,Drezden (12/16/2010) and Syler (5/16/2012) Expecting our 4th BOY!!! 8/7/2013 Check out my WAHM diaper covers and more http://hyenacart.com/stores/PureInnocenceDesigns/

11-15-2011, 01:18 PM	#17
bigmamakelsey Registered Users Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Montana Posts: 9,521 Ratings: 159 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Circumcision has profoundly affected every member of my family... mama, thanks for posting. __________________ K&K My little firecracker Lennon 10.09, crying before he fully emerged and My little sweetheart Indi 6.12, born smiling

11-15-2011, 01:23 PM	#18
elkay724 Registered Users Join Date: Jul 2010 Posts: 2,557 Ratings: 54 Feedback: 98% My Mood:	Re: Circumcision has profoundly affected every member of my family... Nice to meet you! So glad you shared your story! __________________ Mama to my 3 Littles: (11) (4) (3)