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Old 01-09-2012, 08:48 AM   #1
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i'm sure this sounds easy to most of the mams on here but...

I have a dd at home, she is 8 months old. I just found out i'll be due with #2 early September. I'm stressing out majorly! I feel like i won't be able to do it. Please give me advice and encouragement. All you hear about (online anyways) is how hard it is. I just need words of encouragement. i don't feel like i can do it. We wanted our babes close in age (especially since DH is a little older when we married), but i didn't plan on this close. I'm just really scared. Also, other mamas that had 2 LOs under 2, how did you handle the comments and stares from other people? DH is ready to tell the world (even though i'm only 5 1/2 weeks) but i'm nervouse to as well. i just don't know if i'm ready for the comments other people are going to make. Please help mamas. i know there have to be others that were in my shoes at one point! How were you able to keep your marriage strong? I have a huge feeling of sadness for DD because she'll have to share so much attention so soon. Please advise!

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Old 01-09-2012, 08:56 AM   #2
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When i was preggers with my 2 everyone told me how hard it was gonna be. I didn't find it hard at all. I think if you keep organized and on a schedule its not so hard. Your tired and cant work on the house during the day as well but i found having the 3rd one much much harder. I had three under 4 and i dont even remember the first year. I have a 18 mo old and am do for our 5th in may.
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Old 01-09-2012, 09:45 AM   #3
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When i was preggers with my 2 everyone told me how hard it was gonna be. I didn't find it hard at all. I think if you keep organized and on a schedule its not so hard. Your tired and cant work on the house during the day as well but i found having the 3rd one much much harder. I had three under 4 and i dont even remember the first year. I have a 18 mo old and am do for our 5th in may.
I found having the third much harder too! My dd was 2 years 3 months when ds1 came along. Ds1 was 16 months when DS2 came along. Talk about getting stares! As for feeling overwhelmed, it's totally normal and realistic. There's a learning curve with everything regardless if it's your 2nd or 8th. You'll do great mama! Relax and try and enjoy your little one and the pregnancy because I stressed way too much and felt I missed out on a lot

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It's not so hard. You just do it. DD1 was 8 and DD2 was 14 months when Ds came along. I thought having the 2 youngest so close in age would be hard, but it was actually easier that having the first 2 with a 7 year age gap. GL Mama!
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It's not so hard. You just do it. DD1 was 8 and DD2 was 14 months when Ds came along. I thought having the 2 youngest so close in age would be hard, but it was actually easier that having the first 2 with a 7 year age gap. GL Mama!
this is kind of what i've also been hearing. it is harder when the older one really knows what's going on and is at a whole different stage. with each mama's post, i'm starting to feel a little more confident.

I'm really nervous to tell my job. i just know i'm going to get a lot of comments and stares. oh well, i guess. my husband tells me all the time...i need to stop worrying about what others think!
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Old 01-10-2012, 12:37 AM   #6
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Our spacing is all over the map.

Our first two children are 13 months apart - boys. THEY ARE BEST FRIENDS! They never fought - ever - for the first six years or so. They do most things together. They still sneak into each others rooms at night - they insisted on sharing a room for years. I have seriously never met two closer people.

We then have a six year gap.

Then we have two who are 18 months apart boy and girl. They too get along just fine. The 18 month old other then needing some reminders to be gentle LOVED having a new baby in the house. He always gets her soother, and plays with her.

THEN I found out we are expecting our fifth - this one is a total surprise. All the others were planned but timing was left to god.

Baby #4 and Baby #5 are also going to be 13 months apart. Both girls this time. I am REALLY hoping that they will be as close as our oldest two.

Having kids close in age is great. They are into the same games and toys. They keep the same schedule. They have the same friends. They take the same classes and sports. AND they never remember a time when their sibling wasn't there so it is easy for them to share everything. A built in best friend.

Some tips for having two little ones at the same time. Get a GOOD double stroller!!! A giant diaper bag. Take all the help you can the first few weeks until you get a routine and ENJOY.

OH and as far as work goes - my youngest three are going to be roughly 2 1/2 years apart. We take 1 year maternity leaves here. Between Summer 2009 and Spring 2013 I will have worked a grand total of 4 months and been on maternity the rest.
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I agree with the above. You just do it, and it is completely worth it. Mia and Sophia are best friends, it is so fun to watch them. Sure, it will be hard somedays, but, it would be hard regardless of spacing somedays. You will do great mama! I know it is a lot to take in now, but, you will be so thankfully in the future.
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thanks for all the support, mamas. i really really do appreciate. Who knows...it may work out wonderfully and then i'll have #3 16 months later!
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Its ok, really. I am in the same situation, DS1 had just turned 8 months old when I found out I was pregnant again, although kinda planned, it was very shocking. Some days I don't know if I can do it, but I know I can. I am now a stay at home momma, and the thought of a newborn, and a 15 month old boy, is kinda scary to me, but you have to do it, its not like I can go backwards..
You can do it Momma. PM me if you wanna talk. I am kinda going through the samething, Levi is due in 4 months, so I will let you know how I feel.
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They will be great friends...people will make comments, but then they do no matter WHAT your family looks like ...it's always a bit scary thinking of adding another one...no matter what age your kids are
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