Diaper Swappers

mabelinoad · 01-24-2012, 10:15 PM

Well...not sure the reason for the post. But I'm just excited.

I've been planning on having a VBA2C this coming July. But the last couple weeks, I've been started to be overwhelmed with fear. I started to think maybe I'd just do another csection(which btw, I'm not against, just don't want another for me!)...and it wasn't my educated decision, it was a decision based on fear.

But today...I started to realize what was happening. And I grabbed that fear and burned it up! I had a heart to heart with God and I feel absolutely confident in my ability to have a VBA2C. I know my body can do it! I'm not going to let these OBs bully me anymore. I've made my decision and hubby and I are ready to stand our ground! It just feels like its a relief that I'm 100% decided and I refuse to be swayed.

And in other news...

If you follow BWF(birth without fear on FB) she put up a post recently about a mama who circumcised their first son but now second guessing doing again for their second. We circumcised DS because we didn't know any different. DH had one of those "when I was in the high school gym..." kind of stories and it seemed no big deal. Since being informed(as with many other things...) we've decided it wasn't for us. But we were feeling ok with the idea that if this next peanut is a boy, we'd circumcise him. Why make him different than dad and brother?

But after reading all the comments on that post, I started second guessing. If we never had a DS up to this point, we'd absolutely not circumcise. But it seemed like the best decision since his brother would be. But after those comments, I brought it up to DH that it really isn't that big of a deal...its more of a deal to the parents than anything. We're always honest with our kids, and just as DD was vaccinated until 2 and DS wasn't, we'll tell them we did what we thought was best at the time...and later learned otherwise. So, we both completely agreed that this next one will not be circumcised!

May seem like no big deal to others, but I'm so happy to have an understanding DH who is willing to change ideas and go against mainstream for the best of children!

me_just_me · 01-24-2012, 10:36 PM

I'm so happy that you feel so good about your decisions! I does feel good to have thoroughly thought through something, reached your decision and feel confident in that decision!

How great to have a DH that gets it too!

Yay mama!

CherryPie · 01-24-2012, 10:39 PM

good for you guys

I have one circd and 2 intact and it hasn't been an issue at all!

burnsis · 01-25-2012, 07:38 AM

Awesome! So many seem to think that if they did it for one, the others have to match...which isn't the case! They are all different anyway! Yay for good news!!

2much2luv · 01-25-2012, 08:32 AM

♥ Awesome! Congratulations on your epiphanies.

Br2me · 01-25-2012, 08:37 AM

congrats!! i know it feels great to know what you want and to know how to get it!!

kcprochazka · 01-25-2012, 09:33 AM

What a great feeling! Good luck with your VBa2C! I had a twin VBAC last time and it was so empowering! And the recovery was so easy. We've decided if this next LO is a boy that we aren't circing either. Our 3 other boys are (like you said, it didn't seem like a big deal and we didn't research or look into it at all - just went with what we were familiar with.)

kushie tushie · 01-25-2012, 10:52 AM

Good luck on the VBA2C!
Your little guy will thank you

. Good for you for doing research and making a great decision.

Blaming typos on my "smart"phone's auto-correct

momof3boys1girl · 01-25-2012, 12:14 PM

that great!

Mamata3 · 01-25-2012, 10:48 PM

I am secretly hoping for a girl ( even know I would love a boy) just so I don't have to try and bring this up to DH.

01-24-2012, 10:15 PM	#1
mabelinoad Registered Users Formerly: Mabelino Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Roanoke, VA Posts: 5,541 Ratings: 129 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Feeling Empowered!! (circumcision/vbac related) Well...not sure the reason for the post. But I'm just excited. I've been planning on having a VBA2C this coming July. But the last couple weeks, I've been started to be overwhelmed with fear. I started to think maybe I'd just do another csection(which btw, I'm not against, just don't want another for me!)...and it wasn't my educated decision, it was a decision based on fear. But today...I started to realize what was happening. And I grabbed that fear and burned it up! I had a heart to heart with God and I feel absolutely confident in my ability to have a VBA2C. I know my body can do it! I'm not going to let these OBs bully me anymore. I've made my decision and hubby and I are ready to stand our ground! It just feels like its a relief that I'm 100% decided and I refuse to be swayed. And in other news... If you follow BWF(birth without fear on FB) she put up a post recently about a mama who circumcised their first son but now second guessing doing again for their second. We circumcised DS because we didn't know any different. DH had one of those "when I was in the high school gym..." kind of stories and it seemed no big deal. Since being informed(as with many other things...) we've decided it wasn't for us. But we were feeling ok with the idea that if this next peanut is a boy, we'd circumcise him. Why make him different than dad and brother? But after reading all the comments on that post, I started second guessing. If we never had a DS up to this point, we'd absolutely not circumcise. But it seemed like the best decision since his brother would be. But after those comments, I brought it up to DH that it really isn't that big of a deal...its more of a deal to the parents than anything. We're always honest with our kids, and just as DD was vaccinated until 2 and DS wasn't, we'll tell them we did what we thought was best at the time...and later learned otherwise. So, we both completely agreed that this next one will not be circumcised! May seem like no big deal to others, but I'm so happy to have an understanding DH who is willing to change ideas and go against mainstream for the best of children! __________________ --Beth--Conservative, God-fearin' Hippie...joyfully raising two organic, free range toddlers...and our newest VBA2C little peanut ☼☼Offering mamas and babies affordable nursing and teething necklaces!☼☼

01-24-2012, 10:36 PM	#2
me_just_me Registered Users Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: In my happy place! Posts: 7,343 Ratings: 3 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Feeling Empowered!! (circumcision/vbac related) I'm so happy that you feel so good about your decisions! I does feel good to have thoroughly thought through something, reached your decision and feel confident in that decision! How great to have a DH that gets it too! Yay mama! __________________ SAHM to DD (8/07) DS (8/09) and DD2 (5/12) "Only the strong survive!" (Some days I feel like this is talking about me...other days I think my kids are winning! )

01-24-2012, 10:39 PM	#3
CherryPie Registered Users Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: with my 4 rad kids Posts: 13,219 Ratings: 44 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Feeling Empowered!! (circumcision/vbac related) good for you guys I have one circd and 2 intact and it hasn't been an issue at all! __________________ GetSafeScents.com- now with bath/body/laundry! Join Scentsy \| Grace Adele- new Spring items!\| Velata- cheese & choc fondue! Follow me on Instagram: @SarahB00 (those are zeros, not O's )

01-25-2012, 07:38 AM	#4
burnsis Registered Users Join Date: Jan 2008 Posts: 8,631 Ratings: 202 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Feeling Empowered!! (circumcision/vbac related) Awesome! So many seem to think that if they did it for one, the others have to match...which isn't the case! They are all different anyway! Yay for good news!! __________________ His body, his choice.

01-25-2012, 08:32 AM	#5
2much2luv Registered Users Join Date: Jun 2011 Posts: 1,047 Ratings: 32 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Feeling Empowered!! (circumcision/vbac related) ♥ Awesome! Congratulations on your epiphanies.

01-25-2012, 12:14 PM	#9
momof3boys1girl Super Moderator Formerly: mOmof3 Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: North Texas Posts: 21,499 Ratings: 795 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Feeling Empowered!! (circumcision/vbac related) that great! __________________ SAHM to DD(7/05) DS1(12/06)DS2 (4/09)CLW at 28months and Newbie S 1-13-12...BFF to my DH since 10/03 12 week loss of twins "04" I sell scentsy Nothing tastes better then skinny. 80lbs gone 19 to go ISO:OBGE