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Old 01-31-2012, 01:18 PM   #11
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^^ Thank you for the encouragement!
Just talked to my SIL. She said her caseworker didn't seem bothered by the fact that I have 6 kids. She said the caseworker is going to pass the info along to my nephew's adoption caseworker. And next week SIL meets with her lawyer and should know more then too. SIL told her caseworker she'd like to get this done before her trial in September, and the caseworker agreed.
So yeah, I don't know too much about all this stuff, but I'm just hanging in here and open to whatever happens. Trying not to get too excited but remaining hopeful.

I should know more next week!

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Old 01-31-2012, 05:24 PM   #12
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I would think you would need to contact DHS in your area and start the process on your end too.
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Old 01-31-2012, 06:27 PM   #13
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^^ Thank you for the encouragement!
Just talked to my SIL. She said her caseworker didn't seem bothered by the fact that I have 6 kids. She said the caseworker is going to pass the info along to my nephew's adoption caseworker. And next week SIL meets with her lawyer and should know more then too. SIL told her caseworker she'd like to get this done before her trial in September, and the caseworker agreed.
So yeah, I don't know too much about all this stuff, but I'm just hanging in here and open to whatever happens. Trying not to get too excited but remaining hopeful.

I should know more next week!
Remember you are not a traditional foster parent but a relative so the standards are a bit different. Start scrubbing the house down and getting things cleaned up in less its spotless as you will have to have a worker come out and do a home study so that way you don't go into a panic a few days before. They really aren't looking for spotless but its hit or miss with workers and why take the chance. Make a plan (but don't buy) for a bed/dresser (i.e. one picked out at Ikea or where ever) and any extra's you need (car seat but you probably have all that).

If your physicals are not current, get everyone in (since with 6 kids and a husband) its going to take some time. If you are ok with TB tests, get those updated. That way, its all done and you just need the forms filled out. You may or may not need blood tests but you can always go back.

Talk to the worker weekly and make sure to send mail regular and certified putting a formal request in to make sure you are registered as a relative. And, send emails with delivery confirmation also making the request (you can't be to careful). Be very proactive. You know, so they get sick of you and will give you the child just to get you to leave them alone/stop calling.

You'll also need to do clearances but whom ever does your home study will have to give you the forms.

Oh, and you'll need a fire extinguisher. I only mention this as we had to have a specific one and I had to go to several stores to find it as everyone was sold out. They are a good idea to have anyway, but it was a bit frustrating.
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You may also want to make sure you have the child's attorney onboard with the plan. Encourage your SIL to have her lawyer talk to the child's lawyer about you. The child's lawyer can usually talk directly to the social worker to follow up on getting forms filed. And if you do an open adoption agreement they will have to agree as well.
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Old 02-01-2012, 12:27 PM   #15
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House is pretty clean- my husband is anal about a clean house that helps lol
Kids are up to date on physical, shots, dentist, etc.
Fire extinguisher- I will have to get one!
I have an extra bed.. I might have a plastic 4-drawer thing in the garage I could pull out temporarily.

I will get proactive once I know I stand a chance. If they are a stickler on this 6 kid max thing, I need to know. If they say I have a chance and let's get things going- then I will be ON IT!

Thanks

eta: plus waiting for SIL to be for sure in her decision, she wants to keep him in the family, BUT I'm on the other side of the country.. it's possible for her to find a better arrangement locally... but there's pros and cons with that. I'm just trying not to get too attached until I know it's a GO. She says she's sure, but we'll see if she really is.

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Are you adopting or just getting custody?
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Old 02-12-2012, 10:19 AM   #17
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I say GO FOR IT. My 6yo foster son has no relatives but DCS wishes he did. They would move mountains to get him placed with family somewhere.

The ICPC is complicated like the others have said, and it would take time and patience. I do not believe that 6 other kids is going to mess you up. Your cw could advocate on your behalf that the little guy would have built-in siblings, playmates and get lots of social interaction, while being with his biological family vs total strangers. That should be a huge plus in your favor.

Definitely call your local DCS and give them a heads-up and ask if there's anything you can be doing now to make the process faster. And like the other PP's have said--- you will need to do background checks, fingerprints and since those take awhile to come back sometimes, go ahead and start them.

Good luck! I hope you get your nephew!
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wow Nina, you are so full of excitement! I wish you the best of luck!
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