Reply Hey Mom! Learn more about the Gerber Life Insurance Grow-Up Plan!
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
Old 05-31-2012, 03:47 PM   #71
Almacham
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: May 2010
Location: Slytherin House
Posts: 15,946
My Mood:
Re: Polyamory and TTC...

Quote:
Originally Posted by Sageac View Post
Things are going well here, thanks for asking. I'm at 18 weeks and waiting impatiently for this baby (for the pregnancy to be over). I'm not getting to see SO very often and It;s wearing on me emotionally, since he misses me so much as well. (finances keep me here, and custody issues are keeping him there for now. DH is working a lot, but when he's home he's very supportive. I miss him a lot lately as well, since he drives a truck and is pretty much gone from thursday to tuesday.

The boys are doing well, and the baby is getting excited about the new baby. I am starting to, but since i wasn't really ready to have this baby its harder for me to get excited about it yet. I'm working on my stash tho, which is helping.
Glad to hear that you're doing well! Things are going well here, too.

Advertisement

__________________
Sarah, mom of many
Almacham is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 06-12-2012, 02:10 PM   #72
mommyto3beautifulbabes
Registered Users
seller
seller
 
Join Date: May 2010
Location: Middle of Nowhere Central, IL
Posts: 3,829
My Mood:
Re: Polyamory and TTC...

I think that your timeline sounds great. I see that you are pg, so I am guessing that this is an old post (yep just looked it's from Feb). I am not poly or in a relationship where I could be I am a very jealous person. However I love that others can make this work and have the families that they dream of. More power to you momma and thanks for sharing your story. I hope that all continues to go well for you.
__________________
SAH Freelancer Blogging Momma to Andrew 7/30/03, Althea 7/15/08, Huxley 10/13/09, and Adeline 12/5/11.

http://EverythingForModernMoms.blogspot.com...visit my blogs for lots of reviews and tons of giveaways!
mommyto3beautifulbabes is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 06-12-2012, 02:10 PM   #73
mommyto3beautifulbabes
Registered Users
seller
seller
 
Join Date: May 2010
Location: Middle of Nowhere Central, IL
Posts: 3,829
My Mood:
Re: Polyamory and TTC...

I think that your timeline sounds great. I see that you are pg, so I am guessing that this is an old post (yep just looked it's from Feb). I am not poly or in a relationship where I could be I am a very jealous person. However I love that others can make this work and have the families that they dream of. More power to you momma and thanks for sharing your story. I hope that all continues to go well for you.
__________________
SAH Freelancer Blogging Momma to Andrew 7/30/03, Althea 7/15/08, Huxley 10/13/09, and Adeline 12/5/11.

http://EverythingForModernMoms.blogspot.com...visit my blogs for lots of reviews and tons of giveaways!
mommyto3beautifulbabes is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-11-2012, 11:12 AM   #74
PresqueNoire
Registered Users
 
Join Date: Dec 2009
Location: RVA
Posts: 20
My Mood:
Re: Polyamory and TTC...

DH and I are not poly, but I recently became friends with a polygamous family (two wives, one husband). They have four kids total--both wives have older daughters and BF'ing sons, with one of the daughters from a prior marriage.

I can only imagine trying to balance when you TTC with both your SO and DH. You're lucky to be able to have SO be so involved without any friction with DH, especially about when to have more children. I hope it all works out! If you don't mind me asking, do you not share your lifestyle with IL's out of fear of judgment, or is it simply because it's not their business?
PresqueNoire is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-15-2012, 03:29 PM   #75
Sageac's Avatar
Sageac
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: Apr 2008
Location: New Hampshire
Posts: 1,144
My Mood:
Re: Polyamory and TTC...

I would say a little of both. we have alluded to a poly-mindset with them in preparation, but only in the way that DH might have other relationships at some point. The know nothing of my SO. I don't know if they will ever know about our relationships... mostly due to a "none o fhtier business" attitude.

I know I am lucky to have two men in my life that love and care about me, and I am especially grateful for my DH who is wonderful and supportive and the perfect balance for me as a "life partner."

New conflict is that there are rumours going around in SO's social circle that this baby *is* his and that's leading to more conflict than I would like with DH. (Especially since SO and I have not had interactions that could possibly lead to a pregnancy in 5 years... lol.) I did visit SO on his Bday (02/27) but was already 2.5 weeks along at that point so even if we *had* BD'd it could not have been his, but people will talk anyway so we might end up doing a DNA culture just to have on hand (since SO is still dragging through a nasty divorce). DH and I are really grateful to have such a wonderful history of communication, so the conflict between us was settled once I reassured him that there was not an option,and he knows better than to think I would lie to him (since Honesty is the fundamental element in a relationship where monogamy is not a rule).

Life is good and everyone is excited for us to be having a little girl.
__________________

Minimal, Communal, Earthy, Crafty Loving Single-Mama to C E : R and baby D
Sageac is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-16-2012, 10:36 PM   #76
Xythnia's Avatar
Xythnia
Registered Users
seller
seller
 
Join Date: Apr 2008
Location: Phoenix, AZ USA
Posts: 748
My Mood:
Re: Polyamory and TTC...

"...Honesty is the fundamental element in a relationship where monogamy is not a rule"

This SHOULD be true for ANY type of relationship! Mono, Poly, M/s, etc.

Had a wonderful conversation with my DH over the poly concept in general. Your partners and yourself sound like very loving and mature adults, which we both think is beautiful and wonderful for the kiddos. Honestly, who can find fault with more LOVE in this world with the amount of HATE currently residing in it??

Blessings to you, your family and the DD in the oven!
__________________
Esther - Wife to Super SAHD Jason
WOHM to Terrence William (18), Lily Rayne (4) &
Violet Skye (Breech C/S 9/17)
ISO: Size 1 Mini Nappis, Capris, Simplex, and Thirsties
Xythnia is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-17-2012, 09:25 AM   #77
Almacham
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: May 2010
Location: Slytherin House
Posts: 15,946
My Mood:
Re: Polyamory and TTC...

Quote:
Originally Posted by Sageac View Post
I would say a little of both. we have alluded to a poly-mindset with them in preparation, but only in the way that DH might have other relationships at some point. The know nothing of my SO. I don't know if they will ever know about our relationships... mostly due to a "none o fhtier business" attitude.

I know I am lucky to have two men in my life that love and care about me, and I am especially grateful for my DH who is wonderful and supportive and the perfect balance for me as a "life partner."

New conflict is that there are rumours going around in SO's social circle that this baby *is* his and that's leading to more conflict than I would like with DH. (Especially since SO and I have not had interactions that could possibly lead to a pregnancy in 5 years... lol.) I did visit SO on his Bday (02/27) but was already 2.5 weeks along at that point so even if we *had* BD'd it could not have been his, but people will talk anyway so we might end up doing a DNA culture just to have on hand (since SO is still dragging through a nasty divorce). DH and I are really grateful to have such a wonderful history of communication, so the conflict between us was settled once I reassured him that there was not an option,and he knows better than to think I would lie to him (since Honesty is the fundamental element in a relationship where monogamy is not a rule).

Life is good and everyone is excited for us to be having a little girl.
People make me sick sometimes! Ugh.

Congratulations on the baby girl, friend!
__________________
Sarah, mom of many
Almacham is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 07-18-2012, 08:07 PM   #78
Sageac's Avatar
Sageac
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: Apr 2008
Location: New Hampshire
Posts: 1,144
My Mood:
Re: Polyamory and TTC...

Quote:
Originally Posted by Xythnia View Post
"...Honesty is the fundamental element in a relationship where monogamy is not a rule"

This SHOULD be true for ANY type of relationship! Mono, Poly, M/s, etc.

Had a wonderful conversation with my DH over the poly concept in general. Your partners and yourself sound like very loving and mature adults, which we both think is beautiful and wonderful for the kiddos. Honestly, who can find fault with more LOVE in this world with the amount of HATE currently residing in it??

Blessings to you, your family and the DD in the oven!

Thanks! The first child I ever met that was living with more than one parent set put it pretty much how you did. She felt so lucky to have 3 people that love her every day, when most of her friends only had 1 parent. The word Poly-Amorous means "many loves" and that's just how we focus.

And thanks, we like any blessings and honor them all. Namaste.
__________________

Minimal, Communal, Earthy, Crafty Loving Single-Mama to C E : R and baby D
Sageac is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10-31-2013, 01:45 AM   #79
aravae's Avatar
aravae
Registered Users
seller
 
Join Date: Oct 2013
Posts: 412
Re: Polyamory and TTC...

Poly here. Way late to the party, but just wanted to say hi.
aravae is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off

Forum Jump

Copyright 2005 - 2014 Escalate Media. All Rights Reserved.