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Old 03-03-2012, 03:44 PM   #1
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Maybe I'm being a brat but...

I have to vent about this!!!

So obviously I'm due the end of the month... and my mother wants to be in the delivery room for this baby too. I had kind of ho-humed about it because I didn't want to make anyone uncomfortable (my parents are going through a nasty divorce since August) but eventually I said okay.

Now fast forward to this week. My mother calls me to ask my "due date" so I tell her... and ask why. Her new boyfriend (the man who she left my father for - another sore spot) wants to go visit his kids for their Spring Break in Iowa (we live in WI) and which weekend would be best ... basically asking me which weekend I will NOT go into labor, either the 17th or the 24th because she "has" to go with him...

HOW AM I SUPPOSED TO KNOW??? I mean really... Your new boyfriend, whom I have been VERY nice to although I kind of can't stand him because you CHEATED on my father with him (she denys this though) plans a trip to see his kids and you have to go with? Weeks before my due date when my DS1 was early (about 4 days)

I almost hope I go into labor the weekend they are gone now... /end vent!

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Old 03-03-2012, 03:59 PM   #2
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I would totally feel the same way! I wouldn't give an answer. I would just say "probably the X would work".. and then just say that if she's not there, there's nothing you can do. Leave it up to her to decide which weekend she goes (as much as possible) so that she only has herself to blame in the end. Instead of "Well you told me X weekend was better"... etc. That would totally frustrate me too!! I hate bad situations like that.
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Old 03-03-2012, 04:15 PM   #3
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Re: Maybe I'm being a brat but...

My response was "pick whichever weekend you want" and I just left it at that... I was just frustrated and annoyed!

Her answer was that if I went into labor it's only 6 hours away so I could call her and she could make it... Uhm, okay?!
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Old 03-03-2012, 04:18 PM   #4
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LOL! Yes, because in the middle of labor, you definitely want to be figuring out how to hold the baby in until she gets there. That's dumb. Like you should be worrying about anything while in labor! Yeah, I would just let it go. If you go into labor when she's gone, it's her own fault for leaving. Nothing you can do. I would just not worry, and enjoy the last few weeks. If you feel like calling her when you go into labor, great. If not, oh well! It should be all about you, and what you feel like when the time comes.
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Umm, yeah, I'd be ticked. I'd basically tell her how the heck am I suppose to know and if she "needs" to go with him, then go and if she misses it, oh well. I mean, he can go see his kids; you're about to have another child, her GRANDCHILD! I'd be worried about giving her a date and then if she doesn't make it her saying "well you said...".

I agree that you should relax and enjoy this last little bit of time before the baby.
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Old 03-03-2012, 05:15 PM   #6
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Yeah I would be annoyed too! I would tell her the first weekend though and she won't most likely miss the birth and if she does oh well.
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LOL! Yes, because in the middle of labor, you definitely want to be figuring out how to hold the baby in until she gets there. That's dumb. Like you should be worrying about anything while in labor! Yeah, I would just let it go. If you go into labor when she's gone, it's her own fault for leaving. Nothing you can do. I would just not worry, and enjoy the last few weeks. If you feel like calling her when you go into labor, great. If not, oh well! It should be all about you, and what you feel like when the time comes.
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Yeah I definitely wouldn't try to plan anything around her if it's more important for her to see his family than be there for the birth of her grandchild. My mom is so worried that she won't make it, but she's pretty much willing to miss anything to be there for the birth of this baby!
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Re: Maybe I'm being a brat but...

I have and would just very sarcastically say "okay, just a moment, let me plan, predict and put my child's birth in my calender.. uhh... ok.. yes, this day looks good,.. I'll go into labor on THIS day" roll your eyes at them and they get the hint. LOL
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Old 03-03-2012, 07:17 PM   #10
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Re: Maybe I'm being a brat but...

Yeah I'd be annoyed. I hope it all works out for you guys so that she's happy and you get your baby in a drama-free way.
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