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Old 04-09-2012, 12:32 PM   #41
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Re: I did not want to spend my next pregnancy terrified

I am working with a midwife who specializes in birth trauma. But I have not yet found an actual counselor.

If I do go for vbac I will not be able to use this midwife. But I am still undecided at this point.

I have a birthing midwife coming on the 18th to talk to me, who I woudl be able to hire for the birth if I do go that route.

My biggest issue was them weaning my ibuprofen. I think next time if I have a csection I woudl just bring my own, my midwife even said I could take moreafter I was home then they had me weaned to in the hospital. The drs here are very weird about meds, they started weaning me on day 2 and telling me to wait any time I asked for pain meds or refusing dosing times.

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Old 04-09-2012, 01:38 PM   #42
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Re: I did not want to spend my next pregnancy terrified

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SHe takes vicodin but it is not breastfeeding safe.
Really? They gave me Percocet which is basically the same thing after my C/S and told me it's perfectly fine to breastfeed with it. It minimally passes into breastmilk and the LC told me that the stress of feeling uncomfortable after the C/S can sometimes delay the colostrum or milk. Thus, it's choosing what makes it easier on you, KWIM? I was just offering that as a possibility because I read your other posts and I have had panic attacks so I know how it can be to fear anxiety. Sometimes just the knowledge that something is there, even if you don't take it, can be freeing from the fear.
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Old 04-09-2012, 01:43 PM   #43
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Re: I did not want to spend my next pregnancy terrified

I would happily take it if its safe. I was just scared it was not.
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Re: I did not want to spend my next pregnancy terrified

I had my C/S at a "fancy" hospital where they continually told us during the tours that part of their amenities was being completely up to date with the latest research. I had amazing care there and do trust what they told me about pretty much everything.

It looks like I had Percocets while in the hospital (4 days post C/S) and then took home Norcos (generically - hydrocodone 5/325). I specifically asked about what I was being given and the side effects (I am allergic to some medications so this is standard practice for me) and the LC said that although yes, some of the meds may pass into breastmilk, if I needed it to get through the recovery I should absolutely take what I needed as the psychological effects of feeling in too much pain can really screw with milk production, the body's ability to heal, and bonding with baby. Not saying this to scare you, just that if this is a concern of yours, specifically, and you have the means to potentially maybe just know that your mom has it just in case you are desperate, maybe you won't be scared so much? I think a huge part of anxiety is the whole "what if there isn't a solution to what I feel in the moment" and gathering whatever you need to just know it's there can be a good preventative measure.

Also- I have heard that the second or subsequent C/S's are not as bad pain-wise as the first one. I have only had one though so take that for what it's worth
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I am working with a midwife who specializes in birth trauma. But I have not yet found an actual counselor.

If I do go for vbac I will not be able to use this midwife. But I am still undecided at this point.

I have a birthing midwife coming on the 18th to talk to me, who I woudl be able to hire for the birth if I do go that route.

My biggest issue was them weaning my ibuprofen. I think next time if I have a csection I woudl just bring my own, my midwife even said I could take moreafter I was home then they had me weaned to in the hospital. The drs here are very weird about meds, they started weaning me on day 2 and telling me to wait any time I asked for pain meds or refusing dosing times.
I would absolutely bring some to the hospital if that would ease your mind. I hope your consult with the new midwife goes well, and I bet she could point you in the direction of a good therapist. Mine was able to give me a referral to one that I really connected with. It's a tough decision. Something to think about is not just this birth. What if this experience turns out to be the polar opposite of your first and you want more kids?
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My last one was an emergency as well and horrible. Im having my second in exactly 3 weeks from tomorrow. Im not really scared though....yet. My first I could feel everything she was doing and they had to knock me out I was in so much pain, had bruises on my wrists from pulling at my restraints. Woke up as they were wheeling me out and had some
Horrendous stomach pain then and it took an hour for them to get dr's approval for some pain meds. I hurt so bad I didn't see my son for hours. My sister kept trying to show me pictures and i didn't even care to look. Praying this next one is much more easy and pleasant. I didn't see my son for hours because of that and he never would bf right and I blame the c-sect and pain and not seeing him for that even though I tried my hardest. Ended up pumping for a solid year.
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Hypnobabies include the tapping techniques? I relied heavily on tapping with my hypnobirthing, even during labor. It has been my tool for me to manage my anxiety. If you aren't familiar with it, for me I can feel the anxiety leave my body as I tap on the various points. It doesn't work for everyone but it's something that might help.
Is this like EMDR? I had a traumatic birth experience. I used EMDR (which is listening to tones on alternating sides and holding on to things that vibrate in time w/ the tone) and then discussing the trauma. I KNOW it sounds like total wacko garbage, but the method has been used for 20 years to treat PTSD. I went from a place where I could not move past what had happened to me - every time my mind wondered it went back to the birth and I hadnt bonded w the baby at 8 months to it being like remembering a bad breakup w an old boyfriend. It something that happened that sucked but it made me the person and mama that I am.

I had massive improvement in one session of EMDR even though I had been seeing the therapist for months.

I agree with others that you must get your mind in a positive place before the birth.

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Hypnobabies has wonderful meditation/selfhypnosis tracks which really help minimize stress and anxiety. I warn you that at first it is not relaxing to learn to do it, but it's only weird for about a week. I did it for my first birth and would wake up as if I had slept for a week.
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Really? They gave me Percocet which is basically the same thing after my C/S and told me it's perfectly fine to breastfeed with it. It minimally passes into breastmilk and the LC told me that the stress of feeling uncomfortable after the C/S can sometimes delay the colostrum or milk. Thus, it's choosing what makes it easier on you, KWIM? I was just offering that as a possibility because I read your other posts and I have had panic attacks so I know how it can be to fear anxiety. Sometimes just the knowledge that something is there, even if you don't take it, can be freeing from the fear.
I took Vicodin after my rectal surgery 2 months post partum. My doctor specifically prescribed it over other options because I was breastfeeding. I wouldn't co-sleep with it though.
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I'm sorry for your bad experience with your first birth. I dont have much advice to offer, i live abroad where the "normal" is to have a planned c-section, and i have not found a doctor who would do a normal birth. I did eventually find a midwife who would do a homebirth, but, ultimately, we decided to go back to the US to have the baby, at least this time. I hope you find a doctor who will work with you and be a good doctor.
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