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Old 03-23-2012, 05:22 PM   #1
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Birthday Ettiquette

It is dd's best friends birthday today, she lives across the street. Apparently tomorrow is her family party and she's allowed to bring two friends. She told me that the two friends are my dd and another neighbour girl. Her friend party has yet to be determined but it is rumoured to be next weekend. So my question is do I need to send a present tomorrow if there will be another party next weekend? I feel weird sending dd without a gift especially with this girls family all there but I really don't want to buy two presents. Should I send something small tomorrow and then something better for the other party? I haven't spoken with the other mom at all, we don't talk very often.

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Old 03-23-2012, 05:37 PM   #2
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I would do a neat (but cheap) homemade present for family. Like a "sleepover kit" or home made play dough in a cute bucket with a handmade card or even a movie night kit. I can't see the age on my phone, but I would do something in that general idea. That way you are only spending $5 or so, so she doesn't have to go empty handed, then buy a more appropriate gift for the friend party that your daughter picks out.
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I'd just buy one gift and send it tomorrow. If she's invited to the other party I'd have your daughter make something or just call it "good."
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I'd buy one gift and send it to the family party. IF there does end up being a friend party I'd just send a movie night kit or something to that one.
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Re: Birthday Ettiquette

I don't know if things have changed now, but when I was growing up, Birthday dinner at a friend's house was just that; a special dinner with friends. The parties and presents were at another time. Hth!
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Buy one present and ask the mom Which party she would prefer DD to bring it too. That way the mom knows your only doing one present and questions can be fielded if anyone is a butt and questions why your DD is present-less.
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Buy one present and ask the mom Which party she would prefer DD to bring it too. That way the mom knows your only doing one present and questions can be fielded if anyone is a butt and questions why your DD is present-less.
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Buy one present and ask the mom Which party she would prefer DD to bring it too. That way the mom knows your only doing one present and questions can be fielded if anyone is a butt and questions why your DD is present-less.
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I would buy one present and send it to the friend party. If my dds went to a friend party and was the only one to not bring a gift in front of all the other kids they would be super embaressed.
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