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Old 04-17-2012, 08:03 PM   #1
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I know its selfish, but have you ever asked for a baby shower?

I live in a different state than my family, but DH's family is all here. For my wedding no-one here threw me a shower and I would really like a baby shower here, to celebrate with his family and my friends here. Would it be totally tacky to ask my MIL to throw me a shower?

(just fyi my family is all in PA and I live in LA, so no one will be able to travel for a combined shower)

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Old 04-17-2012, 08:11 PM   #2
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It's a really sucky situation and I hate to say this but in my circle it's tacky and people just don't do that I really hope someone pulls through for you!
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Are you close to your mil? If so then talk to her about it and she may offer.
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Can you get your husband to tactfully ask her if she is planning on throwing you a shower? This way you will not seem like you are being pushy or demanding....kwim?
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Old 04-17-2012, 08:22 PM   #5
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Can you get your husband to tactfully ask her if she is planning on throwing you a shower? This way you will not seem like you are being pushy or demanding....kwim?
yes this is a good idea. It's your first baby, so it shouldn't be a big issue (as i see you are in the south and sometimes traditions are more strict like a 1 shower rule- BUT i also think it's against etiquette for a mother or mil to throw the shower as well)
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Honestly, yes, I think it's tacky to ask someone to throw you a shower. On the other hand, if you really want one, you could organize one yourself. If I did this I personally wouldn't register..I would just get some food, send out invites, and have people over to celebrate the baby They will probably bring gifts anyways, but I'd feel uncomfortable basically asking for them. Just my

ETA: If you're not due until September I would definitely wait and see if someone offers. It still really early. Both my showers weren't until a month before I was due.
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I cannot imagine your MIL NOT throwing a shower, but I am in Cali and few etiquette rules apply. Do you have any friends where you are or siblings in law?
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Honestly, yes, I think it's tacky to ask someone to throw you a shower. On the other hand, if you really want one, you could organize one yourself.
i think that's even more tackyI'm assuming she's on good terms with her MIL if she's considering asking...

however, i agree with the wait and see..if you're not due till sept, i'd expect to see a shower date in august or late july.
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I agree that it might sounds tacky to ask for a shower, but there are ways around that. When I was pregnant with DD (my second), we planned a 'welcome baby' party. It wasn't actually meant to be a shower at all and we weren't really expecting gifts, but of course everyone brought them anyway. We did it when she was about 2-3 weeks old and invited all of our friends and family for a cook-out/cake. It was a lot of fun.
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I live in a different state than my family, but DH's family is all here. For my wedding no-one here threw me a shower and I would really like a baby shower here, to celebrate with his family and my friends here. Would it be totally tacky to ask my MIL to throw me a shower?
Yes, it is tacky to ask for someone to throw a shower. And definitely tacky for a mom or MIL to be the host (It's like, "Hey, give my kid some gifts!"). Perhaps one of your good friends already has something in mind for later in the summer?
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