Weekly chat April 23rd

[andyoly82]

Heather I could have written this myself!!!! My DH is also so wonderful and would never cheat but the thought consumes me. He works with all female nurses. He comes home at night and tells me all the things they needed "help" with during the day. He sees them as incompetent where as I see that they are just using him to have him around. They even cook for him and send food home with him. I get offended because I always make a home cooked meal unless he requests something else. Ugh. I take comfort in the thought thy he comes home to me. He is so attentive to me and my pregnancy and is even reading child birthing books do he can be a huge help to me when I am in labor. Only a man that loves me would do that. I would see your hubbies obliviousness as a good thing. It means he's not looking and turned off to games women play because he's got what he wants at home!! (btw a few months ago I had to put my foot down. He had this nurse who was always whining to him while they worked about her marriage and how horrible her hubby was to her. I told him he had to shut her down. He was trying to win his sympathies so he would be her person etc. it wasn't until I said something that he saw her shanninagans. crazy women!!)

Lynn that is so exciting!!!! I agree with the other posts it will happen if its meant to be!!! Being military we move a lot. It's an adjustment but you'll find a way. Ask you bible study if they know of a great church by where you will be moving. Once you've found that everything else will be easy to find. You could always ask your midwife for a Rec on someone else as well!

Let's see my boys are out of the house ATM. They went to the park. I'm just hanging out folding laundry. My FIL is in town so we will spend some time with him but today is a relaxing day!!

Oh we were approved for a bigger house! The girl who inspected said she couldn't believe that we've lived in this house for two years and that our house was the cleanest she has seen. Yay!!!!!!!! They say the wait is 2-6 months but she said it might be sooner! Here's to moving before the baby comes!!!

[girlichick]

Originally Posted by jemilyon What recipe do u use? Wow! How exciting! Im sure everything will work out, but I understand the little but of worry toy feel. About the young pretty teacher: i think it is a situation u are wise to keep tabs on and to communicate openly about. Not that its going to happen with ur dh, but many wives r naive to the fact that most affairs start in the work place. The school year is almost over so thats a big plus!! I think u shouldnt nag but def keep ur eyes open to the situation. I never thought it would happen to us, but dh did cheat with a fellow manager. BUT he is not a secure man so he fell prey pretty easily to the flattery of another woman. I was Pregnant with dd when i found out very hard situation i hope none of u have to walk through. I think insecure men are more likely to cave.

Thanks! I hope so! Andrea good suggestion to ask my midwife. I love them! It would seriously break my heart! There looks like one birth center where we will be moving.... Not quite like the one here but I guess I can deal. Change always messes me up. There are at least 3 Catholic churches in the area, two with schools, so that is good. I told DH since we will be moving much farther from the beach we will need a house with a pool. since they want him to start so soon, I was thinking maybe we could just rent for a year so that we can figure out what to do with this house. We were in the middle of getting the interest rates lowered so if that goes through we would be able to rent it out. We can rent a 5 bedroom house with a pool for the same price as our 3 bedroom.... Dumb economy.

On the teacher thing: Emily, I'm so sorry you had to go through that!! I think it's normal for women to feel like that especially if your DH is working with women allllll day. Thankfully DH has one co worker and it's a guy! . I think even at the company he would be taking this job with, it's all men and the one secretary is older (50s). But I would be a baby about it too... Especially pregnant.... Especially with the hormones. I would just share your heart with DH and hopefully he will be respectful and understanding. . Kind of the flip situation, there is a stay at home dad in our moms group and DH got a little uncomfortable with him coming over for playmates or carpooling with me when he wasn't home. Mi mean this guy is married with a 2 year old and one on the way (plus I don't think he is cute at all!!). But still I limit contact just to be respectful of DH! Harder to do when it is someone you work with, though. :/

[alliecatn1]

Originally Posted by andyoly82 He was trying to win his sympathies so he would be her person etc.

Love they Grey's terminology... :-D

[andyoly82]

Originally Posted by alliecatn1 Love they Grey's terminology... :-D

I can't help it. I'm Greys obcessed. Omg it's Thursday!! Yes!

[bruenderbaby]

So glad I am not worrying about dh's coworkers. He is an engineer, so he works with all men, except the two office managers who are married with grown children. Also, I am one of the 'lucky' ones whose dh finds me more attractive the bigger my belly gets . . . most days it's great!

AFM: Had a great playdate with some ladies from church. The only bad part was that the women's apartment we went to is really small and she has an 8mo, so it's not really ideal for all of the older children. They ended up watching "Planet Earth" for most of the time. I will definitely be trying to have them to my house more often, since we have a house with a decent yard (for where we are). I get to go to Bunko tonight and next Friday we leave for our trip to MN to see my parents. Looking forward to it.

Hope all you ladies are having a good day.

[jemilyon]

I just have to say that no one ever thinks it will happen to them. You dont marry someone if you think they would ever cheat. And its not about keeping your man satisfied with wht he has at home. It is more a symptom of avoidant behavior, immaturity, naiveté, and lack if constructive problem solving skills.
My dh is in counseling and it really seems to be helping.
But, that said, God us a God of revelation. If anything were to ever happen He will reveal it. (not that anything would happen!) Keep the
Communication open about your insecurities and be smart about guarding your marriage (and yea andy, that was a sure sign when that woman was sharing her marital problems with dh!! Good job getting rid of that situation and thank God he told you about it!) but dint let the paranoia or insecurity become a wedge. Trust God.
K. Im done talking about this

[myall4him2]

Originally Posted by jemilyon I just have to say that no one ever thinks it will happen to them. You dont marry someone if you think they would ever cheat. And its not about keeping your man satisfied with wht he has at home. It is more a symptom of avoidant behavior, immaturity, naiveté, and lack if constructive problem solving skills. My dh is in counseling and it really seems to be helping. But, that said, God us a God of revelation. If anything were to ever happen He will reveal it. (not that anything would happen!) Keep the Communication open about your insecurities and be smart about guarding your marriage (and yea andy, that was a sure sign when that woman was sharing her marital problems with dh!! Good job getting rid of that situation and thank God he told you about it!) but dint let the paranoia or insecurity become a wedge. Trust God. K. Im done talking about this

I'm so sorry you went through that

My dh is very careful about not being alone with women, also not looking at ladies in bikini's, Victoria secret commercials, etc. He turns away b/c he doesn't want to have that distraction. So I know he won't come onto her. I just hope SHE doesn't come on to him. I'm positive if he even notices it that he will leave the situation, but will he actually notice it? lol

His boss is a good christian man, and I was thinking about proposing this idea to dh of having him go to his boss and say "Hey, I'm a married man and work very hard to maintain my integrity as a Christian man. I'm a little uncomfortable with the idea of a young female teacher being in a classroom with me all day. Is there a way that we can get an older teacher, or male teacher to coteach with me? If not, I understand and will work with the situation. I just figured it never hurts to ask"

What do you think?

[myall4him2]

I also wanted to say thank you for all the comments. It's something I've really struggled with the past few days with finding out about the coteacher. I can't say I feel much better about the situation, but it makes me feel good to know I'm not crazy for feeling the way I do!

[NorwexMa]

Originally Posted by jemilyon So nobody else is getting rib kicks yet? What about light headedness? And it seems like if I excerpt energy for any task I get completely wiped out. Today i was deep cleaning our bedroom and got so tired i took a 2 hour nap when dd went down. I wanted to deep clean the bathroom too but man i need a little energy for school tonight!! Im starting to wonder if something is going wrong to suddenly be feeling so crappy. Oh and i made a chiro appntmnt for tues! REALLY looking forward to that.

I get some lightheadedness, it's usually when I get short of breath. I'm also battling some nasty headaches. I keep intending to make a chiro appt, but forgetting or procrastinating. Thanks for the reminder! I'd like to do massage, chiro, and possibly get an eye appt, even tho I had one about 6 mo ago. Sometimes my eyes just hurt, but not sure if it's causing headaches, or a side effect of the headaches. Sometimes my Rx muscle relaxants work, but not always. I try to use them as last resort. I miss my ibuprophen!

Before I even opened my eyes this morning, my first thot was...my body feels so tired it feels like I should be going to bed for the night. It's going to be a long day. Monday- worked, made supper/bars, ate on the way to DD award program, then went to catch the last part of nephew's Kindg grad, and home to bed. Tue- up at 6 and went to Sioux Falls rummages, got home at 10:30P. It was 85 degrees and HOT! I don't know how I'm going to survive this SD summer! Wed- did a weeks worth of laudry + rummage laundry, and bought groceries, and prepared and catered a supper for 20 pple. Seafood stuffed chix breast, baked pot, homemade dinner rolls, grn beans w/ bacon, and banana macroon individual trifles. Got home and folded my 2 couch full's laundry. Today- work, then go home and tackle the mountian of dirty dishes and finish putting laundry away. Tomarrow- work, then bake 12 pies to have at a craft fair 30 min away on Sat. Serve them from 9-2 on Saturday, and then go home and back for a texting and driving speach my cuz is giving that nite. Why does everything happen in the same week? At least I'm feeling good other than the headaches and general tiredness. Done with my ramble!

Dr. appt on Monday tho! Yeah! And I need to set up an appt to meet my doula..

[jemilyon]

Originally Posted by myall4him2 I'm so sorry you went through that My dh is very careful about not being alone with women, also not looking at ladies in bikini's, Victoria secret commercials, etc. He turns away b/c he doesn't want to have that distraction. So I know he won't come onto her. I just hope SHE doesn't come on to him. I'm positive if he even notices it that he will leave the situation, but will he actually notice it? lol His boss is a good christian man, and I was thinking about proposing this idea to dh of having him go to his boss and say "Hey, I'm a married man and work very hard to maintain my integrity as a Christian man. I'm a little uncomfortable with the idea of a young female teacher being in a classroom with me all day. Is there a way that we can get an older teacher, or male teacher to coteach with me? If not, I understand and will work with the situation. I just figured it never hurts to ask" What do you think?

I say, why not?

Originally Posted by NorwexMa I get some lightheadedness, it's usually when I get short of breath. I'm also battling some nasty headaches. I keep intending to make a chiro appt, but forgetting or procrastinating. Thanks for the reminder! I'd like to do massage, chiro, and possibly get an eye appt, even tho I had one about 6 mo ago. Sometimes my eyes just hurt, but not sure if it's causing headaches, or a side effect of the headaches. Sometimes my Rx muscle relaxants work, but not always. I try to use them as last resort. I miss my ibuprophen! Before I even opened my eyes this morning, my first thot was...my body feels so tired it feels like I should be going to bed for the night. It's going to be a long day. Monday- worked, made supper/bars, ate on the way to DD award program, then went to catch the last part of nephew's Kindg grad, and home to bed. Tue- up at 6 and went to Sioux Falls rummages, got home at 10:30P. It was 85 degrees and HOT! I don't know how I'm going to survive this SD summer! Wed- did a weeks worth of laudry + rummage laundry, and bought groceries, and prepared and catered a supper for 20 pple. Seafood stuffed chix breast, baked pot, homemade dinner rolls, grn beans w/ bacon, and banana macroon individual trifles. Got home and folded my 2 couch full's laundry. Today- work, then go home and tackle the mountian of dirty dishes and finish putting laundry away. Tomarrow- work, then bake 12 pies to have at a craft fair 30 min away on Sat. Serve them from 9-2 on Saturday, and then go home and back for a texting and driving speach my cuz is giving that nite. Why does everything happen in the same week? At least I'm feeling good other than the headaches and general tiredness. Done with my ramble! Dr. appt on Monday tho! Yeah! And I need to set up an appt to meet my doula..

HOLY COW WOMAN!!!!!! That is crazy!