Junebugs Chat May 6th-12th!

[scrapandsewon]

Joanna, I also have my adult sister staying with us, no kids, just her and her golden retriever. She has been living with us since August 2010, so, coming up on two years.
When she asked, she said she didn't expect to be here a full year. Whivh wad fine because when she first arrived, it was great, because DH was deployed, and she had every intention of getting a new job and moving out when he got home, if not before. Well, DH returned a year ago this past March. Bless his heart, he said, she doesn't have to run off just because I am home. She can find a job & apartment, etc. Well, I told him about six weeks ago he needed to stop inviting her to put it off. I want my house and family back. I feel really selfish when I say this, but I am tired of feeding her, providing her laundry facilities, shower, housing etc. And while we also have a golden retriever(and two other dogs, so four in the house now), ours does not shed like hers. Ours is likely a mix, we got him from the pound. But hers is pure bred, has skin allergies, and she doesn't brush him as much as my DD brushes ours. So, we can vacuum, and kid you not, three hours later, there is a haze of red/orange fur on the carpets. Yuck! Makes me crazy. She has gotten to a point where she was being really short with my 8 y/o, he is a tough kid to handle, sweet, but has autistic tendencies, not severe, but they are there. He is an entirely different subject. But I have to remind her that one, he is eight, two, he is not nearly as mature as my other kids at this age. My four year old thinks before acting more than he does. And three, he is not as old as his physical abilities. He is as big as, and stronger than my twelve year old son. I can't just be straight with her and tell her to stop being a 'B' to my kids, and that her time is up, time to move out, either on her own or back with our parents because her feelings get hurt easily. I have been dropping hints, like, I'm going to such and such, wanna come fill out applications and look at apartments. Asking how the job/apartment search is going, etc. I have recently pointed out to her that at her age(26), I was married with three kids and was moving, yet again, to the house we live in now, also pointed out to her that DH had been home for over a year. My mom told her a couple weeks ago that if she didn't have a job in a month, they would come help her move back home, because it obviously wasn't going to work out down here. She is a good person, and is willing to do anything we ask. But if we don't ask her to do anything, she just mopes around the house sleeping all day, doing nothing. I used to make the kids try to be quiet while she slept, but that ended a year ago, when she made it a habit to be up til 3-5 am, then sleep til noon, if not three pm. Makes me crazy, I want my house back for me and the kids during the day, and my family in the evenings. She is trying to move to Wilmington, which is almost an hour south of us. She had an interview yesterday and today, and toured an apartment yesterday. So, I don't know. If she takes the apartment, she moves in June 1.

Wow, didn't realize how much I needed to vent about that!!

Just wanted you to know that I commiserate with you. I'm not saying we are in the same boat. Just similar situations.

Big hugs to you!!!

[shortcake2386]

nichole
OMG. so sis leaves for the weekends(thank God) and she came in here and asked me if i would put up a different table(i have one for expos and events) for the kids to do arts and crafts at bc she doesnt want them coloring at "her" table. seriously. ummm no, first of all there is nowhere to put it. second of all its too tall for chairs and standing for the kids so it wouldnt work

[scrapandsewon]

Originally Posted by shortcake2386 nichole OMG. so sis leaves for the weekends(thank God) and she came in here and asked me if i would put up a different table(i have one for expos and events) for the kids to do arts and crafts at bc she doesnt want them coloring at "her" table. seriously. ummm no, first of all there is nowhere to put it. second of all its too tall for chairs and standing for the kids so it wouldnt work

Thanks!

Sounds like your sis is relentless! Just keeps pushing her luck! I know its tough to not just scream "ahhh" at the top of your lungs sometimes!

[scrapandsewon]

oops, double post

[shortcake2386]

yeah i told her to just go. then i had to hang up on mom bc she was like "well, she just doesnt feel appreciated" "she thinks you dont love her and want her out of your house" i was like i do love her AND i want her out of my house. i had to hang up.

[scrapandsewon]

My mom has been the one telling me I am going to have to get onto her. Umm, no. She's 26, and not my child. Found out that she had two interviews today, yay! She is pretty confident about yesterdays interview and the second one today. She said her cold meds hadn't kicked in by the first one, and she walked out saying to herself, who was that in there, I can articulate better than that. And she is thinking the place may be a bit more trendy than she is, or of a different trend that is. We will see! Fingers crossed! I am hoping she stops by to check out a shared rental that caught her eye.

[shortcake2386]

Originally Posted by scrapandsewon My mom has been the one telling me I am going to have to get onto her. Umm, no. She's 26, and not my child. Found out that she had two interviews today, yay! She is pretty confident about yesterdays interview and the second one today. She said her cold meds hadn't kicked in by the first one, and she walked out saying to herself, who was that in there, I can articulate better than that. And she is thinking the place may be a bit more trendy than she is, or of a different trend that is. We will see! Fingers crossed! I am hoping she stops by to check out a shared rental that caught her eye.

lol i'm 26 sis is almost 28. apparently dh has to fill out eviction papers bc she has lived here a year

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Originally Posted by shortcake2386 lol i'm 26 sis is almost 28. apparently dh has to fill out eviction papers bc she has lived here a year

That's how it is in most states. You do what you have to do, JoAnna. Don't let anyone make you feel guilty for it.

Scrap, she'll definitely love the Wilmington area! Or you could find a single Marine to set her up with in Jacksonville, haha! Totally joking but I'm surprised she hasn't. Single, childless women are like a needle in a haystack in that town! I hope she gets a job and moves out, soon.

I can completely understand how for the both of you, you just want your space back and family time alone.

[bluemoonbutterfly]

I am really not liking my OB office today. I was suppose to see the OB but instead had to see the NP. Today I did the GPS so I had to undress from the waist down. The nurse told me right before she left the room that the NP would be in shortly. I waited an hour with my bottoms of for the NP. When she finally got to the room total time she spent with me, 6 minutes. My back has been hurting since from sitting on the exam table so long. I just keep telling myself it is almost over.

[scrapandsewon]

She fell in love with Wilmington years ago! And feels like that's where she belongs at this point in her life.

No Marines for her! She refuses to follow a man around! Says she's not willing to uproot her life/career every few years for someone else, and she knows it, so she doesn't give them a look. She doesn't go out, except to run errands for us or herself. So, for almost two years, her life has revolved mostly around me and my kids. A pretty lonely life for a single young woman. She'll make lots of friends once she is down there and on her own!!