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Old 05-07-2012, 09:15 PM   #1
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Would you do this?

I've been asked to keep two (older) kids this week in the evening for about 5-6 hours. I'll be 37 weeks and the only adult here. I'll have my 21 month old also. If I went into labor I'd have to wait for dh to get home from work and then take all 3 kids somewhere and make it to the birth center which is an hour away.
It's so that she can be with a friend who is having surgery, so I don't want to say no...but I also don't feel super comfortable with the idea. Would you do it?

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Old 05-07-2012, 09:34 PM   #2
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Re: Would you do this?

Tell her its Murphy's Law. You can't say yes because if you do you WILL go into labor.
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Old 05-07-2012, 09:36 PM   #3
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Well I wouldn't personally because that's cutting things close. Would she be able to come get the kids if you went into labor?
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I might do it for one week for a close friend. But at 38 weeks, no. You also may not be feeling up to it, may have Braxton Hicks, may have to go to the hospital...there are too many "what ifs" and honestly unless you really need the money, I think you need to concentrate on spending time with your own baby before the new baby comes...you need rest and time to get things ready.
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Old 05-07-2012, 10:27 PM   #5
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Re: Would you do this?

Not sure if I made it sound like the whole week, but it's just for one evening.
BUT...I just had company this weekend and I was on edge and miserable the whole time worried that I would go into labor. They left today and that would have been the end of anything that I had to be worried about. But now if I keep the kids, I'll have to be nervous until late Thursday night. Also, the younger one is super hyper and doesn't listen. And I do want to be selfish and keep every moment I can for me and dd. I already shared her all weekend and I'm pretty done with that now! lol.
For now, I said to keep me as a last resort. Really hoping they don't need me at all.
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Old 05-07-2012, 10:46 PM   #6
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Re: Would you do this?

when i was preg with my first, my sil who I am not close too asked me to watch her 3 very rowdy and undisciplined boys at my house the week i was due.
i politely told her no.

if you dont feel comfortable with it, you can be nice and decline. let her know why and that it would not be a good situation for the kids either- being shuffled around and not understanding what was going on with you and then all that stress on you while being in labor and having to worry about someone elses kids on top of it all.
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I would talk to your DH about it and say "I don't want to do it. If you tell me no, then I can tell her my DH isn't comfortable with it. So repeat after me... "No. I'm not comfortable with it."

Then you can HONESTLY tell your friend that your DH said that he is not comfortable with the idea because it is too close to your due date and would complicate the exit strategy to get to the birth center.

You've said no, but your friend can't look at you like you're the bad guy, because now it's you respecting your husband's wishes. I don't know about your Hubby, but whenever I don't want to do something, but feel guilty for saying no, my hubby actually tells me "Just tell them that your husband doesn't want you to." Awesome hubby.

Good luck.
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Oh, and PS... no, I wouldn't do it for all of the reasons the other people have already mentioned.
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Not sure if I made it sound like the whole week, but it's just for one evening.
BUT...I just had company this weekend and I was on edge and miserable the whole time worried that I would go into labor. They left today and that would have been the end of anything that I had to be worried about. But now if I keep the kids, I'll have to be nervous until late Thursday night. Also, the younger one is super hyper and doesn't listen. And I do want to be selfish and keep every moment I can for me and dd. I already shared her all weekend and I'm pretty done with that now! lol.
For now, I said to keep me as a last resort. Really hoping they don't need me at all.
You need to retract that ASAP. That gives her an excuse to not really look for an alternative plan! Just say "I spoke with my husband and doesn't want me to do this."

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I would do it, but I've never had contractions before 40 weeks. Were your other births early?
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I would do it, but I've never had contractions before 40 weeks. Were your other births early?
She had said that she was stressed over having company over this weekend and was on edge and irritable the whole time they were there.

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