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Chibirsd · 05-20-2012, 01:33 PM

Last week for mothers day my whole family including my in laws went to church for the babies dedication an then out for lunch. My son is 7 mo so this was my first mothers day. At lunch my son was fussy ( it was nap time and he normally nurses down for a nap ) and hungry so I nursed him at the table, discreetly with no cover. This week we went over to their house to go in the pool and my MIL bought me a nursing cover and gave it to me. I was kind of offended. I said thanks and that I already have one and I don't ever use it. She said she got it free or something so just to keep it "just in case ".

My husband doesn't think she was trying to be offensive and that she probably saw it and thought it was cool.

Anyway. Am I totally wrong here ??

Lindsey - RN wishing to be a SAHM. mom to the cutest DS born 10/3/11.

adavieau · 05-20-2012, 01:40 PM

I guess it would depend on the relationship you have with your mother in law. I know if mine did that she would have just been trying to be nice or helpful and probably thought it would be something I'd like. (I don't use them either). I think either way its not worth getting into, I'd just thank her and either stick it in a closet or give it to a friend or something.

expaik · 05-20-2012, 01:46 PM

I would be grateful, not offended.

MDever · 05-20-2012, 01:52 PM

Really does depend on your MIL. If my MIL did that it would NOT have been a generous kind gesture. Either way try not to let it bother you too much. You know you are doing the best possible thing for your LO and if they are uncomfortable then they should not look.

PS: Please buy some funny advocacy tees for your LO right away. Like the ones that say "put a blanket over your head" and "boob man" or INip "nurse in public

JeDeeLenae · 05-20-2012, 01:53 PM

I wouldn't be offended. She may have gotten it thinking you had forgotten yours and wanted you to have a back up. Not worth getting into it, IMO.

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Amanda L · 05-20-2012, 01:59 PM

I would see the gift of a nursing cover as showing support for your breastfeeding relationship . . . I wouldn't be offended.

Sweet_Fantasy_Fox · 05-20-2012, 02:00 PM

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Originally Posted by expaik

I would be grateful, not offended.

I would love if mine got me one

joyous · 05-20-2012, 02:14 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Amanda L

I would see the gift of a nursing cover as showing support for your breastfeeding relationship . . . I wouldn't be offended.

I agree with this. It sounds like she was trying to be thoughtful.

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emmasmom02 · 05-20-2012, 02:17 PM

Hopefully she thought that you just did not have one and was trying to be nice by getting you one. And if not, well at least she did not make a big deal out of it verbally!!!

englishteacha · 05-20-2012, 02:18 PM

I wouldn't be offended. She probably thought it was something that you'd find handy, thinking, "Lindsey had to nurse at the table on Mother's Day. Wouldn't something like this be useful??" That's how my mom would be.

05-20-2012, 01:33 PM	#1
Chibirsd Registered Users Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: FL Posts: 932 Ratings: 59 Feedback: 100%	Would you be offended ? Last week for mothers day my whole family including my in laws went to church for the babies dedication an then out for lunch. My son is 7 mo so this was my first mothers day. At lunch my son was fussy ( it was nap time and he normally nurses down for a nap ) and hungry so I nursed him at the table, discreetly with no cover. This week we went over to their house to go in the pool and my MIL bought me a nursing cover and gave it to me. I was kind of offended. I said thanks and that I already have one and I don't ever use it. She said she got it free or something so just to keep it "just in case ". My husband doesn't think she was trying to be offensive and that she probably saw it and thought it was cool. Anyway. Am I totally wrong here ?? Lindsey - RN wishing to be a SAHM. mom to the cutest DS born 10/3/11.

05-20-2012, 01:40 PM	#2
adavieau Registered Users Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Massachusetts Posts: 1,011 Ratings: 26 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Would you be offended ? I guess it would depend on the relationship you have with your mother in law. I know if mine did that she would have just been trying to be nice or helpful and probably thought it would be something I'd like. (I don't use them either). I think either way its not worth getting into, I'd just thank her and either stick it in a closet or give it to a friend or something.

05-20-2012, 01:46 PM	#3
expaik Registered Users Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 3,558 Ratings: 286 Feedback: 100%	Re: Would you be offended ? I would be grateful, not offended. __________________ Ellen, part-time freelancing SAHM to Diane('06), Ryan('08), Darren('10); wife to the best man in the world, Jake. ISO baby carriers, Verizon, and more! Trade with me - I have TONS of stuff: http://www.diaperswappers.com/forum/...8#post16276368

05-20-2012, 01:52 PM	#4
MDever Registered Users Join Date: Apr 2011 Posts: 5,301 Ratings: 33 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Would you be offended ? Really does depend on your MIL. If my MIL did that it would NOT have been a generous kind gesture. Either way try not to let it bother you too much. You know you are doing the best possible thing for your LO and if they are uncomfortable then they should not look. PS: Please buy some funny advocacy tees for your LO right away. Like the ones that say "put a blanket over your head" and "boob man" or INip "nurse in public __________________ Melony-Wife to my AMAZING DH Roger and SAHM to our tribe. DD1 Emmaleigh 1/02,DS1 Avery 8/03,DD2 Ainsley 9/05, Bonus T 8/06 & DD3 Poppy 12/10, DS2 Fionnlagh 2/13 we are a crunchy, CDing, EBF, bed sharing, babywearing, intact, very cautious/delay vaxing, ERF, homeschooling FAMILY.

05-20-2012, 01:53 PM	#5
JeDeeLenae Registered Users Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: SW Michigan Posts: 21,911 Ratings: 120 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	I wouldn't be offended. She may have gotten it thinking you had forgotten yours and wanted you to have a back up. Not worth getting into it, IMO. Sent from my SGH-T959V using DS Forum __________________ ~Cassie~ Single Mom to Jordan 9/04 and Jaxon 6/06 and Kelli 10/08 and 1/11 and Jevin 12/11 Check out my gallery! PM me for YYMN and trades.